Mommy2three

Realizing there is the potential for a problem before it turns into a real problem is a big deal. I agree with the other poster about buying a smaller bottle and saying that is it for the weekend. Then move to not having in the house at all. Maybe talk to someone who is a professional. Not hard core psych sessions. But talking to a person who is unbiased can help you find a better hobby. It is a slippery slope and glad to hear you are paying attention before things got bad.
We are all at risk of transferring addiction. Maybe try excersize or volunteering with a cause you feel strongly about. Something to keep your mind engaged so alcohol doesn't become the main focus.
Good luck and please let us know how things progress. :-)

I've noticed since the operation on the 10th May that it doesn't affect how much alcohol I can consume, if anything I seemed to be able to consume more in a session. I'm now making a conscious effort to not let alcohol take place of the food I was once able to eat. Is anyone facing this potential dilemma? I'm not an alcoholic as I only have drinks once a week on the weekends however I do believe I need to manage it.

So I am about two and half months post op and can eat regular food which I have been and have had no problems. I eat and I swear I am hungry again in an hour or two. I had read on other forums that say the hunger hormone is cut out when they do the sleeve but I am not sure I buy that. I am certain this is hunger pangs and not just mind hunger and I am trying not to "graze" on junk. I am sooooo frustrated and feel like I am eating way more than I should. In addition to this issue, I feel like when I do eat I am eating too much. I probably ought to measure it to be certain but if I were to guess I would say I am probably eating about 1 cup of food at a sitting. Is anyone else having this problem with hunger?? Any input?

Thank you everyone for the support and advice!!! I'm working on the food diary and doing a mini start over, liquids only then working back to soft foods.

I'm sorry, but I'm with LT on this, and I've noticed it is usually the same damn people who feel they are entitled to comment and be rude as if they are are the all knowing sleeve gods. LT has every right to say something back to these people who feel it necessary to scold anyone who does something they deem "bad" like a child.
I posted something a while back and had one of the same people talk to me like I was an idiot and yes, it did get to me. Even if it shouldn't have, because I thought the point of this forum was supposed to be about support. Support is not running your mouth and acting like you are so much better because you have never done anything wrong when it comes to your sleeve.
To whoever said it looks bad that LT said anything back, you're insane. Personally I would stand up for myself too. It's getting old people, if you don't agree with what someone has done it's ok to express genuine concern, but stop being so judgemental. We have all been in the same position, we are all trying to make our lives better and share our experiences.
Just my opinion

I'm sorry, but I'm with LT on this, and I've noticed it is usually the same damn people who feel they are entitled to comment and be rude as if they are are the all knowing sleeve gods. LT has every right to say something back to these people who feel it necessary to scold anyone who does something they deem "bad" like a child.
I posted something a while back and had one of the same people talk to me like I was an idiot and yes, it did get to me. Even if it shouldn't have, because I thought the point of this forum was supposed to be about support. Support is not running your mouth and acting like you are so much better because you have never done anything wrong when it comes to your sleeve.
To whoever said it looks bad that LT said anything back, you're insane. Personally I would stand up for myself too. It's getting old people, if you don't agree with what someone has done it's ok to express genuine concern, but stop being so judgemental. We have all been in the same position, we are all trying to make our lives better and share our experiences.
Just my opinion

