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Thanks for your perspective! And all the best for your surgery tomorrow. Congratulations!

I get what you are saying. I need to learn to express that thought in a loving way, I think. I don't want to be mean.

Thanks for the support Bec and you are right, I think he thinks he is giving me helpful nudges. He has a pattern that he gets more judgey when he is in a watching-weight phase. I guess we all do that. I will try to be patient while still stating my boundaries.

I want to run in a 10k race in 2014. I want to reach my goal weight in 2014. I think it's reasonable to lose 30 more pounds in a year. If not, I want to be closer than now! I want to ride my bicycle at least once every week in 2014. I want to begin to tackle some of the tough problems that I used to mask with food. There is a book on my shelf that I have been too scared to read but I will read it in 2014 and start healing.

Actually this has been building up. My husband has become the FP again. Yesterday it was "do you need that cookie?" Today it was "wow that looks like a big lunch" (I didn't finish it but this is when I first sat down) and then the big one "I can't believe you already opened those chocolates we were given!" Ok a few things here. First, I log everything. Second, I have not had a stall or any complaint about my rate of loss since being sleeved. Third, I make my own meals and have been quite independent where food is concerned since a year before my sleeve when I was doing medically supervised Optifast. Fourth, and the big one. This was always his "role" in the past. For several years now I have had to assert that I need him not to do this. I grew up with the worst food police ever and never learned any independence about food when I was growing up. I have had to learn it as an adult. I think he is starting to notice and work on his own weight. He just finished couch to 5k. He got me a Fitbit flex and the Aria scale for Christmas. He added himself to the scale and asked me for my old Fitbit one. I know he was either not weighing on the old scale (denial?) or weighing and not telling me about it. I don't bother him or ask him about his weight but I think seeing that my BMI is actually lower than his when he weighed on the new scale might have upset him. I think he sees himself as just a few kg e tea, but in fact his BMI is over 30 now. So I did again ask him not to be the food police (both yesterday teasingly, and today quite seriously). He claimed that I hadn't lost any weight in a month. Actually I have lost 4 kg (8 lb), but I did mention that when I got back from a two week trip to India I was the same as when I left (I dropped a kg quickly the next day or two, because it was swelling from flying, but I didn't update him). I think he still doesn't trust that I won't screw this up. Fair enough, I still have those thoughts too. But my sense of boundaries is a lot stronger now. I don't believe he has the right to act as though I don't look great. If I stop losing now, he should be ok with it. I am in a size 12, I am overweight BMI (almost all the health benefits come from dropping from obese into overweight, statistically), and have lost 35 kg (70 lb). If I had always been this weight I would not accept a man telling me I needed to lose, so he doesn't get to insinuate that either. He gets to be proud of me and trust me. Even if I gain, it is on me and not on him, right? I'm just having a hard time with this. I don't want to get in a fight about it but I want to protect my boundaries and self esteem. And mostly I wanted to vent a little and put it out there for others to react to. What do you think?

Most of the carbs in beans are not highly available to the body. It would probably be even less with the malabsorption after DS. Beans are extremely low on the glycemic index.

I don't know about this study, but I asked my surgeon about re-operations. He said that other surgeries count, such as hernia repair or gall bladder removal after the initial bariatric surgery. And some sleeves are revised to RNY or DS because of reflux problems or not enough weight loss. Those would all count as re-operations, I believe.

You mean like potatoes, which are full of essential vitamins and minerals? I know I still have potatoes occasionally (more like 1/4 of a russet).

Hi all, Please visit these four threads and add your favorite and most reliable foods and recipes during each phase of the post-op diet after the sleeve. Links to recipes you found elsewhere would be great too. This is the number one question asked by new pre-ops and post-ops and we would like to have lists available to them. These threads can be found in Main Gastric Sleeve Forums -> food and Nutrition -> Pre-op and Post-op Diets, and they are pinned so they are easy to find. Thanks for your help! http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292196-staple-foods-for-pre-op/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292197-staple-foods-for-the-liquid-phase-phase-1/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292198-staple-foods-for-puree-phase-2/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292199-staple-foods-for-the-soft-food-stage-phase-3/

Hi all, Please visit these four threads and add your favorite and most reliable foods and recipes during each phase of the post-op diet after the sleeve. Links to recipes you found elsewhere would be great too. This is the number one question asked by new pre-ops and post-ops and we would like to have lists available to them. These threads can be found in Main Gastric Sleeve Forums -> food and Nutrition -> Pre-op and Post-op Diets, and they are pinned so they are easy to find. Thanks for your help! http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292196-staple-foods-for-pre-op/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292197-staple-foods-for-the-liquid-phase-phase-1/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292198-staple-foods-for-puree-phase-2/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292199-staple-foods-for-the-soft-food-stage-phase-3/

