AntoinetteNY

Hi all, I had my surgery on 5/8/17. Since then, I have been hiding it well from my husband and friends and family, but I have been crying A LOT. Most of my family has not been supportive at all, didn't even call me to check on me before or after the surgery. I feel like a lot of my family members and I are so distant. I try ALL THE TIME to get together with them, but it always seems like they are making up excuses. I feel so bad for my daughter because she is so social and all she wants is to see her cousins and other children in the family. The family members I am specifically speaking about is my brother and my cousins. I try so hard to be a part of their lives but my brother only cares about himself (selfish and immature) and my cousins are very busy with their own lives. I didn't even tell them what type of surgery I got because of how judgmental they all are. And I know, "Why would I want people in my life that are going to judge me?" I guess it is because I love family and time together and I try to see the best in people. I would love to tell them, if I knew I would not get downed or be talked about behind my back, which they totally would. My friends have been supportive but on their own time. When I ask for them for their time, they are always busy or cleaning their house. They call me almost everyday, but sometimes I need that face to face support and a shoulder to cry on. My husband is amazing but he has that "erase them from your life attitude". He will listen and be supportive, but it always ends with "stop talking to them". Like I said I try to give everybody another chance, and a third, fourth and fifth. Even with my husband and my friends, after this surgery, I feel so lonely. I know my family is ignorant and all I do when I think about it is cry. I just want that "don't care" attitude. My brother is a social media bully. He loves to indirectly post nasty stuff about me or anyone he is having a problem with at that moment on Facebook. My husband said to delete him but that doesn't take away what he is saying about me. When my brother and cousin and me are around each other, I am the odd one out. And the fact that I am SO MUCH MORE emotional now, I cry at the thought of this stuff. I know I am NOT alone, but why do I feel that way.

I'm curious about that too? Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

I am counting down the days till I can eat Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

I will have to try that Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

I can't stand broth but I am thinking of ordering wonton soup just for the change. But I'm scared I'll eat the wontons. Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

I had my surgery on may 8th. I dont have my post op appointment until may 18th. I know this is not head hunger, but I am hungry. I can feel my stomach growling. I am sticking to my liquid first but 5 more days seems so long to stay hungry. I eat some jello, powerade, popsicle when I feel hungry but it doesn't always work. Any body experience this or can give any advice. Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

Your tummy stretched Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

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Me too, waiting on the call.

May 8th here too Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

I am almost 1 week out with pre op diet and I have only lost 4 maybe 5 lbs. Is that right? Or should I be losing more? Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

I am just starting and on day 1. Want to cry and cheat but I am nervous doc will open me up, not be happy and not do the surgery

Thank you. U appreciate it

That's great to hear, thank you