Mremilio

I think jaw hit the nail on the head ... your upset you even needed to be in this position in the first place. Me, too! But you're here regardless. Time to pull up your big girl panties and make this work for you. You can do this!

Try to relax a little about all these intense and scary thoughts and feelings you are having. Really, they ARE normal for some people and nothing to feel odd about. But right now, please consider that your thoughts are lying to you. You have several stages of new eating to go through while your stomach heals and your body and brain adjust. Stuff you have never come close to experiencing in your entire life. But does that mean you are doomed for life???? NO!! You must have patience and follow your program. Remember you DID just have MAJOR SURGERY. You can CHOOSE to feel sorry for yourself for awhile. And that is ok if that is what you absolutely need to do. (Ask yourself though--is it REALLY?) But please remember that you have to be good to yourself to be successful long-term with WLS. YOU made the decision for WLS. Wishing you didn't is very unproductive thinking and takes away from your precious energy that you soooo need to build that POSITIVE ENERGY and POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND SELF-TALK to view your decision as a FUN ADVENTURE, full of possibilities instead of a lifetime of regret. You have a lot of work to do down the road in learning your new lifestyle and eating habits. You knew this was going to be HARD WORK before you signed on the dotted line. I respectfully must disagree with you--if you could have done it "on your own" you would have done it a long time ago.
I had my surgery one day earlier than you four years ago on 4/26/11. You are probably not ready to hear, must less believe this right now, but my lifestyle and eating is totally normal. I don't think of myself as a freak compared to other "normal" people who haven't had WLS. I eat 3 meals a day and 2 healthy Snacks. The quantity of my meals is very close to what I ate before surgery. Breakfast is often a 1/2 cup cottage cheese, 1/4 cup Greek yogurt, 1/4 cup fresh fruit, 1/4 cup All-bran, made into a pretty parfait! Most sleevers by one year can eat an average of 1 to 1-1/2 cups of food per meal. For dinner that would equal about 4-6 oz of some kind of meat Protein, and 2 servings of veggies and/or complex carb. I dine out with friends (although I choose to keep restraunt eating to a minimum because I like to eat the most nutritious meals that I can and those are the ones we prepare at home).
You will learn to not "hate what you did to yourself" because who wants to live their life feeling that emotion? We want to LOVE life. You are way too young to regret ANY decisions you make. You honor yourself, trust yourself, and live in the present, not yesterday. We cannot change yesterday no matter how hard we try and cry!!!
I wish you peace...

Vitamins are an adjunct and tyou can look at my tickers to see im a little over 5 1/2 months out and down 137 pounds. It took a good month on solid food before i really felt comfortable with my eating. 3 bites is wayyy too little. my day goes like this and has for quite a while, Breakfast 1 egg scrambled with 3 pieces of turkey bacon or two turkey sausages ( i recommend the Johnsonville pre-cooked turkey sausage links, they are awesome and you cant tell they are turkey..really!. ) then about 3 hours later i have a greek yogurt, the dannon low cal sugar free stuff, then 2 hous later i have my lunch either some veggies or a Protein shake with some Peanut Butter ( all natural no sugar type, or use PB2, or fruit or a mix of both) and then 2 hours later a snack usually carrots and so oil and vinegar salad dresssing as a dip kinda thing although there are some great lite salad dessings, just watch the fat and sugar content. but also can have some apple slices maybe, or the like, dinner is chicken fish, beef or pork or turkey, i love indian food type chicken, but ground beef still not having a great amount of luck with steak, or ground beef patties with cheese ( yes a cheeseburger without the bun) you can wrap in lettuce or use a very low fat low cal. no sugar lw carb bread type.
I like the josephs lo carb pita and wraps, very low carbs, and i have about 5 ounces of meat and sometimes a little less than that and some veg or a small side salad, i also like having a salad if im in a hurry with some tuna, and hard boiled i egg in it, or some Protein meat in it. Are my portions small, yep , smaller than i ate before, oh yeah, too small to enjoy, no.
sometimes i wish I could eat more, but i cannot begin to tell you the changes my body has gone through.
You ll get there just dont rush, enjoy the losing.