Hi all, Please visit these four threads and add your favorite and most reliable foods and recipes during each phase of the post-op diet after the sleeve. Links to recipes you found elsewhere would be great too. This is the number one question asked by new pre-ops and post-ops and we would like to have lists available to them. These threads can be found in Main Gastric Sleeve Forums -> food and Nutrition -> Pre-op and Post-op Diets, and they are pinned so they are easy to find. Thanks for your help! http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292196-staple-foods-for-pre-op/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292197-staple-foods-for-the-liquid-phase-phase-1/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292198-staple-foods-for-puree-phase-2/ http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292199-staple-foods-for-the-soft-food-stage-phase-3/

You haven't blown it! Quite a few vets have regained weight and successfully taken it off again. Look for posts by Georgia, oregondaisy, feedyoureye, and others here. There is no expiration date on the sleeve and it will work for you if you work your program. I am sure some of the vets will chime in and give you specific suggestions. You have taken the biggest step by reaching out for support!

I tend to agree, but remember there was a low carb "craze" in the 90s and still people kept getting fatter than ever. Lots of people,think they are cutting back on carbs when they really aren't. I know lots of folks who think they are eating pales but they aren't. I guess the problem with low carb is what do you replace it with? It seems to me that bariatric surgery forces us to eat an ideal diet of high protein, low carb, and moderate fat. Maybe if people could do that on their own they could keep the weight off. But that's basically South Beach and how many of us tried that without long-term success pre-op? I'm still not sure why it took surgery for me. I wouldn't recommend surgery to my husband who has a BMI of 30, but what SHOULD I recommend? It's a tough one.

I loved that part of the program where every run was proof to myself that I could succeed! Congratulations!

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/292198-staple-foods-for-puree-phase-2/ You can also find lots of recipes by using the search function to search for Purée in the Recipe Sharing section. Yep it's fine and expected to use some liquid foods on the purée phase. By the way, the crackers are not technically purée unless you are throwing the Soup in the blender with them. You probably don't need them anyway.

6 weeks and you are completely healed according to my surgeon.

If drinks are too sweet just water them down. I drank a lot of half strength juice and Gatorade.

You are only two pounds over overweight. Almost all the health benefits of losing weight come from moving from obese into overweight and the rest is just cosmetic. So you are basically there. If you like how you look and you are having to work really hard to keep losing, call goal. If you are still finding it easy to lose and you'd like to try to lose more, maybe to give yourself a "bounce range", why not? If weight is still coming off and if it was me, I'd probably go with it, as long as I was happy with how I was feeling and looking. You have already arrived, for health purposes. The rest is up to you. Congratulations!

I hope you all don't mind but I think this thread should be in the December 2012(!) Sleevers forum. Am I right? If so, happy sleeve-a-versary to you all!

It is hard to beat the protein in cottage cheese. 12 grams in a 100 gram serving (about 1/2 cup I think). Even for low-fat or fat-free. And you feel quite satisfied afterward.

There is a whole group already: http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/289466-january-2014-sleevers/

They are scars. You can't get rid of them. I bet they were there already but were stretched and now your skin is more loose because you have lost some weight so they are more obvious. You can get expensive creams and gels that probably don't work or you can just take care of your skin by keeping it in good shape and drinking your water and getting your vitamins. As you lose weight the stretch marks will fade and not be very noticeable. How many people see your stomach anyway? If they saw mine at 7+ months out they might want to claw their eyes out.

Can you get the isopure shakes? They are clear protein in fruit flavors and ready to drink. Some people say they go down easily and it would be doubling as protein and fluid. They are a bit expensive but it may be worth it for a couple of weeks.

I have lost several ring sizes and even my feet have gone down 1.5 sizes! Oh and necklaces hang lower. For reference I have gone from a 20w pants to a 12, same for dresses. 2xl to medium top. 44DD to 32D bra. And I expect to lose a few more sizes still.

Any therapy that gets your BMI down into an overweight or even better, healthy range, will improve your PCOS. PCOS is made much worse by the hormones that are stored in and produced by abdominal fat (visceral fat). Also by losing fat, you will become less insulin resistant. If you have more than 17 BMI points to lose to get to healthy BMI, the conventional wisdom used to be that you should get RNY. Thinking seems to be shifting now that there are more studies on the sleeve that show 10+ years of data, which shows comparable rates of weight loss with the sleeve as with RNY. Also, for diabetes, RNY is known to send insulin-resistant type 2 diabetes into remission, quite often immediately after the surgery. Well, this happens with the sleeve too. It happened to me and with some other people on these forums. Who knows if my diabetes will stay away for the long term, but I'm happy to say it has been gone for more than 7 months now. The RNY is also a great surgery and is the right surgery for many people. But take your advice from your surgeon, not the insurance coordinator.