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I woke up feeling depressed this morning. I realized I am nearing my one year anniversary and I feel like a complete failure. I am nowhere near where I thought I would be, where I should be if this stupid band was working right. I don't understand what is holding me back. I've been stuck at 285 for about four or five months now and just going back and forth within five or ten lbs. I can't get out of the 280s. I don't feel any restriction. When I go in for a fill I feel like it only lasts a few days and then the restriction is gone again. I got a bodybugg to track my calories eaten and burned. I go to the gym regularly. I was wondering if the Water I drink could have stretched my pouch? When I work out I drink a lot of water. That is the only thing I've ever done that I can think of that might impact my success. I try to eat smaller portions, and stop when I'm full. I follow all the little rules, but I am just not getting anywhere.

I feel like such a failure and a disappointment. I can't figure out why it is so easy for some people and for me, like always it has to be so painfully difficult. How do other people stay motivated? How do you face your doctor knowing that you aren't where you should be? Could there be something else wrong that is keeping the weight on? Is there something wrong with my band?:blink:

Meli

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First of all, you are not a failure. You are working hard at working out and eating right and that is far from being a failure. I would strongly recommend meeting with a nutritionist and see what you can do to change up your food intake. I am a great believer one diet doesn't fit all. For some people like me, decreasing my carbs, does the trick. For my best friend, she has to decrease amount of meat she is eating. There is this book that says that depending on your blood type that’s the food that you should avoid: here is the link. http://www.dadamo.com/bloodtype_A.htm. Also, talk to a personal trainer and see what you can do to mix things up as well. <o:p></o:p>

You are not a failure by any means! A failure is someone who doesn't do anything. All your hard work WILL pay off! You might need to take a little Detour and shake things up. :blink: Good luck!

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Thank you for reminding me that failing means not trying. I really have to come to terms with that and focus on the fact that I am still making an effort and I haven't given up even though the results aren't what I expected. I am so afraid of failure that it can paralyze my actions or cloud my judgment. But I made a commitment to changing my lifestyle and I have stuck to that. Trying is not failure. Failure is not trying. I'm going to remind myself of that until it sinks in.

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Exactly!!!!! And i am here if you need that reminder once in a while :blink:

Keep me posted on your success. Your gym dedication is really inspiring to me.

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If you are eating too little and exercising regularly, that can cause you to stall. It could be any number of things. Track what you are eating and drinking. Write down what it is and how much. I just started measuring my food again, and realized I was eating 30-50% more that I THOUGHT I was eating. By journaling your intake daily, you can take this with you it to your doctor or nutritionist, and together, you can figure out what to maybe try differently. Keep moving and don't get discouraged.

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We are all failures that is why we are all here.... We have all failed at something... You are not failing you are just stuck. You need to hang in there and have the nutritionist work with you, there must me an explanation for this situation. You will find it we only fail when we give up, and you have not given up. Hang in there!

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