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I've lost 96lbs since sept 2011, which is awesome I know I've been doing so well with my exercise and dieting and now I've gotten so comfortable with the band I'll eat a meal totally off my diet a week!! And this is hell its totally opened a bad door now anytime I eat or taste something I'm not suppose to eat, it triggers me. This scares me because I have a lot more to loose and I don't want to mess up what I've already done... Yes I know I need to go to a support group, but I want some advice on her to get me through this...

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You'll have to stick to your bandster eating diet and rid of the "eat a meal totally off my diet", until you've reached goal, otherwise you will continue in this rut. I can share with you what I had to do several times to break this rut and it worked for me. Use 4 days consisting of 1 day - Clear Liquids, day 2 - Protein Shakes, day 3 - Protein shakes and chunky Soup for supper, day 4 - mushies. This will break the craving that your body is longing for (old habits). This will also give your band a rest and you should feel more restriction. I had to go to this extreme because I was craving all the bad stuff all the time. I'm doing fine now.

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I have this same problem. I am doing so well and then I sabotage myself by getting in the "I want this and this" mode. The more sugar and junk you eat the more you want. It is a vicious cycle. I use the five day pouch test (you can google it). It is similar to what jakealta posted about above. I use it as a "RESET" . For me it helps to start from day one. It has helped me a couple of times. Good Luck!!

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I feel the same way.. I have lost 42lbs so far and had a real bad month. They over filled me and I was able to drink but food came up at every meal.. Had it readjusted and still having trouble gettting back on the program.. But I woke up this morning and said dont blow this just eat what u are allowed and so far so good.. I keep telling myself tis is not a fix but a tool to teach me and help me lose weight.. Good luck..

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Sorry your having a hard time....a plus is you are aware and you are asking for help !!!

I know if i eat pretzles it opens my mind to think it not candy and then i cant seem to stop...so

i havent had a pretzel for 6 months......and i have no plans too.....good luck getting back on track

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I have had the same issue a few times so you are not alone! Mine seems to be tied to PMS.

My main go to is doing a day of liquid. I also make sure that I put in extra exercise.

My advice to you is not to beat yourself up. As I am told by my doctors, this is not unusual at all and it is all part of your journey. You are learning from it and will be stronger in the end! Remind yourself how far you have come and if you can do that you can succeed now!

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Keep on target. It gets harder and harder to get back on track the further out you are from surgery.

I had a few complications and I let myself go off track multiple times. I have just recommitted for the zillionth time. It is frustrating because I had lost 100 pounds and gained 50 back.

Stop now. Stick with your momentum. You are doing awesome!!

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This is why I love this site, everyone is so supportive and I think that's what I've been missing is having support from people who are in my shoes and understand what I'm going through. I really appreciate the kind words and support and it reminds me I'm not alone and that I can do this... I'm gonna make a goal for myself and start now! Work out hard tonight and keep on keeping on! Loosing this weight means so much to me and I can't stop now!

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The love and support here is great.. I did do better today and ate less than I could.. I hate to exercise I want to but I have rheumatoid and herniated disc so after I hurt for days.. But I know I can do this,, I am not alone..

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