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You can not redo a gastric by pass or undo it it is a permanent surgery. If you were unsuccesful with the bypass I would not consider the band as it is the same even harder. Surgeons only get paid about 1000 to 1500 per surgery its the hospitals that cost so much so he may be correct. He cant do a sleeve because most of your stomach was stapled and moved away no way to fix that. You can get the band but like I said its the same concept if you do not follow the diet you will not lose weight.

There is nothing worse than getting an email from someone who is uninformed and REALLY negative:

  • You Can't
  • Not Covered
  • You Screwed up

This is NOT aimed at anyone in particular, but I feel like I want to address it.

The site should be a support site where people share experiences. In therapy, they teach people to say "I feel....."...."In my experience....." When you start with the words "He can't"...blah blah blah....you are killing someone's dreams in that moment. Do you realize how bad that feels to someone who isn't STRONG like me? Some of what I have read borders on cyber-bullying/abuse and is really ridiculous. We're adults!

So at least if you are chatting with me, show me your data with links if you are going to speak in absolutes. I'm a very factual person who doesn't take well to anecdotal research. I like studies that involved hundreds to thousands of people.

So again, thank you to ALL of you who have answered me -- regardless of whether I agree with you or not. But let's be decent to each other and think before we type.

Oh, did I mention I am a non-denominational minister? Peace.

M

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I think the person that wrote it is right, sometimes people take what is written wrong. Smile life does get better

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You can have the gastic bypass redone or undone. It is not common, but can happen. I have had two friends who had one of these done. One had the bypass many years ago, she lost a ton of weight and then gained it back in 2 yrs. and recently had it redone. Another friend had it done, and decided that she wanted it undone, and guess what it is reversable, but will most likely have serious complications. It is not possible for everyone to get it reversed, does not happen that often, but it can be done for some.

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My mother had gastric bypass 4 years ago..she was told it is not reversible and prior to surgery she was advised to attend seminars and really think about bypass because it is permanant

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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