NurseGrace

If you cannot lose right now the first thing I always tell people is to make sure you do not GAIN. Sometimes thats the first thing people start doing for whatever the reasons. The scale stops moving in the direction they want so caution gets thrown to the wind. I would suggest you focus on maintaining this 85 pound weight loss for one additional month, then redirect toward losing again. I don't suggest fighting your body right now because you may not have a ton of success. You just forced it to lose 85 pounds in 4ish months it looks like and you might need to "catch your breath" so to speak

Blooming onion.... not that I know anything about that.

Wait until you are tollerating solid foods across the board before you try something with that many different consistencies in one bite. People flip thier **** when they see pizza so be prepared for that though. Looks like you're already experiencing some of that though.

you cannot spot reduce and also fat cells never go away unless you have them sucked out via liposuction or cut off via plastic surgery of some sort. They only deflate. It's hard to understand what you mean by this question.

I am the same way. People look at me like I have three heads when I say that but I really just dont have any motherly instinct.

I'm 24. Its scary, we have a long life ahead of us to live with this choice.

yes but like many things the factors are dependent on many variables. Protein has calories per just like everything else. This is the breakdown Fat: 1 gram = 9 calories Protein: 1 gram = 4 calories Carbohydrates: 1 gram = 4 calories Alcohol: 1 gram = 7 calories

I had a post op appointment yesterday and my doctor told me that the farther out from surgery the more we have to rely on the rules to keep the scale moving. That can be hard if we haven't been as careful all through the process. My advice is to dust off your old guidelines or get some online from some other surgeon if you were not provided with some. Mine are available for printing and downloading in PDF format online at http://www.laplose.com/weight-loss-surgery-kansas-city-iabs/diet-guides-before-and-after-weight-loss-surgery-procedures.html

Yeah, I go through slumps. I am 53 days out and about 41 pounds down and I get depressed because I can't see the changes all the time. I can really tell it in my face and my tummy but then sometimes I feel just as dumpy and big as I ever did. I am taking pictures every 60 days, I can't want to compare day 60 to the before picture I currently have posted on my profile.

You are going to be fine but from here on out you need to take this diet more seriously. You have not ruined anything so you don't need to have some type of doomsday mood about the whole thing. The most important time pre-op as far as food goes are the last 7-5 days.

You would really do yourself a service to stop counting these people among your friends. It's hard and it sucks because I think in most cultures cutting people off is considered sort of.... unstable or cold... but sometimes its really important. If you examine relationships like that there us usually a lot more issues than the back-handed comments anyway. Those are usually a system of other issues. I'm not telling you to divorce all your buddies, but you might consider it. I did, and it stung for a while and it was hard to take sometimes and I DID experience some loneliness but working through that hsa allowed me to take my life to a completely different level, meanwhile those girls are still living with mom and dad at the age of 27 and mooching off other people and society in general.

The important thing to remember when in these situations is that if you value those relationships AT ALL you need to realize that these people, as clueless as they are, mean well. My second thing to say on this subject is that this is a SHINING example of why I do not share this information - everyone who has a chip on their shoulder about losing 4 pounds and keeping it off for a few months will give you their opinions, philosophies, and rules about all things dietary and fitness.

I have to agree with you. If you have a certain goal so long as it is not unhealthy you should go for it. Most people around us on some level like for things to stay the same, because change is threatening because it makes other people feel like they should be doing better. It's not so black and white though of course, no one sits around thinking "Oh I don't want that person to lose weight" but we do to a large extent encourage mediocrity. So, if you want to lose those last pounds I would encourage you to do so. Try not to sit around thinking about how unhappy you are about your gain, because it was very small. Make the changes you know you need to make, or just get more serious about it in general and you will be there in no time.

Yes and no. You really do not want to be eating soft mushy stuff, even if it is only just a little bit, because it defeats the secondary purpose of the sleeve, which is KEEPING you full. In the beginning this doesn't really matter, but later on when things are going more smoothly those three bites of whatever it might be (for me, its cheesecake) turns into 4 bites, and guess what? ten minutes later you'll be able to have another 4 bites... before you know it, you've thrown down ALMOST like you used too with 2 moderately sized pieces of cheesecake... Not that I would know anything about that.... Now, that being said, yes, most of your days are going to look like normal foods, but just bear in mind that you should still avoid certain things because of their consistency.

