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Well like the topic says, just a little..... well a lot curious as to when it's safe to be intimate

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I started 5days post op and I felt fine. Some doctors have their time frame and some don't. It's really up to you(in my opinion) and how you are feeling. Just take it easy. If your body isn't feeling it, it'll let you know.

Good Luck :)

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5 days lalaj? You're amazing. 5 days post op I was still wishing I was dead ;). As to op, I did ask about that my dr. said whenever I felt comfortable. You could ask yours?

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That sounds good to me..... thanks

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5 days lalaj? You're amazing. 5 days post op I was still wishing I was dead ;). As to op' date=' I did ask about that my dr. said whenever I felt comfortable. You could ask yours?[/quote']

Today is my 5th day banded and I definitely know what you mean with the pain. My 1st 3 days were absolutely HORRIBLE! I'm not sure if everyone here is bluffing tryna see who can play the toughest but it's time to get real about that post op pain.

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My dr said when you feel like it then you are fine. Your body will tell you what you can do and what hurts. I think it was 2 weeks for me. Have fun.

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Today is my 5th day banded and I definitely know what you mean with the pain. My 1st 3 days were absolutely HORRIBLE! I'm not sure if everyone here is bluffing tryna see who can play the toughest but it's time to get real about that post op pain.

Actually I'm finding that people really do have a variety of how it can go - after the first few days when I really kept thinking what the jack did I do it got a lot better, even the pain. I'd say by day 5 I was at least off the pain meds. I felt mostly normal within a few weeks - but I have a friend here who is suffering WAY more than I did and it made me realize how much it can vary... I agree with get real though - we need to ALL be talking about it so that those who have a different experience can feel "normal" even if theirs isn't the same.

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5 days lalaj? You're amazing. 5 days post op I was still wishing I was dead ;). As to op' date=' I did ask about that my dr. said whenever I felt comfortable. You could ask yours?[/quote']

He did all the work, I take no credit. I was off my pain Meds by day 3. My Biggest discomfort was the gas pains and I walked a lot. Day 3 I went grocery shopping, but I had help, there's no way I could've done it alone. The first two days were the worst to me. By day 7 I was going through the "oh my goodness, what have I done to myself" emotions.

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My doc also said whenever I felt like I was ready then I should be fine. I think we had sex the first time about a week out... maybe 10 days, something like that.

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I have to say close to 2 weeks. Maybe a few days earlier but I remember being very aware and being tender on the scars but it was good. lol

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Yeah that's my main concern the tenderness with the incisions but the glue stuff they put on them came off this morning and they actually feeling pretty good.

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I'm glad someone else asked because I was wondering the exact same thing. LOL

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Today is my 5th day banded and I definitely know what you mean with the pain. My 1st 3 days were absolutely HORRIBLE! I'm not sure if everyone here is bluffing tryna see who can play the toughest but it's time to get real about that post op pain.

I was off my pain meds by day 2. Surgery day didn't count since I would expect ANYONE to be on the pain meds for that. Next day, I was on the pain meds again to help a bit. Saturday, didn't take any at all. No pain.

I do have a high pain tolerance though. so take what you want from that... :P The day of surgery when I woke up though... I swear I thought someone had been practicing boxing on my insides. That hurt! And a 2-3 hours ride home from the clinic in 5:00 traffic... I don't wish that on anyone.

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2 weeks worked for me.....and it was the longest freakin two weeks ever! :D

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