i keep coming back to this thread and it makes me shake my head as a newbi it also makes me want to watch what I post honestly- what if I slip up and say I did and that’s it its full on your stupid get help tut tut bad girl?!
I just want to say to no one in particular
diet/zero soda ARE liquids they are mainly Water which you CAN drink in the liquid stage of the diet so frankly the day after the op you can drink it if its flat.
Yes it happens to be fizzy unless you let it go flat, and yes it has alot of empty calories and some crap and crappy sweeteners but its still Fluid.
Some of us have been told while it’s not ideal BECAUSE of the crap and empty calories in it but we can still drink it if its flat.
Its in my paperwork on the pre and post op diets that I can drink it how it comes pre and flat post right there in black and white just because some of your were not told that doesn’t mean your right and we are wrong or vice versa!
i mean god I was told not to drink tea or coffee or full fat milk all they give me in hospital was tea with full fat milk!
I don’t get why people are jumping so hard on a person assuming he is chugging gallons of fizzy soda and dismissing everything told to him and being told in not so many words he is gonna stay fat or get fat again or going to stall so tough luck and we warned you!
That’s pretty shitty to me honestly its like a bunch of ex smokers who go around telling you how bad it is for you all the time when they smoked 80 a day!
Yeah we want support yeah we offer support where we can but frankly I am over the tutters and shamers!
Please do not tell me not one of you tasted, licked, nibbled, drank a single thing you shouldn’t have since the op or never ever will for the rest of your life!
No one is that perfect weather its alcohol a sweet treat takeaway whatever there is bound to be a slip somewhere along the lines no one is perfect and there is a reason within all of us that we got to the point of needing this in the first place!
I think people who have been out longer than others forget their old life their habits and mindset. (not everyone just some i have seen around the forum)
How hard it is sometimes to adjust and forget the head cravings or the emotional ones of just years and years of ingrain habit instead they are all knowing and just preach to the new people and scold them like kids.
I have seen posts on this forum what people eat in the first week out and yes I shake my head and say F’ing hell!
But I also know each person has their own struggles and own ways of rebelling in frustration and own demons with food and its pretty safe to say self sabotage.
You don’t get to the stage we are at and not have tried diets and healthy eating before this is a brand new way of life some learn quickly some take longer some have more issues to work out before they get it but throwing digs and coming down on people not at your stage or not doing exactly what you did just hurts the person more than it helps.
Say your concerned say they shouldn’t do it in your opinion, don’t get mean and personal and snide it doesn’t help anyone.

I was a BIG diet wild cherry pepsi drinker. Couldn't get my day going without it. I had it up until my 24 hr Clear liquids before surgery.
Strange thing is after surgery I haven't needed (yet). Not sure if the craving will come back. My dr recommendation is 6 mths.
I totally understand being the same amount of days post op as you. I feel kind of like I'm living outside of my body. We wouldn't be human if we didn't try to make some normalcy out of this experience.
Everyone has had different pre op diets, post op diets, NUT and surgeon recommendations. It would be hard for me to comment on specific do's and don'ts. I see such a broad spectrum of what everyone can and can't do. I have to say I am secretly wishing to get to past the liquids stage .
I like this site for the comments, opinions (good or bad) and seeing everyone's journey.
In the end I think the OP was merely sharing a moment where they felt "normal". This experience admittedly is difficult on everyone
that heads down this path. We all are aiming for the same thing...to extend our lives and strive to be healthier!

Deep breaths guys =) we all just want each other to be healthy and okay through this healing time. No point in arguing down each other or trying defensive.
That being said, I miss my diet coke too =p but I'm enjoying my little ice chips at the moment. I love plain Water too though, so I don't think it'll be quite as difficult for me. I know that I have had a lot of friends quit soda and they always enjoyed replacing it with things like crystal light.

LouiseC, what you posted is fine - you weren't judgey, you weren't cutting anyone down, and that's fine.
As for all those artificial sweeteners, that's exactly what's in a lot of the substitutes that our doctors and NUTS are telling us to eat and drink now. Going through the literature from the hospital NUT, they even say to use those substitutes in place of regular sugar.
And yes, soda has chemicals. So do a lot of other foods we eat. Unless we go on a completely natural, organic, straight from the earth diet, we will fill our bodies with chemicals.
And believe me, it was the cheese fries with ranch dressing at the Outback, the deep dish pizza at UNO's, the chicken marsala and Oreo cheesecake at Cheesecake Factory, and the Asiago cheese Bagels at Panera that made me fat.