Yep, you are in full blown denial, sorry but thats one of the first stages, just like the stage of grief your in those grieving over food, and trust me you overate, anyone e who says they didnt overeat they just ate bad things is unable to look at themselves as the cause for their weight problems. You overate, plain and simple accept it, its not some mark against you that people can hold over your head, its just something that you put behind you and learn to be better. If you cant accept yourself as an obese person, and know that only you can make this happen, then you wont get anywhere. Trust me, in week two post surgery i said to my wife that i wish i could undo this. Now id would like t go back and slap myself. Why did i say it? because i wanted to go back to eating my old foods, I wanted to give up. But that is why this works, because you cant give up. You have to see it through. When you get where your going, its a wonderful place to be and im only most of the way there and my life is amazing compared to what it was and I thought it was good before.
Lets see you said "Unfortunately, I now realize that I could have did this on my own. I'm working out everyday, which I wasn't doing before the surgery. Since they recommended I workout daily and eat a high Protein diet, I'm doing it. It's not that I "couldn't" before.
So are you really saying you had no idea that diet and exercise would help you lose weight and only learned that because they told you now? Really?
Here's a hint. diet and exercise help you lose the weight , but keeping it off is up to you! That's how this helps, it forces you to train yourself to eat right.
Remember the start of the journey is always the hardest.

You need some psychological healthcare. Simply sounds to me like you weren't ready for this and jumped into it way too fast. Too many people don't really think about the consequences of what this surgery means. See a counselor or psychiatrist. You have made some HUGE misstatements. You say you can never eat a healthy portion? and you've done so well, knowing what a healthy portion is, in the past? Healthy is a lot smaller than you think it is, otherwise you would not have been obese to begin with. This surgery takes the fun out of food, with good reason.
food is what you live ON , not what you live FOR.
This may sound like I am uncaring but I care a lot more than many might think. This surgery saved my life, no even more than that, it has given me a life to spend with my wife and friends.
A whole new world has opened before me, and it can for you too.
That life does not include being addicted to, and to run my life around, food.
Think about it, and go talk to someone.

I'm sorry your experience has been so negative. This has literally been the easiest thing I have ever done. It appears to be the luck of the draw. Some people have complications and issues and others don't.

For me I drink a lot in between meals and keep busy doing stuff /exercise. I don't think I'm hunger but do battle with cravings. I just tell myself this is temporary till I get to goal. Head hunger is a b****h!

DONT GIVE UP......and if you fall, get back up and FINISH THE JOB!
You
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DONT GIVE UP......and if you fall, get back up and FINISH THE JOB!
You
Can
Do
This.
????

If you quit it defines you....get back on your plan and KEEP GOING! I doesn't matter how times one falls but what does matter is one gets back up. You can do this.

I have been a part of a post talking about what we would not miss after surgery. I thought I would share how my life has changed almost 4 months since surgery and 88 pounds lost.
I am off ALL diabetes medicine! My triglycerides went from 286 to 118 ( I was a heart attack waiting to happen) I can sit in a booth anywhere we go I can cross my legs I can sit on the floor for long periods of time I get up out of chairs without it seeming like I need the help from a crane! Personal Hygiene is MUCH easier I no longer feel like I smell all the time. Sex is amazing I can wear clothes that have been in my closet for years with the tags still on, because I told myself "one day this will fit." I am active with my family. I am no longer a bystander in my own life My husband said I inspire him My kids can put their arms around me when they hug me I no longer need long naps during the day I can climb stairs I can walk more than 3 miles at a time. Before surgery I could not make it around the block without being incredibly winded. I feel more confident I have not flown since surgery, but I cannot wait to fly because I know I will not need to carry my seatbelt extender. I like looking at myself in the mirror now I am planning things that I have never been able to do before because of my size (zip lining, a 5K, amusement parks, etc...) I no longer live to eat, I eat to live I still have almost 100 pounds more to lose, so I cannot imagine how much more my life will continue to change. There has not been one day that I have regretted doing this surgery. As many have said, my only regret is not doing it sooner.

If you quit it defines you....get back on your plan and KEEP GOING! I doesn't matter how times one falls but what does matter is one gets back up. You can do this.

I'm very positive person....but still as soon I came out of anesthesia I thought for split second....WHAT HAVE I DONE!....then I told my self to shut up and put on my cowboy hat and played some Johnny cash?

DONT GIVE UP......and if you fall, get back up and FINISH THE JOB!
You
Can
Do
This.
????

If you quit it defines you....get back on your plan and KEEP GOING! I doesn't matter how times one falls but what does matter is one gets back up. You can do this.

