FluffyChix

I think the emotional toll on your is harder although we all share a similar thing to different extents post surgery. We ALL are in your position. But not all of us are effected quite so strongly by the surgical reality of having an altered anatomy. We ALL have a different experience eating and drinking and have surgical wounds that need to heal. I'm glad you are finding some relief from some of the suggestions BPs have made! It really does get better. I honestly think you are dealing with feeling like a victim for "needing" to have this surgery. It truly helps to know you can step out of the victim position into a power position so you have control of your life back. And you won't believe how normal you will feel 1 year or 18 months from now. I promise.

We're moving our storage unit this morning. I'm taking an extra jacket and gloves!

Liquid stevia doesn't usually cause laxative distress of pains. That's why making your own gummies from grass fed gelatin and adding your own flavors and liquid stevia and citric acid might do the trick for you!!! You could also play around with adding protein powder to them. They are dead easy to make!! You can just pour it out into a tray, let them jel up then cut them into cubes. Very healthy!!

That's where cutting a protein bar into 8 pieces and freezing them come in. Then instead of popping candy, you pop a bite size "candy bar" in your mouth! And you get nutrition and protein in at the same time.

Kinda? In a lazy way. Meaning...if it happens it happens. Mostly I just use M-Th as a time to get down to the low end of my weight window so that I can have any kind of weekend I want without stress. Then Monday I come back 1-2lbs up (or more ) and have M-Th to return to baseline. It helps that I like eating the way I do during the week. And depending, I might throw in some IF with it for autophagy/health reasons. But I would not be a hater if I hit 125lbs. I just don't want the stress on my shoulders of trying to break out of a decade. I thought I might be in the 120s last week, but I ate 200cals more per day on average which is reason enough not to have broken through.

Agree this sounds like a lot. You need to limit your portions to the appropriate volume prescription from your doc and RD. I think about that time I had a 1/2 cup max limit per meal for volume. Even softs and soups/chili. Your restriction should improve with more solid food. But the reality is we must retrain our brain to be "ok" with less. With smaller portions. Now is the time to really do that. So just because you can, does not mean it's advisable.

Back on track yesterday. But up a little bit today. No surprise. ? That's my usual Monday situation. Ha! Sunday 11.10 - Maintenance : 5'4" / 57y F/ 19.5mo PO RNY / 131.6 lbs B-Protein lattes (4oz PP) L-Big A*s Salad with shrimp & chicken + blue cheese + pumpkin seeds + veg (rbp, cucumbers, toms) (ate it in 2 portions) AS-(the other half of my salad) + almonds D-atlantic salmon mustard coated + grilled chicken + broccoli in garlic + avo/tom BS-gg brancrisp flatbread + peanut butter Daily Totals: 1064 cals; 84g protein; 69g fat; 36g carbs; 16g fiber; 20g net carbs

You can make your own sugar free gummie bear candy out of sf gelatin. And you can flavor it with essential oils, liquid stevia, and add citric acid to make them like sour patch. Then you start stepping down from the candy. But you will likely need to replace the cals with some other source cuz otherwise you will likely start losing again. Also, you can make keto candy like fat bombs with healthy oils/fats + cacao powder, nut butters etc. They add up VERY quickly. But they are usually more satiating. SF peanut butter cups are the bomb. You can also try getting delicious protein bars, cutting them in 8 pieces then freezing them. Pop them like a candy bite. I think you're in a pretty special situation because of your super endurance exercise. I think @Healthy_life2 and @BigViffer could help you with this. They are both power athletes and have to eat in a method to keep their cals high enough for training. Congrats on your losses. The candy is an addiction. Addiction to sugar is as powerful as heroine addiction. I'd also see your doc/RD and ask for help. They may have a temporary medication that can help you with cravings as you try to detox.

