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yes...yes...and yes....surgery is hard and the body adjusting to all that is going on is also tuff!! I keep reading this forum cuz it inspires me to keep positive. We are not alone. It is conforting to find help and advise from others who are going through the same! :scared2:

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I woke up this morning still looking at my broth and Jello and burst into tears. I really dont know why. Then I ask myself did I do the right thing?? I was feeling pretty good until I started having the leg pain. I wanted this so bad and now I am sitting here crying like a 2 year old. Am I losing it or did anyone else have these days?:scared2:

That is normal! I did the same thing, I questioned myself if it was the right decision. I learn that week that I truly love food and then wonder if I will be able to enjoy all the food I used to eat. Now, I am on solid and eat anything I desire. Thank God, my craving for sweets are gone (trust me... I tried it and did not like it at all).

You will be fine once you start eating solids.... Good luck!

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I am so happy I found this. I was banded on the 24th and just couldn't stop crying last night wondering WTH I did to myself. It is much harder then I anticipated it being. I just want to know I will enjoy food again (not the way I used to) but still enjoy it! Ugh I can wait to go on pureed foods. I am craving Chipoltle...and I thought I could get some of their chicken with a couple of my favorite salsas and some guac and puree it...sounds wonderful to me!:scared2:

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YES, and more than once and more than just the first week. I was an emotional basket case! On day 2 I remember trying to get out of bed and wondering WHY ON EARTH I ATE MYSELF SO FAT I NEEDED TO MUTILATE MYSELF WITH A "NEEDLESS" SURGERY??!!. Yeah, I felt like a total nut.

However, those feelings passed and are a distant memory now. I'm so glad I had the surgery. It is truely life changing and if anything were to happen in the future where my band had to be removed, I would get it replaced or revised in a heartbeat!

Trixie

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I did go in and get the test for blood clots and it was fine. After doing some research on line I think my leg and muscle pain is coming from the caffeine withdrawal! I am much better. This forum is great. It has helped me so much.

I am so glad to hear your leg pain was not a clot. I was worried about you. I am also glad to hear you are doing better.

Hang in there - the emotions come and go for a while, but you will get to feeling really good again!

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This is a fantastic tool for me. I am a "newbie" only 4 days out and all of these things have happened to me. I sat at the computer and cried because I was sitting here starving. I wasnt supposed to be hungry, at least that is what I was told pre-op. They lied. I was hungry from day 2. I too have questioned WTH, but seeing that others feel the same way and that there is hope helps. Not as much as a slice of chocolate cake would right now, but close. Thank you to all of you for having the courage to share. Best of Luck to all :)

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sphipps41 - are you on Clear Liquids? Tell us what you are eating? Follow you doctors instructions and call him for advice.

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I just had my surgery last week. I spent the week before it crying and still haven't stopped. It's been very stressful for me. I'm constantly wondering if I'm doing everything right and if it'll even be worth it. I don't like being overweight, but at least I'm happy. I'm not so happy anymore. I hope it gets easier and will pay off in the end.

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kcarny - make a list of all the reasons you chose surgery - mine included eating myself to death, NO self confidence, shame, guilt, lack of energy, hating shopping, poor health, knee/joint pain, you add the rest.

This surgery is a drastic change in life. However, a new life awaits me. Shame & guilt are no longer my sisters.

Some days are very challenging. Everything I've lived for 67 years eating this way and now I have to change everything.

Is it worth it? Definitely. I'm 4 months banded and each day is easier.

Welcome to your new life.

Joyce

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i wondered what i had done to myself. felt really depressed. i am about a month out and feel so much better. i am glad i did it now.:thumbup:

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I cried twice but it was because I didn't really sleep for the four days after surgery I just could not get comfortable :thumbup:(

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I cried a lot on the preop and in the first few weeks after surgery. Four years later I had to go on liquids for 10 days....cried the first two days. I think it is mostly mental hardship, some blood sugar stuff, and general frustrations! Hang in there, soon you will be laughing your skinny butt off!

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I got banded on 6/29, and it was my first ever surgery, so I really didn't think that it'd be a big deal. I cried everyday Tues-Friday. I was depressed about the change of lifestyle that I knew was coming, but wasn't entirely prepared for, I cried over the pain, since I didn't take pain meds, and I cried because I voluntarily did this to myself. But today is my one week post op, and while I'm not at 100%, I'm 80%. I feel a lot better, it's still going to be a struggle, but we did this to be healthy. No one needs cheeseburgers and ice cream cones to be healthy, regardless of size, that's what I keep telling myself. I'm starting to work out slowly, introduce the mushy foods, and gain strength in my abdomen while my incisions heal. I think they'll be periods where I cry again, but we'll get through it together!

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We are constanley questioning ourselves,human nature I guess. I felt the same ,jello and broth did it to me too. Things will get beter its not a life sentence its just a lifestyle change. You were strong enough to make this descision for change. We are all strong enough in Lap Band Talk to offer you reassurance and support. HANG IN THERE ! 3 months from now you'll look back and laugh !

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I had a HUGE melt down with in my first 7 days or so of being banded, I am 13 days post op today... I was asking myself the same thing, and just knew that is I had to have ONE more bite of Jello that would be the end of me... I sat here at the computer with a hunger unlike any Id ever felt before, wanting to eat anything, including my chair (LOL), adn I talked with some of the people in chat and they helped me get through it... It has gotten better for me tho, adn I hope for you also... I know I worry about every little thing I feel, I say to myself "OMG was that my band slipping? Do I need another surgery? Can you REALLY do this? etc..." and I just have to take a step back, remind myself why I got banded in the first place and then pull myself up by the boot straps and continue on...

Good luck, let us know how you are doing... Take care....

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