Great job....u are a superwoman!

So.....

Name one guy, JUST ONE, who is looking at your torso when there are nekkid boobs out AND a warm mother earth place for his wiggly worm.
I've been married for 20 years (two months and 6 days) and I can tell you my husband can't even begin to describe the birth mark above my belly button due to BOOBS.
BOOBS.
That's all he sees. Seriously.

That was my weight this am! I am finally below 200!!!!! Barely but I am there! If only I could keep from freaking myself out. This is the weight range I was able to get to when I would try to lose weight prior to surgery. Then I would never make it any further. I am questioning if I will make it any further or if this is it and the surgery was for nothing. I know I know STOP IT!!! But for today I am celebrating my loss AND the fact I am finally beginning to have clothes be too big. I had only 3 pair of jeans and 5 t shirts that fit when I was a t my biggest so now my Pre Biggest clothes are getting too big ! Woot woot!

If you quit it defines you....get back on your plan and KEEP GOING! I doesn't matter how times one falls but what does matter is one gets back up. You can do this.

Just thought I'd share. I am a wife and mother of 3, including two-year old twins. I definitely consider my superwoman because I do it all, husband or not. Anywho, I had the Sleeve 5/6/15, discharged 5/8/15.
5/6/15 - Surgery who? I felt great.
5/7/15 - Why the fudge did I have this surgery? I felt horrible and did have gas pains.
5/8/15 - Okay, I can do this.
Normally an overnight stay is needed but my blood pressure was extremely high (was not high pre-op). I took 5 days off from work. During those 5 days, I have taken care of the kids, cooked dinner almost daily, cleaned my house, laundry, etc. (NO LIFTING). The only regret is that I went grocery shopping, alone. But, I'm the type that just can't sit down and wait for others to do something for me. Ah well.
Day one I had zero problems scarfing down a sugar-free Popsicle and drank about 1/8th of an Isopure. Day 2, attempted optisource and threw it up. I think it was just too thick. Day 3 I probably got down 30g of Protein from Isopure. Day 4+, I easily get my required 60g of Protein. I can eat 1/2 - 3/4 of an egg. Today, my first day of Soup, I had 3/4 of a cup (it was heavenly). The only time I remember that I had surgery is when I get full. It's a weird. While eating an egg, I was like, what is wrong with me; then I realized, oh, I'm full, put the fork down. I will forever hold on to that feeling of eating that egg. Today is day 9 and I'm down 19lbs. SW 275, current 256, 5'10". I am now putting my scale away until I'm 30 days out.
Just thought I'd share for anyone who may be having doubts or questions. I get tired more quickly now but otherwise, I feel great. Can't wait to get some good workouts in.

I have had cravings but I just dismiss by say to my self this is temporary and after I get to goal I can have some comfort foods. Stay the course and will get there.

At week 16....life is becoming more normal... I am now down 56 lbs and losing about 1-2 lbs a week. Calorie counting hasn't been necessary... being that I eat pretty much the same foods/portions... every day. Just trying to live as normal as possible. Getting my Protein in and with the warm weather coming in along with more exercise, I am realizing the importance of getting the liquids in.... Dehydration has been a factor, and I can feel it when I am not getting enough liquids. A few times I felt a strange feeling... almost ill feeling at times on busy days ( I have been so much more active at this point ). As opposed to my former sedentary self.... I have been really filling my time with active things in addition to at least 10-15k steps a day.
I have increased my water/liquid intake and this ill feeling has subsided. Mexico bound in a few weeks (week 18) and I will be posting how I survive an all inclusive resort.....sans alcohol! ....but I do look better in my bathing trunks.....lol
btw thats me on the left at my son's art exhibit....@202 lbs down from 258

@@Deanna66
BECAUSE!!!!
couldn't resist - i took an extra silly pill instead of my Vitamin
back to topic
warning, warning, warning
you will have MAJOR surgery!!!
then you will have a teeny tiny little bitty tummy
its sore, tender
you need to handle tummy with plenty of TLC
be nice to it, and it will be nice to you
your NUT/doc will give you a date you can start puree' etc
this will be a slow process
DEAL WITH IT :lol:
"God Grant Me Patience, Just Hurry Up About It "
good luck
speedy recovery
kathy

If you quit it defines you....get back on your plan and KEEP GOING! I doesn't matter how times one falls but what does matter is one gets back up. You can do this.