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Hollyr,
Your subject was "Hubby Doesn't Like Me Now". Well the truth is, and please forgive the harshness of what I must say, he didn't like you before either. He couldn't have liked you, or loved you, because he wouldn't do things to hurt you if he did.
This is abuse...verbal and emotional abuse...and he is an abuser. He has abused your heart and your mind. If you had esteem issues he has only added to them. You don't deserve to be mistreated regardless of what you look like or what weight you are.
When God created each one of us he created something beautiful. Find the beautiful within yourself. Learn to see yourself the way God sees you. Learn to love yourself the way God loves you. You have great value and a wonderful testimony. You were spared death because you still have a purpose. Don't allow him or anyone else to keep you from your purpose and from being the best you that you can be. Just say WOW! Meaning, (w)ith (o)r (w)ithout him you can and will achieve your life's purpose.

I was just like you . Not really obsess but I could eat man . A little too much . Well I'm about to be 3 weeks post op and that over eating its gone forever ...
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I was just like you . Not really obsess but I could eat man . A little too much . Well I'm about to be 3 weeks post op and that over eating its gone forever ...
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Hmm weird that you wouldn't feel full. The Softer foods do tend to fill you up less easy though.
As I'm sure you've read here a million times; the sleeve is a tool. We need to learn to use that tool properly. I really think they should send us to classes before we get sleeved to help us learn how to eat properly and healthier once we get the surgery. Not just recommend certain foods and tell us "this is good, this is bad, now go get em Tiger!"
I know myself when I ate prior to the sleeve I would eat and eat until I was stuffed full. I don't want to do that now. I just want to eat enough to be healthy and lose weight. The thought of being full never even crosses my mind any longer. There has been a rare occasion when I ate a little too much post sleeve and I got that I'm full and I probably over did it feeling and I didn't like it one bit.
If I could offer some advice it would be to go pick up a food scale somewhere and start measuring out your food. An ounce or two of Protein, another ounce or two of veggies, maybe an ounce of potatoes, stick with a 4-6 ounce meal. Learn to consume the food to live, Don't live to consume the food.

if you don't expand your stomach, some people may be able to eat anything... but why do you want to become a human garbage disposal?.. i think those people sorta missed the point of weight loss surgery... your stomach can stretch back out & you CAN regain your weight... dunno why anyone would want to risk it... most people here, from what i've seen, view the sleeve as a tool to help you lose the weight, but you have to eat right, eat healthy and exercise... there is no magic pill that will zap 100lb off of you & allow you to stuff your face with burgers, fries, milkshakes, ice cream, Cookies, candy, cake, pie, soda pop, chips, grease, sugar, bread and cheese. ain't gonna happen. ever. even with the sleeve or gastric bypass or any other thing that hacks your guts up & rearranges your intestines or whatever... you just HAVE to decide that you're going to change your lifestyle and the sleeve is a tool to help you successfully make that change. that's as simple as it gets.
i just don't get how you can go through a surgery where some person rips the majority of your stomach out & you lose a bunch of weight & then go right back to what you were doing... what the hell is the point in that?.. seriously. you want a year or two or three of being skinny, then just pack the pounds back on & get right back to where you are now?... i'm sorry, but that's just 1.) insane, and 2.) STUPID. totally & utterly STUPID. may as well just stay where you are and not put yourself through the hassle, pain & expense of surgery.. until you decide you have to change your ways, it's just a waste of time & a fantasy, in my opinion...

I'm sorry to hear that you're having such an awful time. I think you are strong to admit you need to get back on track. You can get back on track. I would go 100% back to basics. Start again as if you had just gotten sleeved and let your doctor know what's been going on. They need to keep a close eye on you to make sure you don't run into any complications. I don't really enjoy food at this point (5 weeks out), but I make myself eat on a schedule and keep track of it.
You should join Myfitnesspal or some other tracking website and add people to try and get some feedback on your days. I do not have acid really, but if you are, I would bug your doctor until they talk to you about it. They need to be responding to you, you deserve follow-up care. I was on prevacid for a month post-op, and I'm sure that had an effect on the acid.
If you are having trouble eating around your family - eat away from them. I know that sounds really hard, and maybe they will resent it - but you're dealing with a health issue here, they will get over it in time. Right now, you need to be able to focus on you. Do you have any friends close by that support you that might be able to spend a couple days with you while you get back on track? Weigh everything you eat. I can't eat more than about 2oz of Protein at a time, and maybe a few soft veggies/fruits pieces.
I also think it sounds like you need to see a therapist and join a support group. You aren't alone. Head hunger is a crazy hard thing to deal with, but you can figure out strategies to get through the day. Post your goals on the refrigerator door. Make a list of all the things that you want to be able to do. Make a list of all the reasons you don't want to be overweight anymore. Stick some motivational post its to your mirror so you see them every morning.
The only thing you can do from here is move on. Get back on the program, get some guidance from your doctor, find some support (which you deserve!), and start over. Keep an eye out for the signs of a leak, and that's really most of what I can think of. Don't give up. You can get through this.

