Old self

I had a similar experience, but fortunately I'd been lurking on the forums here for a while. Whoever coined the term "Never trust a fart" is my hero, because they saved me from pooping my pants several times already.

Frankly, I believe everyone can benefit from therapy. Especially when someone is making life altering choices or such huge changes it can help immensely.

I think the thoughts and findings for having sugar post-op are relatively new. I read to use full sugar popsicles during the liquid phase and to not worry about sugar too much till you can consume some solid Proteins. I will say I had "some" full sugar things like hot tea... I'm still 29 pounds down....4 weeks post op and I don't really put the low sugar thing into my equation. If I always eat my Protein first, and drink all my Water, there really isn't room for much else so a little sugar does not mess it up. IDK just my 2 cents....

Our pre-surgery numbers are pretty close. I had my surgery last Thursday and it was smooth as silk. I was pretty nervous beforehand and got even more so in the staging area immediately prior to surgery. I was terrified that something would go wrong and that my kids wouldn't have the kind of mother they need.
Three days out, I'm not taking any pain meds but OTC Tylenol and feel good. I actually feel more energetic that before the surgery. You'll have wonderful luck too & surgery will be over before you know it. Then you mom can learn how much funnier a thin you can be.

And the thinner hair wont be forever. It will come back. Then you will have great hair again as well as your health!

My surgeon's office was nothing but polite and caring. You need to let the office manager know, they can't fix it unless they know.
Good luck.

Well you mention Wellbutrin.. But do you see a therapist? A good counselor that deals in disordered eating would be best.
It's really goes hand in hand, I am a food addict a binger and surgery alone does not cure this..

Arts had great advice and I believe he is 100% right - focus on yourself and everything else will follow.
I met my husband at work and had passing contact with him several times a week for over a year. He never once gave me a second look...until the day I dyed my blonde hair red. He saw me and immediately asked me out. Lol.
I could be irritated that he didn't notice me earlier, instead I choose to believe that things happen when they are supposed to.

I love it!
A similar thing happened to me about 8 years ago but in reverse...I saw a really fat version of myself across a store...sadly it was me.

There are some great threads about this, little one. Fixing our stomachs the surgeon can do. But we deal with our heads... Snoop around. And if I was your Pop (since I am old enough FOR SURE) I'd say... "darling, way will open, usually when you least expect it. Focus on yourself and boys will take care of themselves. Focus on boys, and you might never address your own issues!"

I do think you are overthinking it. I know because I did it too!! I was obsessed with reading this forum and trying to figure out what it was going to be like. At the end of the day, I realized that it just like anything else in life. Some people are going to tell you it was horrible. Others will tell you it's no big deal. We all have our own perceptions. For me, it was pretty easy and I look back at what I had done and think, "Man, that's incredible! It was so simple." "Real" pain was an issue ONLY the night of the surgery and at that point I had the most excellent morphine drip. After that first night, I felt fine, albeit sore -- like I'd done lots and lots of sit ups. My main complaint was the fatigue. I did A LOT of sleeping. And I still do. Although I went back to work full time on week 2, I still go to bed when I get home from the office and on weekends, I can easily sleep 12-14 hours. Bottom line: Don't sweat it. Remind yourself why you made the decision. Reassure yourself by reading all our positive stories and then shut your eyes and go for it! Good luck!!

I believe that some of us have true hunger. I started getting hungry on day 10. I'm bummed I'm not 1 of the lucky ones that don't feel hunger. I also don't believe its acid, as some suggest. I take a PPI 2x a day and I've been feeling hunger for 46 yrs, I know what it feels like.
Some of us r lucky, some aren't. It doesn't take much to satiate me but then I'm hungry 90 mins later. Thank God I can only eat so little when I do eat...

I'm right there with you...I just checked in to the surgery center and praying we all do well.

I'm right there with you...I just checked in to the surgery center and praying we all do well.

You look beautiful!

I had a similar experience, but fortunately I'd been lurking on the forums here for a while. Whoever coined the term "Never trust a fart" is my hero, because they saved me from pooping my pants several times already.

I was sleeved on Sept 16. The surgery was a success. My tough time was coming off the anesthesia. All in all I am feeling great. I am up walking. I am drinking my chicken broth And eating Jello. God is sooo good.

This is from a post I made a few weeks ago, it does not answer everything you asked about but it fall into the "tool" part (with an additional comment to follow):
"It was asked of me last weekend if I could clarify one thing about WLS, if I could make one notable point that has not been mentioned what it would be. So I thought, hmmmm….

We are constantly reminded that after WLS our stomachs have gone from being a sources of distress, these large cavernous things that CAUSED us to be overweight, FORCED us into eating poorly, etc. to valuable tools we use to lose weight. We have changed our stomachs to be sure. What, however did we change them to? VGS is generally a laparoscopic procedure that removed most of the body of the stomach. Starting generally below the pylorus, the suture/staple/cauterizing procedure extended along the length of the body of the stomach and removed the greater chamber, and may or may not have removed the fundus. So now what, what does that mean?

