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I think it comes down to what your priorities are. As women we tend to nag, threaten, and throw a fit when the men in our lives are making us unhappy but in the end we tend to just give up and go with the flow and we are the ones that suffer for it. Your health is suffering now and it is so important that you get it under control before it becomes an even bigger problem. I know you love your boyfriend but in my opinion he is telling you by his actions that he has no intention on changing his situation so the choice is now yours to either continue with things the way they are and have all the stress that comes along with it or put your foot down and step back and allow him to help himself. I don't mean to sound harsh or cruel but you've given him all the tools to help himself but he would rather place the burden back on you without regard to what it is doing to your health. Put yourself and your child first and if he truly does love you he will understand.

Absolutely they can! Be very careful not to gain weight for that reason. If you do end up gaining weight be sure to wear lightweight clothing and weigh without shoes when you weigh in at your Nutritionist appoinment. If you have gained weight while on your menstrual cycle be sure your nutritionist puts that in the notes as the reason for possible weight gain. I had gained 2 or 3 pounds and my NUT made sure to notate that because she said that insurance companies are using weight gain as reason for denying or at least forcing you to delay your surgery.

Thanks for the feedback everyone!

WORK IT!! lol

Just be careful about blowing out farts in the early days post-op since you're on mostly liquids....you might get a little surprise! LMBO

My best advice for you would be that now that you have seen the nutritionist it is EXTREMELY important that you don't gain any more weight from this point on since insurance companies will most likely deny you if they see this happening. This is their one way of getting out of paying for the surgery so be very careful not to gain.

I am just about to start mushies but am dreaming of the day I can eat whole grain crackers or wheat thins. I know that refined bread and such can cause problems for us post- op but would like to know if any of you have been able to tolerate whole grain breads and crackers post-op and if so how far out were you. I know that protein will always be first for us but I strongly believe that whole grains should be a vital part of any healthy weight loss plan or lifestyle. Thoughts?

My first week home I was FREEZING all the time! My husband thought I was crazy since it was warm in the house. Its just now that I am able to feel warm and at a normal body temp. It does go away after a while post-op so hang in there.

@FindingMyself, I was sleeved in Corona California by Dr. Benjamin Leong. I had terrible gas pains for the first 2 days but smooth sailing thereafter. I'm glad everyone is doing well on their journeys as well!

It's hard to believe that I had major surgery just a little over a week ago. My incisions are completley healed and I have no more pain or discomfort of any kind. I am getting in my water and protein and I am almost never really hungry. I have had a couple of bouts of head hunger but nothing I couldn't get through by simply changing my thoughts to something else. The only real difficulty has been getting through the phases of diet progression. I really want something solid to eat like crackers or cheese in my belly...lol The other thing I've noticed is that the thought of sweets turns my stomach! I want savory things instead. I think it has to do with the fact that everything I'm eating now has a sweet flavor-puddings, yogurts etc. And don't even get me started on those nasty sweet flavored protein drinks!!!!! I can't stand protein drinks anymore...lol But its a small price to pay for good health so I gripe and complain but still follow the rules. I've lost 10 pounds in 11 days so I'm not complaining.

I think its important for you to accept your mom's opinion as it is but at the same time don't make your life decisions contingent upon the approval of others no matter how much you love them. Look at all the reasons you listed for having the surgery. That list alone should solidify your decision regardless of what anyone else might think. I was on the gurney seconds from being wheeled into the OR when my mother in law leaned over and told me that it was not too late to back out and not have the surgery...lol You just have to be strong in your decision and your rights as an adult to make that decision with or without the support of your mother.

LOL, I have a 22 pound pug and she is quite the fatty. She sleeps on the bed with us at night so I trained her to come to the foot of the bed and stand up against the footboard so that I can lift her only half way before she's on the bed. I'm only 8 days out and so far have had no problems lifting her using this technique. Hope that helps.

I was in for two and a half days but I really should have stayed a third. You shouldn't let them discharge you until your pain is well controlled and you are able to keep liquids down for a full day without problems.

Refined breads that are not whole grain turn into a thick gooey ball in our stomachs and take a long time to get down which usually results in barfing it back up. Try that same same sandwhich on whole grain bread to see if it makes a difference for you.

