Daddysgirl10

Let's share some personal truths about the process here.
At 9 weeks post-op, I have found one thing to be consistently true: I have to take a total no-BS approach to this process or I won't be successful in the long-term. After a very long night of thinking of my past, my present, and my future, after confronting all the habits that got me into this place, I realized that to be successful I need to be CONSTANTLY DILIGENT about sweets, Snacks, sneaks, and lies.
Sweets: It's possible that sugar really was the glue that held me together through all I've been through over the years. I love sweets. I still love sweets. I think about chocolate chip Cookies for way too many moments each day. Unfortunately, it won't take too many sweets to add on hundreds of calories each day. One McDonald's cookie is 160 calories! So... my sweets... you have to go. But wait! I'm supposed to have 4 calcium chews a day! Those are like Starbursts and make nice treats! However... this means I'm still in the habit of popping sweets all day. From now on, I'll be chewing those with my Protein Drinks. It's a slippery slope from popping Calcium chews to popping real candy, so the habit itself has to go.
Snacks: My nutritionist gave me a meal and Protein plan. Unfortunately, I have always been a huge fan of what I call "boredom grazing." Passing the fridge? Maybe there's something interesting in there! Just returned from shopping? Must be time for a snack! Going through a drive-through for a drink? A small fry order wouldn't hurt much. Sigh... If I have to avoid the whole main floor until I break this habit, I will do so.
Sneaks: I'm not going to have a snack. I'm just going to have an olive. I'm done eating dinner, and I'm full, but I think I can squeeze one more bite in as I put the food away. I stuck my "to go" box in the fridge after returning from dinner, but I'll just have another bite or two before going to bed. Need I say more?
Lies: Oh, boy... the lies I told myself as I got to this point. "I'll eat what I want on vacation but lose it as soon as I get back."; "This looks like about a 100 calorie serving..."; and, oh, yeah... "I'll start tomorrow." What's my current lie??? "This is about a quarter of a cup serving. Ok, I'm being really good, so I'll MEASURE that quarter of a cup... yeah, that's a quarter cup, but I'm just going to heap a couple of mashed carrots on top of that cup, because those won't really hurt." These lies hurt no one but me. If I'm going to succeed, I must demand TOTAL HONESTY from myself.
So my solution is now to track every single bite of what I eat--even one measly olive--and analyze what I've done each day, to do my best at all times, to be as plan compliant as possible, and to get right back on track the moment I notice I've gone astray.
I am determined to succeed.
I am detetermined to change.
I am determined to get my life back again. One habit at a time. Every day. Forever.

Woohoo!!! Ran first lap, ran the straight-aways for 3 1/2 miles, and I walked the last. I feel great! I can't wait until I can run the full four, but I'm getting there. Drinking a recovery shake, I'm going to let that settle, then I'm hitting the weights.
#feelingPUMPED

jacee -
I sooooo agree with everyone else. Just forgive yourself and move on. Old habits are hard to break. If you don't like the therapy idea, consider meditation or going back to support groups or getting a mentor.
A positive attitude is also a defining moment in these situations. You can do this...look how far you came. (Just be there for me when I am on the onederland fence!)
tc
CassieWNY

Ok so here goes- I am stuck at 205. 5 Magical short pounds from "Onderland" Why I am stuck here at 205? I will tell you why, because I have been eating slider foods. Mainly Fritos and Junaitas chips sometimes popcorn and close your eyes....even chocolate. So pissed it doesent make me sick like everyone else. Just my luck, it goes down like normal. Usually at bed time. Its comfort food (not making excuses just keeping it real) I am not sure why I am sabotaging myself. I am sure its physiological, although I am not a physiologist. Why I am afraid of going down into the next chapter, am I afraid of success? of the ok, I have done this now what? I have done this and reached my goal but it wasn't the cure all of everything? Am I loosing all this weight for a reaction from others I am afraid I am not going to get. or I will get and not know how to handle it? I haven't had my hair done, or tanned. I think another way of hiding. I think what the problem is that Its been 10 years since I was thin. And at that time I was pretty and young. Now 10 years later, I am afraid to see what I will look like after all this weight is gone, and I get my hair done, and their is nothing more physically that I can do to transform myself and their staring at me in the mirror will be a wrinkled up skinny lady and that's all I can do. PS Tonite I did not eat chocolate...lol I have been very honest so please be nice....