Now we have our tool. We eat less, we have to. The weight comes off. It may drop like a rock or progress slower. Different body types, health issues, meds, and still the foods we choose to consume will help determine this. So we have a tool for weight LOSS.

Then we maintain. Now we just eat less and it stays off, right? If you have been on the forum for even a little while you will see it is not always that easy. There are still many questions, lots of issues and answers still to be figured out, each in our own way and time. Many questions are about how to use the tool in maintenance.

BUT this post is not about maintenance; it is about the in-between, one of the less mentioned but in my opinion more profound things we do with this tool that affects our success. I define success not by an ideal size or shape but ability - ability to be a size that allows me to be active, and healthy, and off at least some medication, to name a few things. These are not the only goals I have, but they are the achievements I have that I now use to have a far superior lifestyle to the one I had before.

A big shift I have undergone is that I recognized that my tummy did something I did not expect. It provided a way to eat less and it has definite, defined physical ways it has assisted me, no doubt. Mentally it has assisted and even raised more questions! Beyond that, however, there is something more, and whether or not I embrace it I think is the true test of how successful this will be for me. I am talking about the “gap”. I have tried to find any reference to it in the articles and such that I spend a bit of time reading but so far I have not found that many.

The gap I refer to is that space that we never met successfully when we dieted. The ‘ –‘ in yo-yo. That point where the adulation of successful weight loss, and health and compliments began to lose momentum. It lagged with stress of home life, maybe. It was the burger and fries when, honestly, even if it had been a lackluster salad one could have ordered that instead, heck ordered TWO, whatever to be full – but did not. It is the sinking feeling one get when 50 lbs. of weight loss did not make the ailing marriage better, or the bills did not pay themselves. Maybe the issues that were under those layers were still there and still hurt. food was there, with food came feelings of comfort and simultaneous guilt, and a yo-yo began before the weight even crept back on.

Here is the “gap” the ‘ –‘ in yo-yo, and here is where our new friends, our new tummies, kick in. I think it is much underrated in the WLS journey. Our sleeves fill the “gap”. In between that space that we could not overcome, that ‘– ‘ in the yo-yo. We do not eat the burger and fries, we cannot overindulge by volume. We have a means to bridge that gap, if we want it. I think our longest terms of success can be affected by how we choose to take advantage of this bridge over the gap. Better habits, educating ourselves on food choices, understanding what got us here, learning to forgive and set vanity aside. Repairing the mental damage from being in the shells we were in, this is something our sleeves offer us that we did not have before. Much more important than just eating less and as vital as exercise - we have time. Time to recover before we even stumble, time to get equanimity from our minds and bodies at the same time we do not regress to bad habits and start that journey back up the scale.

We have time to make time – days and months and years to in turn create space to enjoy those days and months and years. If we did not gain a day from this, we gain quality. You know the sayings about rather have quality of years over a lot of years? We get an opportunity for both!!! From VGS and the bridge it gave over the “gap”."
Now, as far as everyone struggling years later, that is falling back into habits, and eating foods that they ate before. No one wants to hear this but you are undergoing a permanent, life altering event. To enjoy a long-term success, you will need to permanently alter your choices of foods, exercise as you can, get control of emotional triggers and I would seriously recommend reading “The Power of Habit” by Dughil.
If you are asking why incorporate this, and make the struggle easier, and yet still struggle – but say struggle at 250 lbs rather than 400, or 180 rather than 250. Well, that is your answer.

I'm six months out and yes it's a struggle even this early on, but for the first time in my life it's MANAGEABLE. I had gotten up to 360 pounds and managed to lose 20 and just stayed there even when I was putting in effort. I don't MIND making effort to lose weight as long as I don't feel like it's insurmountable. Having the surgery didn't make things easy for me.. but it did make it less hard!

I've only told my husband and best friend who lives far away. They are both very supportive but I know the rest of my family would not be. I love them, but I don't need the negativity about this.
My mother is awful about it...when my father commented about how nice his mechanics wife looked since losing so much weight( she was sleeved) my mom pursed her lips and said "we'll she won't keep it off she goes back to her old habits."

Frankly, I believe everyone can benefit from therapy. Especially when someone is making life altering choices or such huge changes it can help immensely.

I have been digging unsweetened iced tea too, but I get mine from Sonic because I love their ice.

I think everyone is different. You also have to consider your bone structure.
People with a larger bone structure would probably look better at the higher end of the "goal" weight whereas someone with a small frame would look better at the lower end. KWIM?

I think everyone is different. You also have to consider your bone structure.
People with a larger bone structure would probably look better at the higher end of the "goal" weight whereas someone with a small frame would look better at the lower end. KWIM?