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I was supposed to have surgery on the 24th, but due to complications with a poisonous spider bite, it was postponed until the 7th of September. I am really concerned about how well this is going to help me. I mean, I stopped almost all processed sugar three weeks ago, eat 1000-1200 kcal a day (approx) and am crabby all the time. I use food to keep me from being angry, frustrated, afraid, etc. Now that I am not eating all the time, all day long, I don't know what to do with all of these emotions coming out. Banding isn't going to make this better. any advice? Oh, and I am already in therapy.

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Hi there Machan,

Why not talk to your therapist about it? Perhaps he/she can help you come up with a plan or maybe increase the number of sessions you have until you can sort through some of the feelings. I do the same thing, stuff away my feelings with food. I'm in therapy too and I really think that a therapist would understand about emotional eating and help you work through it.

Best wishes,

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I don't know if this applies, but before I was banded (March 2010) I was cranky when dieting. Since the band I'm not feeling deprived, and therefore not cranky.

Good luck, Sharon

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I go to OA (overeaters anonymous) it is a free program similar to AA. www.oa.org

Being around other compulsive overeaters who are able to share their stories, help me deal with my emotions.:) Noone understands us like other overeaters and this is our issue.....food....it's what we do to numb us, when we are not "using" food the emotions just bubble up. It helps....give it a try...:thumbup:

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I'm the same way, I eat ALL day long and when I dont..LOOK OUT! I'm trying not to rely on food anymore it was hard at first but then I found a hobby. I love to draw and of course I like clothes...im a girl. SO i started designing clothes and soon Im planning on starting a website....Just finding a hobby to keep your hands busy and your mind off of the food will help and its a good way to express what you're feeling at that moment. Hope that helped.

Cheers!

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My therapist suggested, strongly, that I find OA meetings. I have two kids, which gives me a good excuse to not go, but I have done some online meetings. They help some, but not much. I really just feel out of control emotionally since I am so hungry all the time. I don't like this, neither does my family. I just want to cry all the time. I just need to vent. There is a local meeting tomorrow, I plan on going.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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