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Nov.8th is my day along with Hianal hernia repair, but Im starting to get a little worried. Someone please help! Is this normal to have second thoughts or is something trying to tell me don't do it.

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Yes! I had second thoughts as well. I thought I had lost weight on the pre op why can't I just keep it up on my own. But reality is I always gain it back and I wanted to stop this cycle and get healthy for good. I think when you have an elective procedure you do think twice...do I really need this?

It's not an easy road, but each day gets better and being 40+ lbs thinner has been great. I am off all my medications.

You will do great!

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Oh I had a hiatal hernia repair as well.

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Thank you Wtloss!

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It is an emotional roller coaster prior to surgery due to the unknown. I too was frightened and had second thoughts.....now .....greatest decision ever...... would do it all again in a heartbeat!

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Thank you Starting over!

I know I need this but you're right, it is about the unknown. I will have to just trust God, and leave it in his hands. :-)

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Second, third, fourth...if you weren't questioning it just a little bit, I'd be concerned! I almost bailed the day before surgery. It's a lifestyle change, and change is scary.

But let me tell you, the reward is so, so completely worth it! I'm down over 55 lbs and feel fantastic (about 6 months post-op). I also had a hiatial hernia repair, and that alone helped with my acid reflux issue I was having.

My surgery was life-changing but in a very good way. If you're having serious doubts, just make a list of the pros and cons. Sometimes seeing it all laid out helps.

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Yep, its normal :)

I had a hiatal hernia repaired as well and I have never felt better. No more heartburn!

I also had second thoughts right up until the surgeon came to talk to me 5 minutes before my surgery. He assured me everything would be fine - and it was!

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jen-1381 and timeformyself, you all have eased my mind, and I'm feeling pretty good about the whole thing today. Thanks for all the support! I needed it.

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Nov.8th is my day along with Hianal hernia repair, but Im starting to get a little worried. Someone please help! Is this normal to have second thoughts or is something trying to tell me don't do it.

well, they fixed a hernia i didnt even know i had during my surgery..sure i was nervous....because no matter what anyone here or anyone else says, until you do it and go through it, you have no idea what its like.

that being said..worried about what? is your dr operating in the back of a shed? does he resemble mr magoo?? if so, then yeah, id be worried too.

please relax (yeah i know easier said then done) but you can do this.

if you dont want to do it, then dont

if you dont, unless you change your eating 100% you will stay where you are at or get bigger (that was me)..

so get your head on straight

do what you have to do to make yourself well

follow your dr's orders as they are there for a reason

(if you cheat the banded b's will come for you HAHA)

i am so proud of you :)

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Carolinagirl, I guess the reason I'm worried is that this is a major surgery, I know it's safer then the alternative but this is the first time I have had any kind of major surgery. I guess I'm just worried about if things went wrong for my family and kids.

I know I need this! and you're right I do have a good surgeon he's the best in the southeast for I researched him long before I even started this journey. Thanks again for being tough with me and getting my head straight. ALL you guys are awesome!!

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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