I think we're all different honestly. And you have to do what you know is right. I would try to see if I could find some balance due to your fear. I would: Only have 1 green smoothie a day (if you feel you must). Pack it with a scoop of protein powder, 1oz of avocado, 2oz of deep dark greens, psyllium husks, 1oz of blueberries (or other deep berry), liquid stevia, 28g Greek yogurt (plain) and thin it down with ice and either Fairlife Fat Free Milk or unflavored almond or cashew milk (not as much protein). Then for lunch, I'd have raw veggies in a salad or with my 2-3oz of protein + raw veggies. Use a Greek yogurt (plain) dip with Ranch seasoning if you need. Thin it with Fairlife Fat Free Milk. Include 1oz of avocado and a very very very light oil. I used 3 zeros Italian or Greek (zero cal dressing) or Walden Farms zero cal dressing. I would add 5g of pumpkin seeds or 10g of some kind of nut. That way you are getting plenty of fat for fat soluble vitamin absorption. Then for dinner, I'd have 3-4oz of protein + 1-2oz al dente steamed veg + 1oz avocado + 1oz grape tomatoes. I would drop everything else. Your hunger should come under control in 3-4 days from now. I would try to get in a range of 700-800 cals per day. I lost best around 650-700 cals and carbs at 30g net or below per day. At the rate you are going, I honestly believe you will stop losing well before you are finished or should be finished. You need to up your speed and you are right to feel concern. You are mainlining sugar into your body with all your juicing and smoothies. And just quit the grains. No one needs em. Frankly. If they are causing your weight loss to slow so significantly and causing so much hunger, you clearly as an individual cannot handle them right now. Maybe for maintenance, but the question should ALWAYS be: How did your meal xy or z make you feel 1 hour after eating, 2 hours after eating, the next morning. How long was it before you felt hunger cues. By now, you should be able to go 3-4 hours minimum between meals. If you cannot, you are having blood sugar roller coasters and those are very bad for all of us. Hope that helps. It's not too late to restart your plan!!!! Choose to do it today!

Yep. To this day, I still have to kinda "huff" a few times, to clear my airways. It took some getting used to.

Yayayayayayayayaayay!!!! Soooooo excited for you and so dang proud of you!!! Iron Will! Woot!!! Congrats on 10 days!!!

So so so so right! BTW, bluecheese salad for lunch today in your honor.

Love your menu! Glad you're here posting with us!!! Is this a maintenance menu or are you trying to come down within your window? Looks fabulous!!!

Yes absolutely! Even though today is technically still part of my "food up" weekend where I'm trying to eat more cals and macros, I'm back on the straight and narrow about eating meals or organized snacks and not nibbling, and I'm going to try to make all my choices healthy foods, just eat more calories (real dressing instead of my calorie free stuff + avocado, nuts, etc. ) And definitely no alcohol S-Thurs. It's working so far. Will be interesting to see if my weight holds through to tomorrow or goes up. Still waiting on the #2 trains to make it down the tracks so I predict a bounce up. hahaha And yeah, we all kinda pushed back and told RD that we are all straight shooters with each other and that we took what she was saying very seriously. And she told us that sure we could hold accountability, but we have to do it in a more gentle way. ? SMH. ROFL. I know I'm very black or white about some things and can be hard. So I will try to think of better ways to say things...

Congrats and welcome!!!

