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suzannelturner    10

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I've lost 35 pounds since I had surgery on August 9th. I was very happy with my weight loss until I talked with a close friend who also had lapband done a few years ago. When she asked how much I had lost I said 35 lbs and she said oh ok, that's ok, someone else I know isn't really losing weight either... Now I feel like a failure... So is 35 lbs in 3 and a half months not a good weight loss? I just want to cry...

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Maddysgram    6,159

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Norm is 1-2 lbs per wk, you're right on schedule!! Congratulations!

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chelly_pea    5

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I think your supposed to loose 1-2lbs a week, the more you weigh though initially the more you lose , weight loss will steady it's self out. Don't be disheartened, your on the road to success and already you weigh 35lbs less! I'd say that was a result! :-) x

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☠carolinagirl☠    18,722

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I've lost 35 pounds since I had surgery on August 9th. I was very happy with my weight loss until I talked with a close friend who also had lapband done a few years ago. When she asked how much I had lost I said 35 lbs and she said oh ok, that's ok, someone else I know isn't really losing weight either... Now I feel like a failure... So is 35 lbs in 3 and a half months not a good weight loss? I just want to cry...

i think its super fantastic

so be happy for yourself. i sure am proud of you

nothing like people saying things to ruin our day

head up

chin up

shoulders back

high heels on...you got this :)

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honk    780

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As previously noted 1 to 2 pounds a week is what most doctors expect. Someone's start weight is also going to affect how quickly they lose. I have lost 100 pounds pre op so I've been a slower for loser. It also took me 6 months to get restrictions. Overall I average half pound a week or less at this point. Another thing to consider is activity level. Often people who do a lot of exercising lose faster. Even though I exercise 1 to 2 hours a day 7 days a week I'm still a slow loser.

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PattyGirl66    1,243

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I've lost 35 pounds since I had surgery on August 9th. I was very happy with my weight loss until I talked with a close friend who also had lapband done a few years ago. When she asked how much I had lost I said 35 lbs and she said oh ok, that's ok, someone else I know isn't really losing weight either... Now I feel like a failure... So is 35 lbs in 3 and a half months not a good weight loss? I just want to cry...

Hi Suzanne, your weight loss is right on target! Excellent job! OMG, the things people say when they have absolutely NO clue to what they are talking about! MY goodness, -35 lbs is a lot of friggin' sticks of butter hon! ((hugs))

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4sweeties    63

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I think 35 pounds is a lot!!!! That's the weight of my son and he is heavy to carry around.

I also heard about 1-2 pounds per week. You are doing that.

I'm sure you feel better than you did 35 pounds ago?

Next time say, did you express this negativity to her also?

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this sucks    557

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I wish that people had a "mute"button that I could use when they say stupid things! 35 pounds is great, no matter what your acquaintance says!

Be proud of yourself because you know- you can lose weight, but you can't lose stupidity!

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2muchfun    8,928

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I think your friend is lousy with math. Pay no attention to mathematically impaired people.

tmf

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sarawray    44

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I also had my surgery on Aug 9. To this day I have lost about 30 lbs. It makes me feel better to see everyone say that is about right. Yay!!!!.

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line-dancer    810

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I got my lapband on aug 20 and have loss 35 lbs so tell that person to go eat cake...your just fine and don't tell her again keep her guessing.

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LadyLeigh2012    76

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I had heard 1-2 pounds a week is expected and/or about 10 pounds per month … so either way you are right on target! :D

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suzannelturner    10

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Gosh! I love this website!! You guys have made me feel so much better!!!!! Thank you all so much!!! :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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