Congratulations !!! Because of people like you, is that people like me ( at the point I'm at) have courage and motivation to keep going ... God bless you and keep up the good job!!
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Hi guys . My surgery date it's aug17 . I'm 5'2 and was 226 started Protein diet last week and now I'm down to 218 .. Anyone else doing it same day ??

Wow that was deep ... And totally right . We don't even realise the mistakes that lit is here I'm the first place , until we sit back ,
Like u did then realize all the wrong . But now we on track to change and change for food to a happy and healthy life , just the way we deserve it.

That's awesome!

hello my name is Jason and Im an alchoholic, no wait. wrong web site, yes I lust for the baconader at wendy and a giant Dr Pepper and snickers and fried fish and popcorn ect. but PEOPLE that is the food that made our jea ns tight and our t shirts tight and underwear tight and I can only speak for myself, but I refuse to go back to that.

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I confess that I too, think about food way too much, but I know Im not really hungry.
I confess, because of number 1, that I am totally addicted to sunflower seeds
I confess that I drink caffeinated coffee everyday, but add Unjury unflavored to it.
I confess that since I quit smoking in December, I still think about smokes everyday. (prolly explains #2)
I confess I eat chocolate once in a while, but I think that is why I DON'T eat it everyday.
I confess that I USED to get upset about missing my old eating habits, but now Im proud of the fact that I don't give a crap about it anymore
I confess that I lie to my husband when he wants to go out to eat and I don't. I tell him I don't feel like it. The truth is, I have better things to do than to sit and watch him and the boys make 5 trips to the buffet.
I confess that I am secretly amused when my husband eats a big plate of carbs and fat... I just think "Keep going skinny man, one day you wont fit into that chair".
I confess that I am proud of the fact that I am forty something and getting physically fit. I make sure everyone in the house knows I just came from the gym.
I confess that I looked in the mirror way too much today, the first day I have worn size 14s.

Let's try to get some perspective here.
When was the last time you lost 40lbs?
How tall are you? What was your start weight?
Even if your weightloss dropped to 1/2 the rate it has been, you will have lost 100lbs by your 1 year mark.
How much exercise are you getting?
And be aware, a big part of your emotional state right now is because you are losing weight. All that fat that is coming off is releasing more estrogen into your system
You are doing just fine.
Can you do better? Maybe, that is really up to you.
Don't try to make this a race, this is a life thing.

I have told virtually everyone I know. Family, church friends, coworkers. I don't really care what their opinions are, but I haven't gotten any negative feedback at all.

Cant wait to wear something nice to sleep instead of a big ass shirt.
I cant wait to dress my age.
Cant wait for my stomach not to hang over my jeans. And always look like a rice sack wearing a belt.
I cant wait to say " damn i look good in that dress"
I cant wait for people to not judge me by my appearence but by my brains and heart

