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curlyheadgirlsmama    0

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Hi i am melissa new to this site and lapband. Considering getting the surgery very soon.I am in wisconsin green bay area.The problem is my husband is very scared for me to do it.He says too many risks. The thing is i am prediabetic and i know the risks of diabetes and its much worse then surgery.Anyway and advice i can tell hubby? I am 100 pounds overweight and 34 yrs old

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Hi Melissa, I am 30 yrs old and i got banded on aug 30, 2011. I have diabetes, high blood pressure, and sleep apnea. I didn't have any complications at all. Let your husband know that with any surgery there is always going to be risk but my best advice is to do your research. Not only research on the band but the doctor that is going to be doing your surgery and ask as many questions as you can. Also if you can have your husband go to your appointment to see the doctor so he can feel more comfortable with who will be operating on you. I hope this helps. Good Luck!

Hi i am melissa new to this site and lapband. Considering getting the surgery very soon.I am in wisconsin green bay area.The problem is my husband is very scared for me to do it.He says too many risks. The thing is i am prediabetic and i know the risks of diabetes and its much worse then surgery.Anyway and advice i can tell hubby? I am 100 pounds overweight and 34 yrs old

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Thee-O    15

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Hi Melissa,

I also suggest you take your husband with you to see your surgeon. That way he can ask any questions he may have regarding the surgery. Talking to the staff and the surgeon will hopefully put him at ease.

I am a diabetic and this surgery has pretty much eliminated it. I don't have to take the meds I once did. I feel great. I have lost 40 lbs before the surgery and another 42 so far after the surgery on May 13th.

It was the best thing I ever did for my health and honestly this procedure is one of least evasive weight loss surgeries around. You have nothing to worry about but to help you and your husband feel at ease I suggest you do your research and try to have your surgery done with a Center of Excellence.

Good luck to you and I wish you the best.

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Allison0927    329

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I'm 38 - no health conditions, banded July 5. My husband was the same exact way - but i took him to the first meeting with the surgeon and asked him point blank - how many of these surgeries have you done and how many have died during or immediately following surgery. He said he had done hundreds of lap bands and gastric bypasses and knock on wood NONE had died during surgery or right after. I figured he had operated on many people that were older, more overweight, and that had many more medical issues going into it. That made us BOTH feel MUCH better. I encourage you to do the same. The odds are very much in your favor that you will be just fine. I'm 3+ months out and have had no complications. BEST OF LUCK TO ALL OF US ON OUR JOURNEYS!!!:)

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Hi i am melissa new to this site and lapband. Considering getting the surgery very soon.I am in wisconsin green bay area.The problem is my husband is very scared for me to do it.He says too many risks. The thing is i am prediabetic and i know the risks of diabetes and its much worse then surgery.Anyway and advice i can tell hubby? I am 100 pounds overweight and 34 yrs old

Hello Melissa and welcome! My husband felt the exact same way until I took him to a seminar and to see my surgeon. Now he is afraid of what will happen to me if I DON'T do this. Just ask him to go with you to get educated. I'm almost positive he will change his mind. Good luck to you!

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Jenmomto3    0

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google it also.. i've had 5 surgeries in my 41 yrs of life. 2 of them after i had high blood pressure.. i was more worried about those surgeries than this one. maybe w/ bipass surgery. but not lap-band. not very invasive!!

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I had to do a lot of talking to get my husbands support for the surgery. He thought it was an unnecessary surgery. I asked him to think about it and to get back with me. He never did. About a year later I proposed the lap band. I presented the info. I gave him the mortality rate. He agreed because he wanted to make me happy. I had him go to my consultation with my physician and he was so much more comfortable, I had his total support for the surgery. I hope this helps. I have been where you are and my husband has been where your husband is. I had my surgery at the end of August and it was a piece of cake!!! The tough part is actually the road ahead. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.

Hi i am melissa new to this site and lapband. Considering getting the surgery very soon.I am in wisconsin green bay area.The problem is my husband is very scared for me to do it.He says too many risks. The thing is i am prediabetic and i know the risks of diabetes and its much worse then surgery.Anyway and advice i can tell hubby? I am 100 pounds overweight and 34 yrs old

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Hi i am melissa new to this site and lapband. Considering getting the surgery very soon.I am in wisconsin green bay area.The problem is my husband is very scared for me to do it.He says too many risks. The thing is i am prediabetic and i know the risks of diabetes and its much worse then surgery.Anyway and advice i can tell hubby? I am 100 pounds overweight and 34 yrs old

Hi Lisa, I am in the same boat as you and my husband was scared also but I think he is getting better with the idea. I just told him that the medical issues are more risk and that I need to lose the weight. I am in Aurora, IL so not too far from you. Can I ask what you weight and how tall you are. I am 46 and up to 267lbs. I lost down to 212 in 2007 but more medical issues now and I just can't workout like I used to. I'm worried about insurance. I have an *** now but plan to change my insurance in Jan to BCBS PPO. The insurance will cost me more money so I pray I can get it approved. I'm trying to find out what I have to do to get it approved. I also hope that I don't have to take a lot of time off work.

Nice hearing from you. This is my first time on here and I am new.

Robin

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At 39 with no other health issues other than being over weight I had a stroke. Four days in intensive care at one of the best Neurological hospitals in the country and then 3 more days in a regular ward. Doctors have no definative answer as to what caused the blood clot but said they could'nt rule out my weight. If that does'nt give one a giant push to changing their life style I don't know what will.

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wow!! very good point!!

At 39 with no other health issues other than being over weight I had a stroke. Four days in intensive care at one of the best Neurological hospitals in the country and then 3 more days in a regular ward. Doctors have no definative answer as to what caused the blood clot but said they could'nt rule out my weight. If that does'nt give one a giant push to changing their life style I don't know what will.

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