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I would try the sleeve first. You have a lot of decades left, and the malabsorption aspect can have long term consequences. If the sleeve doesn't do it for you, you could get a revision.

Did you get the abscess taken care of? Maybe it has to do with that?

The sleeve is a great option for lots of people. If you already have gerd, that is one reason to consider a bypass instead. Good thing is if the sleeve is a problem, it can be converted later. A bypass is, for the most part, not gonna be changed. You will already have scar tissue, which could impact your choices.

Maybe my kids were slower than average. They didn't have the capacity to really understand "eventually". In this scenario, the next day they would be like, "You ready to play ball now?!" Children can become anxious at the thought of surgery, hospitals, doctors, and the like. That is why I would avoid bringing it up to little ones. My kids are 11, 13, 16.. and they are all terrified for me. I figured they were old enough, and they are... but the concern is real. The one thing I could do for them was to say the surgery is one day later than it will be. That way it is over and done with before they really start worrying. (Same fib to my hubby too! Lol). They all will think I'm busy shopping when I go under the knife. About the time they start thinking.. gosh, tomorrow is the day... I'll be contacting them that everything went fine and I'm doing great! (Touch wood!).

The stomach doesn't have all its nerves hooked up for the first couple weeks. You won't truly feel what is happening with it until thise nerves reingage. Those first weeks, consume at most 1/4 of a cup at a time, more frequently. (6 times a day). Keep it thin. Always better to err in not eating enough, and too thin, rather than too much, too thick. Of course get those fluids in! Protein shakes will be your friend for the first couple months.

Walter, very few places do bariatric surgery as a same-day procedure. The first 48 hours, the stomach is so swollen, it is virtually impossible to get enough to drink. You'll go right back to get fluids if they release you same day (barring other complications). Nausea and pain control are also issues that don't necessarily respond to the first medicine attempted. Personally I would never do this surgery in a clinic that planned for it to be a same day procedure. I am a risk-taker too! Going to Mexico!

How did you get your belly skin up? Did it just bounce up from the weight loss, or are you wearing something to keep it up? (Or something else?)

I love compression leggings for exercise. They help keep chafing down. I do have trouble finding ones that fit... I have to wear mens 2xl.

I needed to start my preop diet 2 weeks before surgery. I started it extra early to get the hang of it, with no worries making mistakes. I'm glad I did, as I am more prepared for it. I am on day 2 official preop diet today! It's funny .. when trying to get pregnant, there is a "two week wait". The time between ovulation and potential positive pregnancy test. Now I am in a different two week wait! Congrats on your taking the leap to a better life!

The Johns Hopkins plan involves eating 6 times a day, 2 tablespoons of food each time, plus 2 shakes. For those that can't eat 1/2 a cup at a time, their eating schedule might seem more reasonable. The expectation is it can take 6-8 weeks to start eating more per time, and that is ok, as long as fluid and protein goals are met.

Wowzers! In general, I maintain on 3-4 thousand calories, and lose tons of weight on 1500cals. (With exercise).

You look alot more cheerful! Thanks!

Do not cancel the surgery. This is about your path in life, not hers. Have her become a coach/cheerleader for you. Focus on how the diet choices affect you, and ask her to help you make the right choices. She will learn valuable skills, and will naturally translate these lessons as to how they pertain to her (without you saying a word). With the surgery, you will become a positive role model for her. Without it, she sees how to become a person that needs surgery. (One of my biggest regrets for my own kids).

Moving backwards is actually the correct thing to do if something doesn't agree. Go back to full liquids for a couple days after vomiting (during the first 8 weeks). Hope you feel better soon!

While you are waiting for your sleeve to stretch out a bit, try yogurt or cottage cheese, eat 5 times a day, more liquid proteins and veggies (V8), etc. It is really important to get your calories up to a sustainable level.

Hope they can help figure it out. Are you getting some fat in your diet? A bit could help lubricate things... coconut oil is usually good.

It won't be a problem. Ask the nurse when you are changing into the gown what they want you to do. I doubt a tampon will be a good idea because you may not feel like dealing with it after. Even if you aren't having a period, many times one will start due to the trauma. Definitely not a silly question!

Awesome!

Ha! Go ahead and take some miralax each day. Even though you are on liquids, you still want to go 2-3 times a week. Your body produces waste even when not eating. (Old dead cells and the like).

Oh, and they won't notice your diet. If they offer you a bite of something, just tell them it looks really good, but your tummy is upset. Or you could say the doctor has you on a special diet. Either way would work.

Now, my youngest is 11, so it has been a few years, but honestly I think I would just keep it to what they will experience. "Mommy has to go on a little trip for a few days. You will be taken care of by... I'll be back before you know it, and if you are good, I'll bring a present!" Don't mention what is happening while you are gone, and when you do get back, just say you strained your belly and are sick, so that's why you are sore and resting. There will be time enough later to be honest. At the moment they are really too young.

Nice!

Sounds like something is going on. Maybe low blood sugar, if you on any medications, they may need to be adjusted. Hopefully you aren't getting sick. Call your doc, and hopefully he/she has some answers..

My preop diet had me feeling that way for the first few days. Drink, pee, drink. Guess I got used to it after a bit because that got better.

Yep! It's good to think of this surgery like having a baby. Women typically don't go back to work for 6 weeks after delivery. Some bounce back to normal in a couple weeks, others take a couple months. Everyone is different. Hope you feel better soon!