Oh my gosh, so much you have no clue.
I can get off the couch by myself, I can tie my own shoes, I can wear shoes that are not Crocs, I don't feel dirty, all the time, I don't feel like I smell, even after a shower, I don't spend my days worrying about personal hygiene. My bathroom Mirror has 3 sections, I can see my entire shoulders and arms and top in one mirror, I don't go off the sides. I don't have side boobs, I never sweat, I have bones, I can cross my legs, people don't make me move around them, people don't look at me like I have a third eye, people smile at me more. I am not afraid to sit in a lawn chair, I don't use a seat belt extender, my own parents don't look at my with pity as though they are worried I am going to have a stroke, my husband treats me with more respect, my son does too. Laying down I can breath, I am not being smothered by chest fat. I honestly thought I was getting ready to die so many times because it was hard to breath when I laid down.
My son's friends told him I was hot now and he was so embarrassed and I think a little proud.
It takes me less time to get ready to go out, because I am comfortable in my body & skin. I am not afraid to grocery shop during high traffic times or on weekends where I may run into someone that knows me, of course, now I never run into anyone lol
Eating dinner is a time of discussion, that hasn't changed much. Fairs, bbq's is more about communicating and enjoy the company of others. I used to spend my time comparing how much I ate with other people. I always ate less, yet, I would gain weight eating what I ate.
Now I am never worried about being the fattest person anywhere. I am going zip lining and to an amusement park next weekend.
I can't eat whatever I want, whenever I eat, I sometimes wish I could eat my salad first because if I eat my meat, I have no room for salad right now. I'm newly out only 9 weeks though.
I wish I wasn't attached to the stupid scale. If it doesn't move fast enough I get frustrated, but I now measure myself because for each stall, I actually shrink more in my measurements.
I'm proud of myself and a lot of the pain I felt in my hips, knees are gone, and even in my hands and arms. I feel better about myself.
I also notice some weird things, some people that I know, though I lost over 100 pounds so far, has not said ONE word to me about my weight loss. It's kind of weird. It would be different if they weren't related to me and they weren't suppose to actually love me, but they ignore it, completely.
Everyone knows that I was doing high Protein, low carb and I started it in November, but now, there are people that are startled. I have lost 10 pounds a month before surgery and it seems to be stuck on the same 10 pounds a month routine, which is fine with me.
Other's in my family and some of my friends have recently started dieting hard. It's very strange and of course there are people that would like to sabotage me and want to see me fail, but luckily I don't fall for the come on, a few chips won't hurt you.
I wish I knew people that were getting rid of clothes, because I can't afford to buy clothes each time I go down a size, and pinning or belting clothes has been rough, buying new clothes a little at a time, but by the time I get around to wearing it, they are too big, is rough.
It's been a heck of a ride and I hope it continues

Hi guys my surgery will be 8/17 . As everyone very anxious . At this point can't wait till its over

I am having surgery on the 17th with Dr. Verboonen!! I just started my pre-op diet today.

All I have to say is that u not the only one . Mine it's next week and I'm already about to loose my mind . But all I think is the this is what I want and I chose to do this . Most of all leaving everything in gods hands .. Also think positive . We will be ok . We can doit !!!!

Celtic
His comment was totally inappropriate.,
I must say, i've never been in any type offight - I'm sure it must hurt a lot. Thats obviously what he was referring to. Then to say you would feel like you were stabbed 5 times. OMG
Its true that i have heard of some people on the board, not having the best of surgeries, and afterwards the recovery might have been a little difficule , but i think most people are fine. No stabbing feeling.
In my case, i had absolutely no problems during surgery or recovery. The end results were terrific too.
Your dr. has no bedside manner. Sorry you heard his remark.
I'm sure your experience with the sleeve will be nothing but terrific. Yes you might have a little discomfort after the surgery that might last a few days. But all is worth it.
Relax over the week-end, I know you'll be alittle nervous, but all will be fine on Monday.
Good luck on your journey through sleeveland
kathy

After I had my gallbladder removed, my surgeon said basically the same thing. He asked how I was feeling and I said I had some pain. He said, "well you were stabbed five times." I guess it's a joke they tell among themselves. Surgeons aren't know for being the most sensitive souls around. You'll be fine. Yes, it will hurt. But you'll have some great pain meds. Don't let your doctor's attempt at humor scare you off.

Hey me 3 from the Bx . Montefiore hospital ....

The scale vistory is that I weighed 229 this morning - which means I am now simply 'obese' - no longer morbidly obese, no longer super morbidly obese either Overweight here I come!
Non scale victory - Sunday night the family was sitting on the sofa all watching Breaking Bad and I realized that my legs were crossed - I dont think I have been able to do that in at least 15 years. Slowly the big stomach is going away - when we would go to restaurants I was too big to fit in a booth, now there is plenty of room, plenty of room with the steering wheel in the car as well.
The clothes are starting to get really big - so big that my husband tells me that I cant go out of the house in 80 percent of my wardrobe lol.
I never thought I would be a success, I always thought that this is something I will never win, this fight for a healthy weight. Now it feels possible!