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yanettchaoo

By yanettchaoo, in The Guys’ Room

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yanettchaoo    0

yanettchaoo
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Well my curiosity obviously wondered off to these men fourms. Okay well guys are always supposed to be the ones that always want sex correct? ... well that's not my case :( I always have to start of the sexual interaction I have to nthrope one that starts kissing and etc... my husband does nothing. I even put on sexy out fits and heels and do my hair and cook a meal for my husband so when he gets home from work he gets turned on and what not and all I get is a babe you look nice. I dontthink its my physical.... I'm 19 I don't want to sound cocky because I'm not at all but when I go anywhere people are always staring at me and blowing me kisses I have a veryy nice curvy body and I'm tall and I have nice hair and a cute face I don't know. What is up with guys ... help?

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xsentrick    194

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Well I guess that depends on a few things. How old is your husband? Has he always been this way? Perhaps he suffers from low testosterone or just has a low sex drive. It's rare for young men, but possible. Does her work a physically or mentally demanding job. I speak from experience when I say that sex drive can fluctuate based on work stress. My previous job was so stressful I never initiated sex...I was too tense and worried. Now that I have my current job and been here almost 10 years...I have a very high sex drive and its getting even higher as I lose weight. IS your husband overweight? That can also be a factor. I know its hard not to take it personally, but before you do I would look into these factors. I'm sure there are other things I'm not thinking of, but hopefully some one else can chime in. Feel free to ask me any questions. I'll be glad to help out.

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Cooper123    93

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Hi Yannet,

Xsentric is right on the money. Also, I assume because of your age that you haven't been married for too long, how was he (sexually) before getting married?

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yanettchaoo    0

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Well I'm 19 and he's 23... he has a good job good hours he sleeps plentyand he weights around 170. He looks fit. And healthy. It might be his job that is stress full but any tips on how I can help him?

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yanettchaoo    0

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It was amazing,.. IV been married for almost 2years and he was my first everything i don't know a lot of Guy opinions to help him.

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xsentrick    194

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I would suggest talking to him first. Let him know how you feel. Find out if maybe there is something that bothers him or that has him preoccupied. If there is, then just ask him what you can do to help him. Most men won't ask for help so you'll have to let him know how much you love him and that you only want to make him happy. Hopefully, he'll open up to you. If it is a low sex drive or testosterone then maybe he would be willing to go see a Dr. They can help with that.

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yanettchaoo    0

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I have tried he just says he's tired. But ill try more <3 thank youu

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xsentrick    194

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I have tried he just says he's tired. But ill try more <3 thank youu

That sounds just like me 11 years ago. You're welcome. Let me know if I can do anything else to help out.

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TexasJeff    179

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Go to a nudist camp and let it all hang out for a weekend of R&R.

It's worth a try,

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