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Ate like crap yesterday! I don't have any Fluid in my band yet and I took full advantage yesterday. Today is a new day, but why did I do that!? Grrrrrr!

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It happens. Just keep moving forward. We all make poor choices now and then and it is ok. Just don't do it every day!

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I know the feeling.. I was banded on 8/1 I have been really struggling for the last 2 weeks. I feel like I didn't even have any surgery done. I go for my first fill tomorrow. I am hoping that I will have some restriction then so I can really begin this journey. Good luck!

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Unfortunately very few people feel restriction with their first fill. Most doctors do very gradual fills, because there is swelling and irritation around the band when it's filled, hence the liquid and mushy stages after fills. The worst thing a doctor can do is put in too much at one time and then you end up where you can't eat or drink and have to have a large unfill and start the gradual fill process all over again. Everyone's process is individual, but it took me three fills to reach any kind of noticeable restriction and the fourth fill until I was in the "green zone"!

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Ate like crap yesterday! I don't have any Fluid in my band yet and I took full advantage yesterday. Today is a new day' date=' but why did I do that!? Grrrrrr![/quote']

Only you can answer your question. If you don't already have one, start an emotions and food journey. Write out what you ate, felt and what was going yesterday. There is often a trigger that occurs when we do this. I found that eating during family functions is a trigger for me. I am self conscious when I'm only half done with my meal and everyone else is finished. I then don't finish my meal and start snacking on junk.

Put the day behind you as a learning experience. Like you said today is a new day. We all have bumps in the road. You will do great. :-)

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Only you can answer your question. If you don't already have one' date=' start an emotions and food journey. Write out what you ate, felt and what was going yesterday. There is often a trigger that occurs when we do this. I found that eating during family functions is a trigger for me. I am self conscious when I'm only half done with my meal and everyone else is finished. I then don't finish my meal and start snacking on junk.

Put the day behind you as a learning experience. Like you said today is a new day. We all have bumps in the road. You will do great. :-)[/quote']

Nutritionist told me to do this same thing.

Journal why you ate, what you ate and how it made you feel. Not only good for emotional eating, but if a certain food now makes you feel gassy or nauseous you will be able to identify what food that was and be able to avoid it.

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Only you can answer your question. If you don't already have one' date=' start an emotions and food journey. Write out what you ate, felt and what was going yesterday. There is often a trigger that occurs when we do this. I found that eating during family functions is a trigger for me. I am self conscious when I'm only half done with my meal and everyone else is finished. I then don't finish my meal and start snacking on junk.

Put the day behind you as a learning experience. Like you said today is a new day. We all have bumps in the road. You will do great. :-)[/quote']

Nutritionist told me to do this same thing.

Journal why you ate, what you ate and how it made you feel. Not only good for emotional eating, but if a certain food now makes you feel gassy or nauseous you will be able to identify what food that was and be able to avoid it.

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Stupid phone!!!!!!!!rrrrrrrrrrr

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Ate like crap yesterday! I don't have any Fluid in my band yet and I took full advantage yesterday. Today is a new day, but why did I do that!? Grrrrrr!

You are still in the process of adjusting to a new lifestyle...and actually it's just about impossible to be 100% diet compliant every day. The most important step you have taken is your awareness that you did not comply with what you know you are supposed to do, and seem willing to make the effort to correct yourself and get back "on track". I was without a fill for 14 weeks post op, and it's essential that you develop some coping skills to facilitate your diet compliance. Restriction in your band will not help you make better food choices, so having the coping skills in place will be part of your success with weight loss.

It's essential that we understand our unique "triggers" to what makes us lower our defenses and will power to allow for cheating on our diets. Then if we are confronted with that situation again, have a different set of coping skills to substitute for poor food choices.

I have come to realize that stress causes me to want to cheat on my diet...so I use distraction to focus on other things than eating. I have even gone to the mall at times to look at smaller sizes and it has helped my mood to look at what I have to look forward to when I'm at my goal weight.

Tomorrow does come with a "reset" button...just try not to use it too often.

Best wishes for your success...

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I'm so thankful for your post and all the responses. I was on vacation the last 5 days and wasn't always a good girl with my food choices. I know what I need to do and tomorrow is a new day. I just needed to see I am not alone. It was a huge family vacation and my family are huge eaters. At times it was super easy but there were those times it was super hard. I'm just glad we all don't live together!!! Thanks again for your post and all the wonderful responses!! :)

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Roxy, we've got this thing! Right?! Every day is a struggle, but you are definitely not alone. I also really appreciate all the responses.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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