So the last month for me has been so great, but as for my tracking food and watching what I'm eating not so great though I did learn a lot. My husband came home for 3 weeks from his year long tour in Korea and that was amazing. He was followed by family that came in town from Norway. So needless to say I was not being so faithful on watching what I was eating. Luckily I didn't over eat much, it was more that what I was eating was junk. I actually found that when I don't monitor my eating I way under eat for a few days and then have a day or two of being crazy hungry and the cycle continues. So starting today I am back on track with my eating and exercising,

My weight loss has been very satisfactory....I have figured out the rhythms of holding steady and then loss so I am okay with this. I was 320 at my highest weight. 310 date of surgery and currently holding steady at 214, I am wearing xl or large and size 16, I look quite good now but would like to get down to 165
I can eat almost anything with no problem other than rice...it's uncomfortable and of no consequence since it holds no nutritional value. It's funny I freaked out in the beginning immediately post op because I could not eat much...now I love the restriction:)

Im getting all Vitamins and minerals from food. Labs looked great. No supplements here!

Beautiful

I did it! Just got back from my one year post op appointment! Here are the facts:
Day of surgery 299 pounds and a 44 BMI
Today 172 pounds and a 28 BMI.
Was a tight size 24, now I wear a comfortable size 10!
I am 5'9''
Best thing I have ever done for myself.
I do watch what I eat, but I have no regimented exercise. I have bad knees, but stay busy with my 3 daughters...getting ready to go horseback riding in a few hours -
If you are unsure, I am telling you - it is fantastic!
I LOVE to go shopping now.
I have never been sick - not once. No puking for me...but I am a wussy and never "pushed" it,....when I am full, I stop eating.
I do have some loose skin on my upper underside of my arms, my lower belly and inner thighs...but only hubby really sees that, and he doesn't mind:) I have been pregnant 3 times, and I do not know why I was worried about how my stomach would look...it's not like 3 fat rolls were that much more attractive!
I look cute in my tankini
There is nothing I CAN'T eat, but a lot of stuff I shouldn't - so I try to still stay away from most carby things....unless it's an occasional treat. I like to stay around 40g of carbs a day....
If the kids want ice cream at Marble Slab - I don't order any for myself, but I take a bite or two of theirs and feel satisfied:)
My hair is getting nice and thick again - thankk GOD!
My levels all looked good - but I do need to start ub the sublingual B12 again....I am terrible about taking a pill!!
My doctor would like to see me go down to 160 because I like the weight I am at now....he says I will regain some of my muscle mass that I have inevitably lost, and if the lower 170's is were I want to be for maintenance, getting to 160 will assure that!
As always, feel free to contact me if you have specific questions. I don't get on here much anymore - but my personal email is ssmonte72@yahoo.com I WILL respond to you!
God Bless!
Shannon

Awesome! I just learned to that your body will hold on to the fat if it thinks you are not going to feed it. I think, I know you did the right thing by upping you calories. I haven't been counting my calories yet just Proteins. I think I will start.

I wouldn't have believed it either. The decision to add more calories was a big one for me. After having little control over calories for so long, and now reveling in taking care of myself it was a big deal adding them in (really I was afraid to loose control again). Previously I kept them about 600-700. The scale was hardly moving for the past 2 months. I have read on here, and my trainer told me the body will not let it go (not easily anyway) if it thinks your not going to feed it. So I moved my cals up to 900-1000 per day. I said to myself just for this week to see what happens. 5lb in a week! That hasnt happened for me since week 2. I'm upping mostly with some extra fruit (has helped energy), sometimes Peanut Butter, and sometimes the occasional small treat! Yay me!

