Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

My surgery is Monday May 17th @ 8:30am (I might back out)



Recommended Posts

well I know you were being honest and I respect that but It made me even more scared!! I guess thats just life!! Thanks for ur words. *crying*

Dana

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

thanks so much for ur words.... I am still crying and nervous... but there is not much time left!! I need to be strong!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

thanks so much..... *crying* I can't stop crying....... please pray for me!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm having my surgery thirty minutes after yours at 9, I will be thinking of you. Don't be scared, I've been put to sleep before and been put under the laughing gas several times at the dentist, there is nothing to it, there is no need to worry. I didn't even think to be scared of being put to sleep, I'm scared of the pain I may feel when I wake up and perhaps not being able to eat bread normally after my tummy heals.

Just try not to think about it, that's what I'm doing. I'm going to have my pain meds and my family with me and everything will be fine. I'm thinking about how good the mash potatoes will taste on Tuesday, just try and think about that. *big hug* :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey Sweetie, Have you looked at your Dr? I did. When I decided to get the surgery I wanted someone who was very skilled because they have the best outcomes. I just looked at your profile and then searched google, aol, msn and yahoo, I couldn't find a negative story about your Dr anywhere! Nothing but rave reviews. From everything listed he is an excellent surgeon! Have you asked him if he has ever had anyone die in a lap band surgery? I bet he hasn't. He is listed with the Center for Excellence.

Plus your Mom is encouraging you to have the surgery done. I promise you she is the one person in the world who is most worried about your safety and would never put you at risk.

If all you are worried about is the actual surgery, do it. I did find a study on the internet that proves it is more dangerous NOT to have the surgery than it is to have it.

If you are worried about the life changes that you have to do after the band then that is something else.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's like a band-aid- pull it off slow and hurt for a long time or rip it off quick. Either way it's going to hurt. I wish you courage- facing your fear and doing whatever anyway.

And it's OK to put off surgery until you're in a better mind-set.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I know it's scary. It's normal to have fears and concerns, but look at this rationally -- the risks associated with this surgery are much less than the risks assoicated with obesity, and you stand to gain so many great things by getting your weight under control.

For me, this was the best decision I could have made for myself. And, the surgery was a breeze. Hang in there. There is a reason you have come this far, and don't let your fears hold you back from finally being able to resolve your weight problem.

Best wishes for your safe and speedy recovery,

Catherine

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Is your Mom bringing you in? Tell them the minute you walk in the door to give you sometnig to calm you down.

Your Mom is right, all your health issues are what you should be afraid of!!!! If you back out, you'll never forgive yourself.

Hang in there!! We are all praying for you...

May God Bless You,

Carol D'

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Chocolate...Maybe it's not the right time for you. Many people back out and then finally decide at a later time to have the surgery...or not. Sometimes fear is present for a reason...if you have not accepted the negative possibilities that can exist, perhaps more thought is in order. My prayers to you...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

thanks so much!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

oh my god thank you so much... you made me feel so much better!! I am ONLY worried about being put to sleep and waking up... the rest I feel I can handle. Thanks so much

Dana

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Dana,

YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU CAN DO THIS!

as Catherine said---if you were scared of the having the band itself we would perhaps say to think this over or wait.

But you are saying you are scared of going to sleep---which is like giving up control for a few minutes.

Do you ever ride roller coasters or airplanes??

This is the same thing.

You get in....strap yourself in...and give control to the trained professionals.

The seconds before you hit the top of the big hill or befor take off are nerve racking but as soon as it happens you are FLYING HIGH.

You can do this ! You can do this ! You can do this!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

bigh hug to you too... thanks so much!! u are so kind!! please keep in touch with me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

thanks carol. I am praying now and will continue till I get to the hospital.

thanks for the support.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Dana,

YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU CAN DO THIS!

as Catherine said---if you were scared of the having the band itself we would perhaps say to think this over or wait.

But you are saying you are scared of going to sleep---which is like giving up control for a few minutes.

Do you ever ride roller coasters or airplanes??

This is the same thing.

You get in....strap yourself in...and give control to the trained professionals.

The seconds before you hit the top of the big hill or befor take off are nerve racking but as soon as it happens you are FLYING HIGH.

You can do this ! You can do this ! You can do this!

you are right!! I AM GOING TO DO THIS!! please pray for me!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×