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Suicidal thoughts with obesity?



Any suicidal thoughts?  

12 members have voted

  1. 1. Any suicidal thoughts?

    • Yes, and i have attempted it.
      55
    • Yes, and I had thought about it in a serious manner.
      160
    • No, never thought seriously about it but the topic did cross my mind
      202
    • No, this is ridiculous.
      183


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I, like many others did not vote either way because my answer really would not fit either category. I do not think it is ridiculous. It has crossed my mind that if I were to die, while being obese, my family would have to endure finding a large enough burial outfit, casket, etc. Have you ever seen "What's eating Gilbert Grape?"? Very sad. There have been times in my life when I was so angry and frustrated at someone who had mistreated me that never seeing me again would be the ultimate revenge. However, after turning to God and learning to forgive, I now realize there is JUST TOO MUCH TO LIVE FOR. Life is a great adventure just waiting to be had and it will be so much easier now that I have the band.

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I attempted it many, many years ago, but it wasn't due to obesity at the time. As I grew in size and got more disgusted with the person looking back at me in the mirror, my knees, back and hips ached constantly from the weight and I needed shots to relieve the pain, I ended up with high blood pressure, I couldn't dance, kayak or hike anymore, my husband wasn't interested in sex anymore, I HATED the clothes I had to buy, etc., etc., etc., I entertained the thought and fantasized about it, but having tried it once, I vowed NEVER to attempt it again. I remember laying in the ambulance on the way to the ER realizing what I had done and begged God to give me another chance. We made a deal and I'm keeping my end of the bargain!!

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This was an interesting thread to read, although lengthy.

I have never thought about suicide as a real option and I am happy with my life . . . only unhappy with obesity. Life wasn't great before but it was tolerable . . . life now is absolutely wonderful. Having he band has really improved my previously lackluster existence.

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Yes. I had thought's many times. The thing that held me back was my faith in the LORD. His word tells us that taking your own life is not an option. That and the fact that I am married to the most wonderful woman in the world. Also the three grown children and five grand children that I have, I thought that it would be the ultimate act in selfishinness if I was to do IT. I was sooooo miserable. But now i have much hope. I'm two weeks post surgery and 55+ lbs lighter. My whole outlook is different. I never did seek professional help. And now because of my dertimination and the "Band", I doubt that will ever need it. :biggrin:

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I have delt with this issue many times. I hope my depression will ease up as the pounds melt away.

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