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Jess, don't let a mis-step set you back. You started this journey for a reason. You know what it's going to take to lose the weight again and having fear of seeing your doctor shouldn't be a hurdle. Your doctor and his nurses are not there to judge you, they are there to help you and if that isn't the case, then you need to find another doctor's office. My original surgeon and her nurse both moved to California, I live in Florida, so I was forced to find another doctor. I too "fell off the wagon" I started at 330 lbs, dropped to 260 and I'm now back up to 308. Bummer! But, I have a new doctor, I quit smoking and I'm seeing a nutritionist for guidance. You should take advantage of being in nursing school and talk to your professors about food choices and a possible diet to use as a guide. Only you can make changes in your life and the fear of what someone else is thinking shouldn't block you from success. Don't be your own worst enemy, take care of yourself first. You can do this!

Had my sugery in Aug. 2008 @ 353 and at my lowest weight I was 225!!! But then I got a piece of food stuck and had to have all of the Fluid taken out. I've felt like I've lost control since then and can't get back on track. I've put off going back to the doctor because they've changed how they code the adjustments and it will cost at least $300 to have an adjustment. Finances are really tight right now. The other factor, and probably the most severe one for me, is that I'm embarrassed. I've been embarrassed to talk to my doctor about my recent weight gain of at least 50 lbs!!!! And I'm lost. I've tried dieting to get it off without success. That's how I've gained so much...binging. So I googled 'getting back on track with Lap-Band' and found this site. I'm just now deciding to get on track and I'm feeling overwhelmed and defeated. I am just now starting nursing school and time is limited which leads to emotional eating, poor food choices, and excuses to eat bad and not exercise.These are just a few. I'm hoping I can get back on this wagon. It's not my doctor's fault but I just am so nervous to admit/face him...I don't know how to do it...and even worse, facing the nurse; getting on that scale...her writing it down and telling me I've gain 58 lbs...then the questions 'have you been drinking with your meals? Eating between meals?'...

Please, any advice is helpful!!!!

Jess

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Congratulations Jess. You have taken the hardest step of all - the first one. You're on your way again.

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Awesome Jess! Good for you for taking the first steps to getting back on the wagon!!! Good Luck to you in the rest of your journey! We are all pulling for your success!

Thanks everyone!!! Wow that was a fast response!!! So right after I typed all of that at I got busy at researching my insurance coverage on behavior health to try to help with my emotional eating...I keep hearing that we need to fix why we're eating. Weeeell, get this...they don't cover therapy. Rude! So then...I took a deep breath (I have HUGE anxiety issues) and dialed my doctor's office. His nurse actually answers. I just blurt it out "I'm a patient, I've had my band since 08, fallen off the wagon, gained 60 lbs, I'm very embarrassed and overwhelmed. Can you offer me guidance?" With tears welling up in my eyes, if hear her reply..."Jessica, thanks for calling. We probably need to get you a fill and we just adopted a support service. Call Betty and let her know what's going on then call me back to schedule" so I call her. She's a-ma-zing! I'm crying again after I blurt it out...She tells me to take a deep breath and that we need to get back on track and that I've taken the hardest step. Informed me of the newly formed support group that meets on the 25. Told me to start a food log, shoot for 60g Protein, 64 oz Water and get a fill. Bought my journal and appointment set for the 20th!! THEN I get on her and see all of you responses! omg..amazing day.

Jess

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