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Right now, you are healing. You do not need drama on top of that. Just try to think of yourself and heal and handle momma later.
Your surgeon will take care of any problem you might have. You don't need your mom as a nurse.
A saying I use if someone gets mad at me
" they'll have to get happy in the same pants they got mad in". I don't let it bother me. THEY need to decide if THEY want to get over themselves.
Good luck and take care!

Personally, I would find a different doctor. With the amount of money I put into medical care, I refuse to see someone that I don't feel completely comfortable with. Having a doctor that purposefully hinders medical treatment is ridiculous.

Another spin on it is, can you keep the weight off? The big thing for me in getting the band is keeping it off. I have lost 100 lbs twice, 40 lbs, so on and so on, and it comes back every time and more comes back every time with it.

I have been twice now to the group in Festus. Come join us we are just a group of people that talk about our band problems and learn new things from our dietician and sometimes a psychologist.

I've not had your expeiences but right now my band is rather loose. Occasionally I get stuck for a few minutes but it's always my own fault for taking much too large a bite and not chewing properly. I may go back to the doc in January and get a fill. That could speed up my weight loss plan. My band(tool) is similar to where your band is in tightness I would think?
However, I'm still losing weight, although only 1-2 lbs a month now. I'm OK with that. But, my point is, I could fall far away from the bandwagon if I chose to do so. I don't. For you to get back on the wagon with the limited tool you have, you will have to make adjustments in the food you eat and your exercise regimen. There is no miracle pill or comment that can make you start eating healthy again. No one can make you start walking, biking or exercising in your living room but you.
You must already know what you have to do because it wasn't that long ago you did it. Recognizing it here is a first step. Putting together a plan of action and making a commitment is the next step. You CAN do it. You know you can and to be healthy, you must.
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Wow it sounds like you have been through the ringer!!! I am so sorry for the heartache you have been through - how great though that you want to get back on track. For one thing you could go back to the basics, especially if you have your paperwork and stuff. Maybe you could go to some seminars and get them again even if you don't go back to a dr. Start tracking what you eat. Start exercising. Start making your band work for you even if you don't have restriction, just like you did in the beginning before you were filled, etc. At least it's a start, right?

I am at a wedding rehearsal and they are eating my very favorite Mexican food! I am sitting with my Protein Shake 2 oz and trying to distract myself. I got this.

I'm good! I got a fill the day before yesterday and I can sure tell a difference. I'm sure I'll loosen up some more as the swelling goes down, but I'm thinking that I might FINALLY be in my green zone.

Yes I have it monday, I am on the liquid but can still eat some meat and veggies. Bunco was fun but had to restrain from eating the meat portion I had a salad. I win too so good night. How are you?

To prevent that kind of breakdown again, it might help to think about why it happened, because if you like pizza, it's likely to tempt you again and again. Were you feeling deprived because of being in the mushy food phase? Were you bored, angry, stressed, unprepared with "approved" food? If it happened because you're tired of mushies, remember that phase is temporary and solid food will appear on your plate soon. If it was a case of emotional eating, make a list of 10 things you can do instead of eat the next time you're tempted to eat for comfort. If it's because you didn't have any mushy phase foods with you (in the car, at work, etc.), make a shopping list of easily portable foods (yogurt, pudding, etc.) to keep in the fridge at home and at work.

I just got my surgery date today...October 22nd!!!
@secondchancesally we are surgery twins!!! I'm more nervous for the two week liquid diet than the surgery. I'm also excited/nervous!!..strange combo

Just my opinion, but if I were you I'd be searching out a good nutritionist not another clinic. The band won't make good food choices for you or limit your portion sizes. A nutritionist can help you figure out where you need to make changes to lose weight, as well as help you establish good food guidelines to live by that fit your lifestyle and needs.
And the surgeon is right about one thing- you won't lose without a healthy diet and exercise. I'm just sorry he's not giving you much more guidance to point you in that direction.
Best wishes to you.

Thank you Jim. I'm heading to Target now!

try a mocha shake they are delicious

I am so grateful to my husband...he is a super star!!! He's doing my pre op diet with me. With support like that I can't go wrong.

My name is Laura and I' m addicted to food! Today is day 3 of my 14 day pre op and I miss chewing food! I now think I understand what an addict feels like in detox! I'm in detox too from sugar, carbonation and carb overload! I'm still on track and excited about surgery and a new way of life but boy....at least an addict doesn't have to see commercials every few minutes of their vice.

Hello Folks,
Had mine done on the 9th. Stayed over night due to the late time of day I ended up having surgery. Came home on Wednesday. I'm doing pretty well. Having a harder time than I thought with remembering to sip very small amounts. It's very uncomfortable when that happens!
I hope everyone is doing well.
I'm just really sore. Hoping that goes away during the next couple of days. Going back to work on Monday.
It seems surreal. It seemed like such a long way to this point, but the time went by pretty quick.
I just want to stay obedient to the diet now so all of this doesn't end up being for nothing.That would really stink! To go through all of this and not lose weight because I don't follow the rules.
Best wishes to everyone!

Just got an update from Dr. Office. I will be an October Bandster! Insurance approved, Appt. with Surgeon Monday, and Surgery either 23rd or 30th.

This reads to me as a situation meeting diagnostic criteria for clinical depression...and I can't help but feel that seeking services of a qualified professional to help you process and improve your current emotional state is essential for your long term success for your weight loss journey.
You did not mention how long you have been feeling this way...or if there were any identifiable life events which contributed to your current feelings, however I would not wait to seek intervention.
I hope that you will be proactive to address your current issues...and that you will be in a better emotional place soon.
Best wishes...