My surgery was June 12th, I am now down 38lbs since my first Visit with the surgeon and I'm down 19 since my surgery date. I fell as if I'm losing slow too. I have just starting weighing once a week so I don't stress out about it. :-)

Hello All,
Just checking in! So, today I am 5 weeks post-op and for the most part I am doing really well. I'm now getting in all of my Protein and some. Yay me!!! As to in the beginning I wasn't getting any. Still not doing to hot with the Vitamins though.
I have noticed lately I have this pain in mt left side just above and under my scare whenever I bend over, lay, or turn the wrong way. When I rub it I can feel a knot in there, something I will have to talk to my surgeon about when I go back.
I kicked in a little more time with my work out this week and I think I need to go back to the 30 min day due to the pain right now. I was at a stall for 2 weeks (that was a bummer), so what I started doing last week was logging my food and weighing in once a week on Wednesday's. Got on the scale this morning and was down 4lbs. I was soooooo shocked because I don't feel as if I lost anything at all, my son's teacher asked me this morning was I losing weight and I had to ask her does it look like it? She said yes, I was stunned because I can't see it nor feel the difference. One thing for sure though, she really made my morning. She was the very first person to ask me if I was losing weight since I had surgery. No one else has said anything to me at all about it.
I will say I am LOVING MY SLEEVE!!!!

Taking my kiddo to the beach today for some body surfing. Haven't been to the beach in 7 years. 3 weeks post op down 20 pounds. Cw 203. This is so surreal!

Follow your doctors advise. I can guarantee that you are not hungry. Its probably acid or head hunger.
Are you bored? Do you need to go do something? I would go find something to do. Drink a glass of Fluid, give yourself 20 min then evaluate again if you are hungry.

I started walking 1.5 miles at about day 4 and a little over 3 miles a day by day 7 po. I'm 5 weeks out now and try to get to the gym between 4-6days a week and walk 3.7 miles in an hour on the treadmill. Need to start working in some weights soon.

I hit a stall and trust me it does not last! Maybe you should reevaluate what you are doing in the gym/ or what you're doing as far as exercising. Sometimes when you start weight training your body loses inches and remember muscle weighs more than fat! Be encouraged!!!!

I had a couple of stalls in my first couple of months out. I got frustrated and discouraged and was to the point that I wanted to throw my hands up and eat a donut. BUT I didn't. Some weeks I lose more than others, I've even had a week where I gained, but it has been almost two months (6 weeks anyway) since I've had a week where I didn't at least lose SOMETHING. Keep the work up, the weight will come off. Everyone loses at a different pace, and you may end up and be a slow loser. Remember that the 29 pounds that you lost are gone forever, never to return. Keep your head up, as hard as it may be, and keep chugging along. Change things up a bit to see if that will help. Decrease your carbs, increase Protein or vice versa, increase your Water and exercise. Try to change things up and see if it will help. Good luck and keep pressing on!

Hey Slimdreams,
I can't locate this person you listed to get added to the fb page. Can you help me out with this?

THEY ARE ALL HATERS!!!!!!! I'm so glad that evryone around me just says nothing, so I don't know if they notice the differance or do they just still see the PHAT me????

THEY ARE ALL HATERS!!!!!!! I'm so glad that evryone around me just says nothing, so I don't know if they notice the differance or do they just still see the PHAT me????

Whoah there slow down a bit. Your one week out. I think its awesome you can do that but I wouldnt break out into a run so soon. Remember , you have had a major surgery I would stick to the walking for now Im sure if you mentioned jogging to your md he would freak. lol Your doing so good hang on a few more weeks keep your walking up your body will thank you for it.

i understand. at our fourth of july get together, my sister in law was like "so, it's basically Atkins right?" "you could have done that without surgery." oh what the hell ever! good thing the rest of my family is supportive.

Just yesterday a lady at my work is so jealous of my weight loss that she started telling people that Ive been taking HCG and limiting my calories to 500 a day. She doesnt know about the surgery and frankly its none of her business because she is a huge gossip but my point is that jealous people can be so mean and hurtful.
How about being happy for someone improving their health and being happy with themselves. What a concept. Hold you head high my dear and screw the haters!

Yeah REALLY! Sounds like she's HATING the fact that you will eventually look BETTER than her...WORK IT GIRL!!