Actually, I'm a trial attorney.
There's a major difference between being criticized on a message board for drinking a few ounces of diet soda, and critique in the professional arena.
While these forums have been an excellent source of information, it never ceases to amaze me how a few hyper-judgmental posters can ruin the forum for the rest of us who are trying to get through this. Being sleeved sucks. The diet sucks. The emotional and mental toll sucks. And when someone comes along and posts about one little thing that has made this miserable journey just a wee bit more tolerable, there's always that person (usually the same few people), who think it's their duty to come along and cut people down, offer their opinions and "expertise."
Give it a rest. I have support at home from my loving spouse and friends, I have a doctor and NUT whose opinions I trust more than a few former overweight people on a message board who, like me, couldn't control their weight and ended up needing one or two surgeries to do what the rest of the world can do with a little diet and exercise.
It's sad that the only people who can understand the pain of being overweight in a thin society feel the need to cut each other down over food and beverage choices.

I am getting sleeved July 17th. I have life insurance through work, otherwise I would be getting that as well
not crazy at all, if god forbid anything were to happen to me I want my children to be set and financially ok.

Lol...you seem pretty worked up as if I called you judgmental personally. And totally disagree that judgmental is synanomous with something that one doesn't want to hear. If you read my post closely, I said there are things that needs to be said, unfortunately some people lack the ability to do so constructively without coming off as judgmental. Also, comparing your child getting a speeding ticket to us dealing with our transitions post sleeve just seems a bit ridiculous. You can speak to your child however you please because that's your child. But when your speaking to another adult, choose what you say wisely. Forgive me that I'm worried about the emotional aspect of judging and criticizing someone for making a mistake as well as the physical consequences from those mistakes. As I said, for the most part, people are supportive on here, and for that I'm thankful.

Some of you who are being harsh on the OP are way past the liquid stage of the diet. As a day 6 post-op, I feel your pain OP!
A friend of mine who had bypass a year ago kept a diary of her post-op experience and pulled it out when I needed some support during my sleeve journey. She was amazed at how hard it was - she had completely forgotten. I think some of you may have forgotten how hard this is too. It doesn't mean that OP is sabotaging herself - she said she did it once. It was a mistake, she recognized it right away, and admitted it.
I've been getting tired of the monotony of eating - it's hard to get any nutrition at all if the thought of drinking another damn Protein Shake makes you gag. Sometimes you need to "reset" your tastebuds. Today I took a tsp and dipped the tip of it in some hummus. I felt like I ate a filet mignon! It was exactly what I needed to be able to stomach that shake for lunch. And it didn't make me even remotely ill.
Cut the OP some slack. She came her for support, not to be scared or criticized.

I think its important for everyone to remember that even though the procedure is the same, its path afterwards is different for everyone. I did the pre-surgery psych visits, I learned some great things but until I had the surgery I didnt fully understand what it meant to implement them. I was just like you, I tried two bites of cake 10 days post op, I felt awful - physically awful, but I learned that I cant eat cake. In fact, I cant eat anything that is bread related or Pasta related. My body fights it. I am almost four months post op and every now and then try to eat something that I know my body cant handle, its instinctive. Everyone knows that your brain is a very powerful tool but for sleevers you really understand that to a new level, it takes on an entirely new meaning. For most of us, eating was out of habit or was a way to soothe our emotions.
I agree with the previous posters you dont want to do anything to hurt your new stomach, its very sensitive right now. The liquid diet isnt any fun, its mundain, repetative and more than anything boring! Try to change your focus to other things that food. I had a really hard time adjusting at first. I knew what I had done to my body but I couldnt fully understand what that was going to do to me emotionally. All at once I felt as though every vice that I had was gone - I couldnt eat, I couldnt drink and while I could shop I didnt want to because it wasnt going to fit for very long. I turned to weekend trips, long walks on the beach, changed my hair, got a massage and have been reading.
For what its worth, Im proud of you for having the courage to admit your fault and move forward from it. Thats the best way to learn what works and what doesnt. Remember its not just weight that you will be losing, the losing will have different effects to your body. My doctor told me that as long as I kept my Water and Protein intake at the right levels nothing else mattered. Focus your nourishment on what will have the best impact to your hair, teeth and skin. Those are all important to consider as your body begins to change. Keep your head up, before you now it you will be done with the liquid diet and changing your focus.

