Hi everyone,

I am a little bit panicky because my surgery is on this Thursday!

My problem is my DH can only take one day off work. I have to stay overnight and so I was wondering if it would be best to have him with me on the day of surgery or the day after to take me home and take care of me?

My parents can come in and pick me up the day after if needed but they are quite old and drive a very...um...rough truck.... and I live more than 1 hour from the hospital.....

Has anyone gone through the day of surgery alone? Was it ok?

I would really appreciate any advice from you guys!

Thanks

if you are staying the night i recommend he take off the next day to take you home. You will want someone there. At the hospital you have the staff to take care of you. He can alway come see you when he gets off work the day of surgery.

Hi everyone,

I am a little bit panicky because my surgery is on this Thursday!

My problem is my DH can only take one day off work. I have to stay overnight and so I was wondering if it would be best to have him with me on the day of surgery or the day after to take me home and take care of me?

My parents can come in and pick me up the day after if needed but they are quite old and drive a very...um...rough truck.... and I live more than 1 hour from the hospital.....

Has anyone gone through the day of surgery alone? Was it ok?

I would really appreciate any advice from you guys!

Thanks

well, can you have your parents take you and then hub can take you home and spend time with you taking care of you? i had to stay overnight also and i sure was glad he was there the day i went home.

all the best.

Well.... you will need to be driven home, but you should be fine at home alone. It's nice to have someone with you surgery day just cuz you know they are there, but after I was out of surgery, i slept the entire day. I would not have known if anyone was there or not, actually... I told everyone just to go home.

I guess if you don't mind the waiting by yourself prior to surgery then I would vote for the day after. Either way would work... what ever you would be more comfortable with.

Good Luck on Your Big Day!

I concur! The day after would be better.

Thanks everyone! I was thinking day after so it's nice to be reassured.

He would be able to come up and visit in the evening after work - thanks for reminding me - I think my brain is overloaded!

I am sticking tight to the Optifast diet. It was hard at first but I hope it helps on the day

I agree with the others, at the hospital the nurses will take care of you. You'll want him home that first day you're there.

Day after would be my choice. I hated having company the day of the surgery. I just wanted to deal and sleep. It does depend on you. I don't like having people around when I'm sick...how about you? That should answer your question.

I agree, the day after. I went home the same day and slept most of it - but when I was awake, I was sure glad not to be alone.

Ultimately, your husband will do whichever you choose - but ask him which HE would prefer. My husband was a nervous wreck the whole 30min I was actually in surgery. Our pastor came to the hospital and sat with him so he wasn't alone - but I know it would have been worse if he'd had to be at work while I was under anesthesia...

I agree!! I am no longer married and the Hosp said they would not let me go home without a ride!! So I had to call a friend to pick me up although my pickup was at the Hosp! He came later the next day so I could get my pickup! I really didn't need anybody at home as I was drinking liquid pain killers that first day at home and was sleeping most of the time anyway!!

I would say if you have to choose one then go for having him the next day.

However could he take off a half day the day you do surgery, go into work then see you that night? Then the next day depends on when you are going to get out of hospital could he go into work in the morning then come bail you out and be home the balance of the day with you?

They usually will not let you leave at the crack of dawn anyway by the time papers etc are processed. Same day of your surgery you are going to want to sleep, but he can make sure you ok, then come see you when your awake after his work. Just a thought

I had a 45 minute ride home. But i was still on so much drugs that it didnt hurt. I asked for more pain releiver before we departed and they gave it to me so I slept. I also slept alot when I got home. I woke up every hour and walked. The second day was same for me.

I think I would ask my hubby to be there day of and drive you home. You will be okay home alone the second day and may even enjoy the rest. If you have kids to care for, you will have to have someone home.

I really needed my husband for two SOLID days, have Hume there the day after for sure! You may feel a little lonely the day of surgery, but u will need help!

Good question! I have been wondering the same thing. My Husband just started a new job today and I didn't want him to have to take 2 days off so soon. I am opting for day 2. Day one I will be in the hospital with plenty of attention and he can come visit me when he gets off work. Looks like I will be discharged the next day in the late afternoon so he may not have to miss much time at all.

I sent my mom home less than an hour after I got home from the hospital (outpatient) and I have been good to go since. It is not that bad. I have no idea why they would make a patient stay in the hospital overnight, but to each Dr. his own, I suppose. If you need moral support, have your hubby take the surgery day off. Your parents may be more stressed than you. If you feel like you'd need physical support, then have him stay home on day 2, BUT, unless you have secondary health issues that wold make this more complicated than others, you should be quite mobile.

I sent my husband to work directly after surgery. I also went for a 1k walk same day with my kids ( I just wanted to make sure the gas was moving). You may be better than you think.