Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!
$99 Yearly Supply Alert! 🎉 "1 per Day!" Bariatric Multivitamins

Am I A Liar?

RhiRhi

Recommended Posts

Chastndeb    19

Chastndeb
Posted

I think whether or not we talk about lapband surgery is a personal choice, period. I had my surgery on Feb 28, and have lost

58 lbs. I still need to lose another 50 pounds to get where I want to be. It is a process, and I go to the gym 4-5 times a week,

Watch what I eat and take my Vitamins. I share with people who are close to me, but I take pride in what I have accomplished so far. I do think WLS has a bad connotation for some...and I am sensitive to that.

Harrier's Woman reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

ebonymc    52

ebonymc
Posted

I vowed not to tell everyone but the ones I told are the ones that I wish I hadn't told.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

ladymarshall    61

ladymarshall
Posted

I've had the surgery Feb 2012 and was recently asked by someone at work what did I do. I lied!! You have to know who to tell and whom not to tell bottom line!!!!

So when you had your surgery what did you tell your job when you took off? That's what I'm having issues with finding a way to tell my boss. I think I'm having the hernia repair so I was going to tell my boss I'm having a hernia repair, but then I'm having my surgery in another state so when I return with my doctors excuse they may wonder and ask why did I have to go to another state to having my surgery. I don't want anyone judging me. I'm only trying to lose about 60-65 lbs and a lot of people will try to say I'm a cope out I could have lost that on my own. So that is why I'm choosing not to tell anybody. I don't feel like having to explain myself to anybody

Sent from my iPad using LapBandTalk

wallflower reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

ladymarshall    61

ladymarshall
Posted

I have major heartburn problems and so I said I was going to get a hatial hernia repair ... It wasn't a lie. They don't need to know the rest!

How long where you out with your hernia repair?

Sent from my iPad using LapBandTalk

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

wallflower    188

wallflower
Posted

Lady Marshall, not that it's any of their damn business, but if they ask why another state, just say u researched around and that's who u felt most comfortable with doing ur surgery. Honestly, with HIPPA ur boss shouldn't ask u anything personal about ur health, and they damn sure are not allowed to spread it around what u had done. If they do, sue. Then you'll be skinny AND rich :)

Personally I just told my bosses what I was having done. Figured they'd find out anyway

ValAnn, RhiRhi and Maddysgram reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

ladymarshall    61

ladymarshall
Posted

Lady Marshall' date=' not that it's any of their damn business, but if they ask why another state, just say u researched around and that's who u felt most comfortable with doing ur surgery. Honestly, with HIPPA ur boss shouldn't ask u anything personal about ur health, and they damn sure are not allowed to spread it around what u had done. If they do, sue. Then you'll be skinny AND rich :)

Personally I just told my bosses what I was having done. Figured they'd find out anyway[/quote']

Too funny skinny and rich.... My boss is really nice, and we have a wonderful relationship, but I don't feel comfortable with telling her because she loves to talk. But thanks for your reply!

Sent from my iPad using LapBandTalk

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Darkangel321    61

Darkangel321
Posted

So when you had your surgery what did you tell your job when you took off? That's what I'm having issues with finding a way to tell my boss. I think I'm having the hernia repair so I was going to tell my boss I'm having a hernia repair' date=' but then I'm having my surgery in another state so when I return with my doctors excuse they may wonder and ask why did I have to go to another state to having my surgery. I don't want anyone judging me. I'm only trying to lose about 60-65 lbs and a lot of people will try to say I'm a cope out I could have lost that on my own. So that is why I'm choosing not to tell anybody. I don't feel like having to explain myself to anybody

Sent from my iPad using LapBandTalk[/quote']

Ladymarshall I understand about the noseyness and the google thing. There is something called FMLA. Employers are not allowed to ask you personal medical questions. To avoid the problems you are concerned about my advice is do your paperwork with your PCP. I assume they are local. Explain your concern and they should not have a problem with your excuse notes. Have copies of everything from your surgeon and hosp records forwarded to them, as you should. Also explain this concern to your surgeon. This is really an easy thing to avoid. FMLA paperwork does not require the type of surgery you had be written. Just a physician stating you had a MEDICALLY NECESSARY PROCEDURE which requires you to be out of work for a specified amount of time and what, if any, restrictions you have when you return to work.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

ladymarshall    61

ladymarshall
Posted

Thanks so much for that idea that is exactly what I am going to do. You have no ide how much this was bothering me, because I didn't want anyone asking questions about why I had to travel out of state to have surgery. Thanks a bunch!!!! This is what I will do

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Darkangel321    61

Darkangel321
Posted

Okay now that I have lost over 50 pounds lots of people are starting to ask me how I have lost so much weight. I never planned on telling people I had lap band so I will tell them I eat less and run 3 to 4 miles every other day. Then they will say what else did you do or did you do somthing to get kick started? Ummmmm.........well I started off doing the couch to 5k and worked my way up to running as much as I do now and I did a liquid diet for about 10 days. Then I always just want to say oh and I had lapband. So am I lying by not telling that part?