There is just a way to give advice and a way to judge. There are many judgmental people on here who get snappy at people who struggle. They know its wrong or they know it could hurt them that's why they post on this site. I think people should just answer the questions asked not scold people. I've been scolded on here and it didn't help me all I got were a bunch of people telling me a bunch of crap I already knew. my point is think before you speak. Having the sleeve makes no one on here an expert on everyone else. Advice is fine, informing or trying to teach is fine. But to belittle someone because they struggled and cheated is out of line and makes me not yup even want to use this forum.

No need to make someone who struggles feel even more ashamed than they already are. Its one think to give advice and another to judge. just because it was so easy for you to follow doesn't mean it is for everyone else. I was eating things I shouldn't on my liquid diet and I don't feel guilty. Your body will tell you what you need to know when you eat something you're not suppose to and you will go through the discomforts and learn what you can and cannot eat. I recommend staying with your diet and not cheat but I bet we are not the only ones who have cheated. Not many people will admit when they have cheated. But reading some of theses responses tick me off cuz it always turns in to omg I can't believe you would risk your life or omg you need counseling. Just cuz you had the sleeve does not make you an expert! Just sayin!

I'm feeling great, so far. Knock on wood. Just really really tired, hope this passes soon. I've been drinking pretty good had a Protein Shake today. The pain isn't too bad now. I won't lie, the first day was horrible I was in and out of it thanks to the anesthesia. When they took the drain out on the second day it was definitely easier to take a full breath. How's everyone else doing? Best of luck to everyone still waiting to go in.

I'm always a little surprised when I read posts like this. I know we all want the weight to come flying off and I know that it seems like it should considering we eat so little. However, you are only 33 days out. In 33 days you have lost 27 pounds! Think about that, 27 pounds in 33 days! That is beyond incredible! Especially considering that your body during this time has also been recovering from a traumatic injury (surgery). So what if it takes a little longer to lose, you're still going to lose it. Try to have a little patience and let the sleeve do it's thing. It will work for you and your body will let go of the weight when it's ready. xoxo.

If you want to overachieve with your sleeve, follow your doctor's guidelines to the nth degree and you will heal better, faster and lose weight faster. I liked enigma's response above, it's exactly correct.

80% of your stomach has been stapled together and ripped out through your belly button. You have to let it heal and learn to work again. It's swollen and recovering. A fellow poster summed it up as best as I've heard.... You have a baby's stomach. Would you feed a 1 week old fish? I'd hope not.
At least at the liquid stage, please try to stay on course for those two weeks that the doctors (or most doctors) recommend. You don't want to face a bowel obstruction or some other complication by moving too fast.
Stay strong and just don't beat yourself up for making a mistake. Just correct it.
I'd encourage you to follow the doctor's orders!

Your nerves are still healing. Which means that even though your stomach tolerated the fish just fine, it might be because your tummy is still a little numb from the surgery. Please follow your surgeon's recommendations because you don't want to risk causing a leak by putting too much pressure on your staple line this early out. I know it's hard, especially when you seem to tolerate food without any issues, but the guidelines really are there for a reason. Hang in there, you'll be able to eat solid food again before too long.

I'm feeling great, so far. Knock on wood. Just really really tired, hope this passes soon. I've been drinking pretty good had a Protein Shake today. The pain isn't too bad now. I won't lie, the first day was horrible I was in and out of it thanks to the anesthesia. When they took the drain out on the second day it was definitely easier to take a full breath. How's everyone else doing? Best of luck to everyone still waiting to go in.