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Had surgery 11 weeks ago and stuck at 25lbs....scared its not gonna work for me :(

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Stop the negative thinking! And as far as "working for me"...the band needs to work with you. Or rather, you need to work with your band! Make it your best friend, someone you want more than anything to make happy.

Plateau's can be discouraging...VERY discouraging...I've hit two small ones since surgery May 18th. You just have to ride it out, make sure you're sticking to the right foods, right portions, and enough exercise. Your body will eventually adjust and hopefully start dropping the pounds again.

You didn't give much detail as to what you're eating or doing for activity, so I don't know what specifically I could adjust, but please just know you're not the only one whose gotten discouraged along the journey. We've all been there. Heck, I still wake up every morning and think the scale is going to pop up with 243 lbs again and I would have failed at this.

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It's going to work it takes time!!! honestly for me the more u get closer to ur green zone the more u lose..

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My biggest fear was failure. I was banded September 29, 2011. For the first few months I only lost about two pounds a month. Sometime this spring, my band (10cc) was half full. For the first time, I felt real restriction. I started losing one and a half to two pounds a week. Now, I'm forty pounds down and its still not easy. Its not as scary as it was. I drag my butt down to the little gym in my building at work for 30 minutes, 5 days a week. I got rid of my riding mower and now have to walk to cut grass.

Its hard to go from being out of control to being in control. My brain just didn't get it. Growing up, I was subject to verbal abuse. I was told I would always be a failure and that I was stupid. I carried that with me into my adult life. I went to a counselor to try and understand the abuse and control issues.

I'm here to tell you that you can do this. You deserve the great changes coming your way. Never, ever give up. Lastly, please remember this: Its not how you fall down, but how you get back up that really matters.

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I have the same fear that the band won't work with me but I am not letting it get the best of me small goals I dropped a few pounds post surgery and I haven't weigh this little in years so I'm already a winner! So Celebrate the small joys!

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First, you are still pretty new to this. Have you had any fills, and do you have any restriction yet?

If you would like some advice/opinions we're going to need more info:

-approximately how many calories a day are you eating?

-are you sticking to a cup or less of food per meal?

-how many grams of Protein are you getting daily?

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I have to keep reminding myself you can't have faith and fear at the same time. They don't go hand in hand. Why don't you just chose to have faith in yourself, faith in your band, and let go of the fear? Sounds like a better path to me. Yes I know that's easier said than done. But just choose and then go to work on your choice. You've lost 25 pounds. That's amazing!!! You can lose the next 25 I know you can. Now you just need to know you can ;). Best of luck to you.

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25lbs is great. How are you doing with exercise? You may need to step up the intensity or switch it up.

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Im single no kids so easy is best for me....I eat a smart one or lean cuisine for lunch and dinner and somethn small or a shake 4 Breakfast ....I am usually under or at 1000 calories a day

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Im single no kids so easy is best for me....I eat a smart one or lean cuisine for lunch and dinner and somethn small or a shake 4 breakfast ....I am usually under or at 1000 calories a day

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Im single no kids so easy is best for me....I eat a smart one or lean cuisine for lunch and dinner and somethn small or a shake 4 breakfast ....I am usually under or at 1000 calories a day

Is it possible you need a little more calories a day? Like 1200 or so? I don't know I just haven't heard much about going under that and how it might affect a person.

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