Ideally we really don't want to be eating mushy stuff but if you are craving potatoes I think its OK to do that once in a while. Not every day is going to be picture perfect lean Protein first, nonstarchy veg (solid) I say go for it, just not every day.

I can still shop at lane Bryant but in a brave show of commitment and solidarity to the cause I have unsubscribed from their promotional emails. Im not buying any significant clothing until i get to a size 14ish. Until then walmart will have to do.

Soup!

Sorry for the repeat post. Im mobile and so its a little testy.

Reverse back to liquids and call your surgical team. Piercing pain is not normal. It could just be too soon to transition but it could be something else.

probably not like you did before but you will create a new normal.

This is just a simple mistake in what you should be fundamentally looking for as a bariatric patient in regards to what feeling you should be searching for Your goal should not be to get "full" your goal should be to eat enough to keep you going. Comfortably unhungry, actually. Pushing your new tummy to absolute capacity isn't the best.

Some of us have really ugly, judgmental people in our lives. This topic has been sort of rehashed to death and I have explained this before but I don't mind telling it again because there may be new people trying to decide what to do and this is the thread they find first. I had a lapband back when they were all the rage before it came out that lap band patients do no better statistically than weight watchers people. It was great at first, lost about 45 pounds and got down to about a size 14ish. Then all the struggles came. Later on I found out that I had suffered a slip, but they did not discover that for years. I lived with throwing up constantly, eating to make up for it, eating all the things WLS patients shouldn't have because they were the only things that wouldn't make me PUKE. Long story short, gained all the weight back, plus a little for good measure. Most people didn't see the sickness, they just saw the weight creeping back. It was aweful, I was in so much pain and people are cruel. It's easy to say you don't give a flying youknowwhat when everything is going great because the weight loss is its own reward but when the stuff hits the fan, and you NEED support and people are talking about you when your not in the room.... It's not so easy anymore, and unfortunately, thats when it really matters. I don't try to talk people out of telling people, because its a personal thing, but being a bariatric patient of 6 years.... my perspective is different. If you have nothing but smooth sailing its one thing, but if you don't and you have told everyone, hang onto your hats because you'll be in for a lesson in how people REALLY are.

I put off this surgery for two years until I was certain. While it looks like everyone is basically telling you those are normal feelings (they are) you need to get clear on what you want in life. Sometimes those "simple pleasures" are not so innocent for us big people - sometimes those are the very things actively killing us. Not to be so dramatic, bit really... Sometimes the fantastic meal and the glass of wine are not the same thing for you and me as it is for our skinnier counterparts that don't have issues with food. I have no way of knowing if you personally have food issues because I don't know you, but most people who eat themselves up to a weight where WLS is an option DO have food issues so that's my working assumption unless people say otherwise. Most people experience a bit of a slump at one point or another post surgery when the reality hits home that the amounts we used to eat just is not a possibility anymore.... so that is all normal. However, you cannot have your stomach back. If you walk into the hospital and go through with this, things will fundamentally change for you, for the better most likely if you work it to your advantage AND assuming you have no complications. Complications are rare but they do happen, how comfortable are you with that? I went in to surgery knowing what could happen to me and I encourage you to do the same, if we are realistic in our expectations I think we are better equipt to deal with any and all possibly outcomes.

I'm only about 2 months out but so far the only "stall" I have had was the one from the first month. It lasted nearly two and a half weeks too so brace yourself. Hopefully that won't happen to you but it might so get ready. I lived by the mantra "I cannot maintain THIS WEIGHT eating only 800 calories a day, it's not physically possible, this will pass" and sure enough, it DID pass, but it took time. I don't know why that happened but it seems to be pretty much the norm around here. This month I have not experienced a stall in weight loss having anything to do with my cycle. In fact, this month food is a real turn off/debby downer.