I agree with most of these posts. First and foremost, IT IS YOUR CHOICE WHEN AND IF YOU TELL! What you have said up to this point is the truth. Bottom line is you do what you need to do to succeed in this journey. Get support where you think you can. Avoid negativity when you can. Control what you can when you can. Good, bad, or indifferent, someone will always judge you and if you can control what and when you are judged then that's great. Congrats on your 50lbs. Cant wait til I hit that mark! And i'm not telling either! ;-)

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Darkangel321    61

Darkangel321
Posted

Okay now that I have lost over 50 pounds lots of people are starting to ask me how I have lost so much weight. I never planned on telling people I had lap band so I will tell them I eat less and run 3 to 4 miles every other day. Then they will say what else did you do or did you do somthing to get kick started? Ummmmm.........well I started off doing the couch to 5k and worked my way up to running as much as I do now and I did a liquid diet for about 10 days. Then I always just want to say oh and I had lapband. So am I lying by not telling that part?

I agree with most of these posts. First and foremost, IT IS YOUR CHOICE WHEN AND IF YOU TELL! What you have said up to this point is the truth. Bottom line is you do what you need to do to succeed in this journey. Get support where you think you can. Avoid negativity when you can. Control what you can when you can. Good, bad, or indifferent, someone will always judge you and if you can control what and when you are judged then that's great. Congrats on your 50lbs. Cant wait til I hit that mark! And i'm not telling either! ;-)

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Darkangel321    61

Darkangel321
Posted

Okay now that I have lost over 50 pounds lots of people are starting to ask me how I have lost so much weight. I never planned on telling people I had lap band so I will tell them I eat less and run 3 to 4 miles every other day. Then they will say what else did you do or did you do somthing to get kick started? Ummmmm.........well I started off doing the couch to 5k and worked my way up to running as much as I do now and I did a liquid diet for about 10 days. Then I always just want to say oh and I had lapband. So am I lying by not telling that part?

I agree with most of these posts. First and foremost, IT IS YOUR CHOICE WHEN AND IF YOU TELL! What you have said up to this point is the truth. Bottom line is you do what you need to do to succeed in this journey. Get support where you think you can. Avoid negativity when you can. Control what you can when you can. Good, bad, or indifferent, someone will always judge you and if you can control what and when you are judged then that's great. Congrats on your 50lbs. Cant wait til I hit that mark! And i'm not telling either! ;-)

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

RhiRhi    12

RhiRhi
Posted

I love my lapband and I know I could not have lost as much as I have without it. I have had to work hard for it also and I am trying it do it as healthy as I can. If I feel I could help sombody with there own weightloss then I think I will keep the LB to my self. But if I feel someone could benefit from it I will be happy to share. Thanks All!

Darkangel321 reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Darkangel321    61

Darkangel321
Posted

I love my lapband and I know I could not have lost as much as I have without it. I have had to work hard for it also and I am trying it do it as healthy as I can. If I feel I could help sombody with there own weightloss then I think I will keep the LB to my self. But if I feel someone could benefit from it I will be happy to share. Thanks All!

I think that is the right attitude to have...which is your choice. Sharing your experience with someone you feel can benefit is a positive experience. Because of those moments, and your hard work you will succeed!

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

kerrbear72    55

kerrbear72
Posted

Look at it this way. A person that has lost a leg do they have a slight limp cause their leg hurts or sprang an ankle. NO they have a fake leg due to losing a leg. Well I'm losing weight cause I got the lap band. To me being over weight is more shameful than losing weight do to a tool inserted in my body to help me lose weight and be healthy BE PROUD BE HEALTHY BE YOURSELF

♕ajtexas♕, Darkangel321 and ☠carolinagirl☠ reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Go To Topic Listing Weight Loss Surgery Success Stories

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • vsg.with.sharon

      vsg.with.sharon

      Hey everyone!
      I’m new here! Looking for some friends! 🥰
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

        Selina333

        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

        Doughgurl

        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

      LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    Bariatric Forums

    For Patients

    Health Professionals

    Search Surgeons

    Bariatric Surgeons: Want to research a weight loss surgery surgeon? Enter their last name below to start!

    ×