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Hi guys, ok i am seriously considering getting a band done. I have 70lb (and rising!) to lose and I know I have done it before but I KNOW i cannot keep it off. I want my life back, I want to be beautiful again, I want to be able to wear beautiful clothes. I want to be able to go on holiday and wear a bikini. I want to look amazing in my wedding dress (in 2012 WOOHOO!) and I want to feel as good as everyone else in the world. I want to be able to carry a baby full term ( i have had two miscarraiges) and be fit enough to raise my child without having my weight holding me back from doing things with him or her. But when i think of having a band, i cringe.. ever so slightly.. What is my fear? I have had my gall bladder removed before, and sailed through the operation. I remember enjoying the anesthetic, Enjoying the sleep :tt2: But maybe it's not knowing about how I will cope AFTER the op.. the change of lifestyle, the smaller portions, the social element surrounded by food. Am i afraid of the pain after the op? I need to figure out what is holding me back, and just go for it. What is your fear? :smile2:

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I just joined the site.i am seriously thinking about the the surgery.My biggest fear is not being able to compute in my mind how much to eat and constantly overeating.over vomiting.

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I am scheduled and I am going to definitely give this a whole hearted try! My fear is if I can really make the life style changes necessary. I think I can, but I do have fear of failure. I am not afraid of the surgery at all and I am going to Mexico to have it done. My BMI is 34.2 and I just want my life back and my skinny self back!

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Hi to both of you and thank you for your replies! Its so nice to be able to come on here and talk to people going through the same emotions. I am the same, wondering if i will be able to manage my nutrition and not kill myself by eating too much by mistake or vomiting and rupturing my stomach or something.. i have all these fears in my head. I really do want the weight off, i have a bmi of 33 and I cannot face another diet.. it seems like my only option. That and i am a bit scared of the surgery.. i just dont do pain well at all :thumbup:

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Okay, I am not a pre-op bandster, but it was not that long ago that I was on your side. I had lots of fears, but my biggest is that the Lap Band would not work for me, that it would just be yet another failed weight loss attempt. I worried that I would not be able to make the changes necessary to make the surgery work because if I could control what I ate then I would not be at the point I was at.

The thing that allowed me to go ahead with the surgery was the thought that I could not continue down the path I was on...I was over 300 pounds! When it came down to it I knew I had to make a change. My only regret is that I did not have the surgery 5 years ago when I first starting thinking about it.

If you have any questions I would be happy to answer them. Do your research, choose a great doctor, and make the decision that is right for you.

Michelle

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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