What would you do?

[Cocoabean 430]

Huggles, thank you for sharing the complication.

A blood clot is a risk of any surgery. I am very sorry it happened to her. In obese patients the risk is even higher of a clot occurring than in normal weight patients. The main treatment for fighting blood clots is to get us up and walking right after surgery and keep us on the move.

I hope you find the balance between honesty, privacy, and peace with your family. Try not to let emotions rule the day.

As for what I have done, most of my family knows except for my mother-in-law, because all she does is fuss over everyone's health status. I get Migraine headaches, and every time I see her she wants a run down of how I am doing. DH told her recently that I had an abscess on my back side a year and a half ago that needed lancing (he was searching for conversation--she was seeing the nurse practitioner who took care of it for me), now she wants all the gory details and asks about it often! So the family understands why I don't want her to know. They all just say, "gee your diet is going great, you look so good!"

Best wishes to you!