Sophie74656

for me my weight lead to social isolation. I was embarassed of myself and walking around was difficult. I was also unemployed and my husband had emotionally left our marriage. So I would spend all day alone in the house...then all evening alone. My husband would come home from work and leave again for some rehersal or "gaming night"...sometime he wouldn't even come home in between. So I would spend day and night alone. I was in a deep depression and had nobody to turn to. My husband defiately didn't care. It was terrible

i am 8 months post op and only have one regret that I didn't do this years ago. it is a major lifelong change and you need to be fully commited to it...but honestly for me it hasn't been super difficult. Some major adjustments but I find my thinking about food is different now. Yes I still obsess about food and think about it often, and still LOOOOVE food. I have lost 175 lbs since my sleeve in Sept 2015

you should meet with a nutritionist and discuss what you can have post op. Every plan is different I was on liquids for two weeks, soft foods for two weeks, then all foods after that

NJ has great food..and we're the diner capital of the world lol

A couple bites won't kill you enjoy your wedding and everything leading up to it. Cake tasting, food tasting, picking out flowers...enjoy it all! When it comes to food tastings just take little bites.

I went to a bariatric center and they had a nutritionist on staff. She was great

I honestly don't think one day will kill you if you have a bite. But just because you're cleared for certain foods doesn't mean they will sit well. If you really want it take a small bite and see how it feels. if it's the first non liquid thing you will be eating I would suggest just a small spoonful or two. You don't know how your new tummy will handle it

well if you're in New Jersey *cough* njrenfaire.com *cough*

thanks guys, I need to keep getting the kick in the butt. After 12 years with him I can't help but want to be nice to him. I know it needs to stop. I have everything I wanted except for 2 photo albums a crochet blanket my mom made and some dishes my grandma gave us that she brought from russia. But in the end I know these are just things...not worth my mental health over.

that's awesome!!!

I still drink soda. I waited a month post op but now I drink it as much as I want. To start with, try getting some small bottles and shaking them up to get the bubbles out

That's what I started doing. this week I told him I will be there on these days whether you are there or not

Hey guys I am 8 months post sleeve and would love to attend a meeting or support group. Does anyone know of any in the central Jersey area?

talk to your surgeon and nutritionist about what you will be able to eat. Every plan is different I was cleared for all food at 4 weeks

these threads always are strange to me. After being significantly overwight my whole life my brain cannot process the concept of loosing too much weight or being too skinny

sorry for the ranting again, just need to get it off my chest My soon to be ex husband is moving in with his parents in the summer so he is packing up our apartment. Every day I have been asking him what day he is free so I can come over to help and to get the rest of my stuff and he says he's busy. He has commitments to renaisance fair rehersal and he has gaming nights. He gets super mad if I tell him to skip one of those things he does for fun so he can do an adult thing like pack, or if I say I'm just going to go over when he's not there. One saturday evening he sends me a text that says I'm free right now come over and help...it was like 8 at night and I said no. So now he keeps giving me grief for not helping. The only reason I still want to help him pack is that I still have some things there that I want to take but more importantly in the few months that I have not been living here he has totally trashed that apartment. It is gross. I don't think he has cleaned the bathroom once since I left and there are piles of crap every where. I'm now worried that not only are we not going to get our deposit back but that we will get charges for damages and he is going to push that I pay half...which I will refuse to pay but its going to be such a pain in the butt I can't wait until this whole thing is over if anyone ever finds themselves in a similar situation...take a bunch of pictures before you leave. Right now I'm wishing I had taken pictures of the clean apartment when I moved out so he stops insisting that it was this bad when I left

yes to the spoon thing. I bought myself a bunch of tiny dishes and baby spoon. It helped a lot. Take a bite and set your utensil down. If I am eating by myself I read a book while I eat. I read a page, take a bite. Or I do something else while I eat that will help me eat slower

I had the sleeve and am very happy with it. I have lost 175 lbs and I still drink things like sweet tea, iced coffee, (just in smaller amounts) please feel free to message me if you would like to talk about it

I usually have a sip or two while I eat. I just can't otherwise

that's great! Good job

your pouch is not too small...you are still swollen inside. Most people have all of their swelling go down about 6 months post op and then you will find you will be able to eat a little more.

So much depends on your insurance. I didn't have a strict pre op diet, definately didn't have to journal what I ate. I know the preop diet is tough but keep thinking about the end results. You can do it

Salmon sashimi is my absolute favorite. I also tried urchin recently and loved it

Ask your nutritionist Once you're cleared for all food then you can have sushi. I recommend sashimi....no rice

I understand the desire to have a baby. When my husband told me he didn't want kids it killed me. We often talked about having a family when we were dating. If i knew he didn't want kids i honestly wouldn't have married him. But now i feel like he stole my "baby years" from me. Im already in my 30s and i worry that by the time i meet someone else and get remarried (IF i get remarried) that i will be too old to have a baby