Saturday 11.09 - Maintenance : 5'4" / 57y F/ 19.5mo PO RNY / 130.2 lbs Congrats @Tracyringo I'd count you there too. Congrats on making a great breakfast choice! I love your menus, and love @ms.sss. And I also get to live vicariously through you 2! Yesterday I was AWESOME SAUCE. Until last night happened...uh oh. It was a stressful day. Ha! Like life doesn't happen to everyone and our challenge is know ourselves and not eat because of emotional issues. But it was a stressful day all around, starting with our support meeting and ending with working to clean out our storage units all afternoon. Ugh. We got a slight sensitivity building lesson from our group leader yesterday about not being judgemental or too harsh on the newbies to the group. Cuz apparently one had complained that we were too mean to her and too Judge Judy. And I'm pretty sure be we she meant me. So I felt bad for hurting her but I also felt marginalized. I also feel like we are not there to enable someone--especially someone so soon out of surgery doing terrible things and who still had well over 100lbs to lose--who wasn't losing well. This girl wasn't even 2 months out and was already going out eating pizza, Chinese and Mexican food and boozing it up, talking about taking multiple shots with her son and passing out at a bar and needing to be carried out and what a buzz she was getting from it, and then complained she wasn't losing. So I told her that everything in moderation is a myth to many of us and that it wasn't magic bean surgery. That she needed to not squander her honeymoon period or I could pretty much guarantee she would never make it to goal. In fact only one other lady in our group besides me is even close to goal. One girl was, then life happened to her too and she's regained 40-50lbs. The other will never make goal cuz she eats too much and too much good stuff. Then I promptly went out and didn't follow my advice. I did good at lunch, but by last night...LOL on date night and late date night--yeah, all hell unleashed. I found cauliflower crust pizza at a local pizza joint and had 1 1/2 pieces of a 10" crust and some chicken caesar minus the croutons with about 1tbsp dressing (and a glass of cab). Felt delightfully satisfied without being hugely full. Dinner I had 4 deep fried mushrooms then could only eat a small amount of salad and 2 grilled shrimp. So nicely satisfied. (Over estimate food portions to try to keep things honest.) But the 1 glass of wine with lunch, 2 glasses with dinner, then the whiskey and decaf coffee at the end of the night with more snacking is where it all went wrong. Oddly enough I'm down 0.2lbs so this morning I'm 130.2lbs and Saturday is definitely in a cheat day range for the week. Daily Totals: 1690cals; 81g protein; 87g carbs; 9g fiber 78g net carbs. (Woke up hungry this morning and thinking about having chaffles with butter and syrup with eggs and bacon...I'm thinking late night eating and too many carbs/booze is to blame. Today I'm gonna stick to salads and grilled chicken or shrimp. And tomorrow it's back on the straight and narrow. )

Love the whole look! Never take it off... Just like:

Love the entire outfit! That color is the bomb dot com on you!!! @Sheribear68 Love the dress! (I also think you could use a smaller size...) @sillykitty I feared that would be the case! LOL. Or else it would be like Something About Mary where he totally took off all his clothes to go potty. LOL. Hahaha at the "dignified" part! @KaysMommy Agreed! Wanna see pics of the formal event!!!! @MIZ60 I want all your boots!!! Will you 'dopt me? @GreenTealael You, Lancelot and I will build a giant wooden badger... then we'll loot everyone's closet! Love everyone's fashion sense!!!

Gotta go pack up storage after my support meeting this morning. I'm wearing a ball cap for the first time-ish. LOL.

I was channeling you But, then I forgot to snap a pic. But OMG...the hair. *sic* ??? Normally, I'd just put that restaurant on my list and never return. But, it's our favorite neighborhood place and we love the patrons and everyone who works there an owns the place. The owner felt so bad. I didn't want him to take it off my bill, but he comp'd the entire meal. I felt awful for him.

Yes! Also doing bariatric food coaching/meal plans/books. My old blog I no longer keep was low carb keto. I also had a fasting days healing days blog for a short period. fluffychixcook.com fastdayshealingdays.com

Friday 11.08 - Maintenance : 5'4" / 57y F/ 19.5mo PO RNY / 130.4 lbs B-Protein lattes (4oz PP) L-Sardines in water (drained) + yellow mustard + cucumbers with ACV & Tajin spice + baby carrots AS-wasn't hungry D-italian sausage + marinara + parm + 2 glasses cabernet sauvignon + 1/2 small dinner salad + blue cheese dressing + grilled shrimp (sorry forgot to take a pic) BS-cottage cheese + pln grk yogurt + bananas & cream PP + frozen blueberries + walnuts + hemp hearts + chia seeds Daily Totals: 1195 cals; 73g protein; 51g fat; 53g carbs; 10g fiber; 41g net carbs My hunger stayed in check yesterday. Yay! Dinner was date night and extended, so we started with sharing Italian sausage in marinara and having a glass of wine. Then later we had dinner and a second glass of wine. I'm likely overestimating dinner--I found a hair in it about 1/3 of the way in and that was it for me. But I later got hungry, so went for my flavah fave... Today is a swamped day! Y'all have a good one!! @ms.sss Ha! We're posting at the same time! Will bbiaf after I've read your posts!!!

I still just have one burning question for you and @sillykitty... How do you pee in public while wearing this outfit?

Congrats! What a transformation! You look fabulous girl!!!!

Boring fast food. Lovely and filling and QUICK! Wanted @ms.sss's salad, but no time to make it. So will have a big salad tonight and will take pics for ya. In honor of the Salad Queen.