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Did that continue to be a problem for you or did it get better?

Is your name Jack? Jack, thanks for your response. (I'm Tara btw) I won't be talking to my surgeon until the last week of June but thanks for the great ideas and I'll be sure to address them and see what he says. I'm curious if it's not to rude of me to ask what your box charges - I pay $100 monthly which about killed me at first but now I'm just used to it. However there are other boxes around my city (3 to be exact) popping up and they seem a lot cheaper. I'd consider changing just for $$ but I have had such great support and friends at this one that I hate to leave. However, I have only told one trainer why I'm taking a few months off. Other than him and my husband I haven't told a soul about the surgery. Does your box know about you and the other guy? Do they seem supportive? Mine seemed disappointed that I wasn't giving Paleo a better try (I did 3 full months with no mistakes and lost 20 lbs but it was so just hard wah wah wah). I wish I knew better what to expect when I go back. I've always had to modify my exervised since I can't even do a pushup or pullup but I'm hoping with weight loss and the band that I'll some time weight less enough that I can gain the muscle to do those things. I am so glad to hear about your success - both with CrossFit and with lap band. I feel a little lonely and like this isn't the "exercise worlds" version but neither is being the fat chick. One reason I've loved CrossFit is they've never seemed to judge me - until now when I'm taking a break - I feel like I'm letting everyone down. Sorry to put that all out there just musing...

No advice as I'm not there yet but wanted to hear what others have to say. Congrats on a week in!

As a newbie myself I loved reading this! What hope you're spreading and you just sound so happy. FABULOUS!!

Do they have any other options you can consider? Do you think you've learned enough along the way that you can keep up the good habits? I know you can find a way to get through this - I'm just sorry for your struggle. Don't give up!! Best of luck to you.

Pedicure? Manicure? New hairstyle? New outfit? Day out doing something you couldn't do before like a roller coaster or a hike or something? You've just inspired me to try to come up with some ideas myself for mini goals along the way - 50 lbs is amazing! Glad you're going to celebrate - and let us know what you come up with .

Yippee!! That's gotta feel so good. Way to go and keep up the good work!

I don't know what to tell you other than that I really feel it's gotta be about more than just the numbers. You've lost 11 pounds right? For one month that seems amazing to me!! I picked lap band over gastric for one reason because I didn't want to lose too fast - were you expecting something different? I hope you don't get too discouraged becasue if you're doing what the drs said then you're doing it all right! Hang in there - everyone's experience is bound to be a little bit different. Have you tried a new exercise program or something different with foods that could stir things up and maybe help? best of luck to you!

Hey I'd love someone else to visit with! How are you feeling so far about things?

First off a great big virtual hug. I am so glad you posted so that others like me could hear what you're going through. Your current experince is one of my fears about the surgery. If I don't have food, what do I have? I think you're entitled to feel that way and maybe it is a form of depression - letting go of something you loved for so long. So my 2 cents is have a 5 mnute or so pity party and then do just what you said - get on with your life. There's got to be all kinds of stages to this and sounds like you're going through a sad one. I'm sorry that's hard - but I'm also really proud of you and glad you're not suffering in some of the other ways. Hang in there!! You're strong enough I know you are.

Tricia sounds awesome!! My email is fericito @ hotmail (without spaces of course) so we can communicate that way too! Looking forward to getting to know you

Another Utahn here just in case anyone is out there...

Me me! I'm the last June bander I think because I'm not til the 29th... start my pre op diet next Friday. I didn't think about how hard starting on a Friday would be so I'm going to tell mysef it's Monday . Little bit nervous but mostly excited and just want it to be TIME!

Mine is June 29th so a little bit ahead but I'd love one!

I'd like to quote Fantasy because that's what I'd say too. Hang in there, even if it's by your nails. I hope you can work it out and feel better soon.

Way to go all!!

I start my pre op next friday and i'm dreading that first weekend but going to do it anyway. Hang in there, we can all get through this together!!

Way to go!

I haven't told anyone beyond dh. I thought I would tell everyone and several know I've been saving up for it but I don't know why, I just don't want anyone to know. Some close friends have been banded or bypassed themselves and I think they'll have hurt feelings when (if) they find out but I'm just not ready for them to know. For me it's working well because I was going on vacation then anyway (why I chose the date I did for surgery) but I figure when I start losing weight they might start asking. I am telling as little people as possible - especially don't want my sisters to know because then EVERYONE will know (and they think I'm the family gossip - ha!). I think it's all personal - I'm not embarrassed about it but I know I'll be judged and since it's been that way ever since I got overweight I'd rather not be judged about this. I'm so glad I found this forum though to have people to talk to about it!!

My mom died of cancer at age 49 - it was terrible for me to lose her as I wasn't yet married, out of the house, had children, etc. It has been hard having lost her and all the things she and I missed out on experiencing together. I am 35 and will not live to be 49 (at least statistically) if I remain this overweight. My risk of cancer due to my obesity is greatly increased as well. I haven't heard that about the band BUT it's a risk I'm willing to take (dh and I have discussed all the risks we could come up with) because it will give me a better life and a MUCH better chance at surviving longer if the lap band can help me lose weight and keep it off. Maybe you could look at it that way?

I just wondered if you're still here and if you're still CrossFitting... I have been doing CrossFit for about a year now - and when I eat the Paleo diet I lose some but since it's so restrictive I haven't been able to do it month after month. I'm way stronger and can do a lot more since starting Cross Fit but still feel so ridiculous being the "fat" crossfit girl and also know I'm not getting it's full benefits since I haven't lost a lot of weight so I'm finally doing this. I'm excited too. I just wondered how long I'd need to wait from getting my surgery (the 29th) to going back? My dr. suggested a full month because of the liquid diet and the surgery itself so I'm taking the months of June and July off but also really nervous to start back and tear something Just wondered how your experience was going since you last posted about it last year.

Hope you feel better soon and best of luck on your journey!

Sorry for your pain but oh so glad for you! Keep us updated - and have a quick recovery!

I'll be one of the last because my surgery date isn't until the 29th but I start my pre-op diet in two weeks and I know I'm going to need support. Anybody want some buddies? A bit about me, I'm 35 years old, nearly 300 pounds and done every diet out there - finally saved up enough to get the surgery and can't wait for my "life" to start. Several friends have done bypass or banding and they are all in their 50s and 60s and I just feel like I need to take care of me now instead of waiting another 20 years. I have a hubby, two kids (9 girl, 6 boy) and keep thinking there might be more but certainly won't be if I can't lose weight. Look forward to meeting the rest of you, I'd love someone to talk to and go through this with. Haven't even told my banded friends I'm doing it, only hubby know so far and I don't know why I am nervous to tell. Oh yeah and I live in Utah. Me in a nutshell, what about you?

It's ok to have a down day - or maybe just a feeling down hour. But then remember that this is a journey and there are ups and downs and you can do this. Look what you've done already! You are so much better off than someone like me who hasn't yet begun (but soon!) and I am looking up to you. Don't give up on yourself. Here's a virtual hug from a stranger that admires your strength. (hug)