So that's what's up! LOL I was wondering why I was feeling so fired up lately. My tummy is still to sore and my incisions to tender for sex but I was watching my hubby take out the trash without a shirt on yesterday and was getting all riled up...lol

GET IT BOY!!!

Today is day 5 post op for me and I am starting to feel good again. I woke up this morning before the sun and did housework and light chores. Yesterday I was so wiped out that wouldn't have been possible. I finally slept in my bed for a full night so I'm thinking that is what made the difference for me. I am down 3 pounds since surgery. Doesn't sound like much but I'm happy about it since I gained around 6 pounds while in the hospital after getting all the fluids daily. I plan to continue taking it easy for the rest of the day and focus on getting in all my liquids and protein.

Kiki, I had already tried to make a nest of pillow as well but I tend to move just way too much at night so they wouldn't stay put and I just gave up. However, I finally slept in my bed last night for a full night....yay!

STAY OFF THAT SCALE! Try to weigh only once a week or you will drive yourself nuts. The body goes through a lot after surgery and it is trying to figure out where it is supposed to be weight wise, calorie wise, metabolisim wise, etc. It's been through a major upset to the status quo and you shouldn't be surprised if the scale is registering all over the place for a while. Think of it as a pilot trying to save a crashing plane (not that we are crashing..lol). As he heading nose first toward the ground he frantically jerks up on the wheel (don't think planes have wheels...lol) trying to bring the plane up high enough so that it can begin to level out, then he starts to go into a tailspin but pulls hard left to straighten that out...etc. Our bodies are doing the exact same thing right now so you needn't worry. As long as you are sticking to the plan, your clothes are feeling looser, and you are excersicing regularly you will lose weight. Only weigh yourself once a week and try to get involved in something else other than counting the pounds.

Hi Suzanne, the tumbler sounds like the perfect once I've been looking for...do you have the name or web address where I can find it?

Today is day 4 post-op for me and I'm finally starting to feel a little like my old self again. I was able to lay in my bed for a cat nap today for the first time without my organs feeling like they are rearranging themselves inside...lol I was so desperate for sleep the other night that I actually grabbed my pillow and blanket and slept in the passenger seat of my car!! NO LIE!! It was the only place I could think of to simulate a hospital bed at home and it worked. The next morning when I woke up In the driveway I remembered that my back living room couch is a sectional with a recliner on one end!!!! It had to be the pain meds that didn't allow that to come into my mind before I got into the dang car...lol I've been sleeping in the recliner now and it does help but I soooo want to be back in my bed for a full nights rest. On another note and one that is typical for the way things go for me in my life, As I lay in the recliner this morning starting to notice that I was feeling a little better and like my old self again I sneezed and then realized that I NOW HAD A COLD!!!! Shaking my head I got up to use the restroom and then realized that I had also just STARTED MY PERIOD!!!!!!! All I could do was laugh and just roll with it...lol

Oh and forgot to mention that the pain meds they give you are usually the source of all the constipation.

It might be too much to take now after all the other stuff you just took but call your surgeon's office and ask him to prescribe you a heavy duty stool softener.

Sooo true about that darn gas, Arj!! I enjoy the smells as well and am so stoked that I can be satissfied with just that.

I'm 4 days post-op as well and the only time I have felt any hunger is when I've been hit by head hunger. I know this to be the case because I sat with my hubby while he ate bratwurst, chips, soda etc. for dinner night before last and I could have cared less about his food. I did feel a little head hunger today at the grocery store though because I was completely SURROUNDED by rows and rows of things I could not have and it was only then that I felt hungry and I immediately made the connection to head hunger. Even today I asked my hubby to drive me around to get a few necessities and treated him to Carls Jr. as a thank you. He ate a double bacon cheeseburger, large fry, and soda all right in front of me and it didn't even phase me. It smelled good and I just enjoyed the yumminess of the smells instead. He didn't want to eat it front of me but I made him do it so that I could test my abilitly to distinguish real hunger from head hunger and it worked. Just be sure to have a good variety of things on your clear liquid diet so that you can look forward to changing things up a bit. Also try to remember that it will only last a few weeks and you'll be enjoying food again in a healthy way again. Three weeks is going to pass whether or not you stick to the plan so you might as well go with it. I hope it gets easier for you girl.