#MagicWithinme

enjoy the moment!

Make room for me on that wagon, I didn't realize how scared my husband had been for me until 8 months later, when visiting some friends. The wife told me he had been so scared for me, but because it was something I wanted so badly he supported me. I had talked to him before about it, but he said he was fine with it.. make sure everyone knows whats going on and validate their feelings. Yes ultimately the decision is ours but we have to think about them as well. I didn't tell my family not to tell anyone, it was a private issue. It was a private issue, until I was told that someone was commenting how good I looked and another so-called" friend, comments oh she didn't do it on her own, she had the lapband done and proceeds to put her own pictures of herself how she had lost weight on her own.Since I don't follow this persons comments I was unaware. I confronted this person and asked her to remove her comments , that it was a private problem and I didn't appreciate what she did. Not that I was embarrassed but it wasn't her place to tell people. She never said a word..

We are all doing this for our health, so we can be around longer for our loved ones and I know I said this to my family.I want to enjoy the rest of my life, living in the real world not sitting on the couch in front of the tv. good luck to all of us!

I too have struggled with anxiety, and have gone to therapy a couple times and am on meds, it was great since I have the lapband that I did not have any panic attacks but last week I had one, I was home, and I just doubled my medication (as Im told to do). What we have to realize, it doesn't just happen. It isn't just our bodies. Once Im calm, I have to stop and think, ok what was I doing, what was I thinking, am I worried. What's happening around me. I was one of those people that tended to "shelf problems " till finally the shelf broke . (me) We all have to realize that just because we have lost weight, that doesn't mean that some of our health problems will go away completely (anxiety being one). We just have to learn how to deal with it, and what helps us through those times. And I know that sometime I was worried about, consumed with fear and doubt, half the time turns out to be nothing. The best therapy, I have found, is being able to talk to someone about it, (my sister), my co-worker. I did feel like I was alone with this problem until I said something to sister and she had been on meds long before me! as well as co-worker, it was like I was the late bloomer. Anyways, I know I'm having problems right now, maybe change in weather and hormones, because one of the things I tend to do is go shopping for underwear. And I have been to the local Khols and Marshalls like 4 times in the past 2 weeks, yes buying bras and underwear. Oh well I needed new ones anyways. Stay strong everyone, we are too beautiful and have too much to live for to let this keep us down!

It hasn't been a year for me but I can relate, the doctor himself is kind enough but sometimes the office staff is bipolar. One day they are saying hi how you doing, looking good and then next visit, they act like they don't know who I am.

I can understand that they seem many people, but there should be some familiarity after a year of being dr's patient.

lol, I compared myself to jabba the hut,,, that blob of a villian on Star Wars, I would sign my emails at work, Jabba.., I know people do see the difference and there are days I do to, but for so long I saw myself as a blob.

It will take a while to see the beautiful us that has been hidden underneath all that weight. We'll be ok!

our bodies are feeling defenseless food used to be our weapon and now we are open, and our minds will make us feel so different. I'm that way still after 15 weeks post band. Its a weekly thing, one week is good, one week is bad and all we can do is muddle through it. Don't sabatoge the work we have done, its so easy to fall back into those easy eating habits we don't even realize it. You are NOT ALONE.

I have to slow down and stop eating at my desk!

I've been doing floor exercises, which has helped alot, lots of stuff on utube. Yeah when I notice sweating undies (TMI) I started exercising that area asap!

good luck

I'm like you I wouldnt wear anything bright or outrageous to bring attention to myself. Im slow getting new clothes and slowly because I'm still loosing weight.

I've gone through that , mine was 3 weeks after surgery. got around pizza party with one slice, (barely ate toppings) and cake afterwards. I had already stopped eating sweets before band so that was ok, everyone was joking can I have your piece? just put a few things on your plate and move around, people won't notice what you are or not eating. maybe put something you bring that you can eat on plate.

I'm with you, it seems more like they are grilling you with questions, than actually taking personal interest in you as a person. I've had that happen. I ended up just saying if so n so is interested that person can call me, when the woman said oh Im asking you all the questions for so n so.

I'm lucky to have wonderful supporters in my family and at work (1-2) have had gastric or lapband. I work with 150 men and I've been approached by 1-2 about procedure, the PROCEDURE, they didn't ask my clothes size or new bra size, they really wanted to know so I didn't mind. All we have to say when they ask about weight loss, is I've really been working on it, which would not be a lie.

Good Luck!

Zil, I can so relate, not only stress eaters/ adreniline junkies, sometimes.

Living in the Valley where I am its a given you are going to have allergy problems. There are 4 ENT within blocks of each other.

I have found since losing weight, my allergic reactions are not as bad as they used to be, (just don't throw a cat at me!)

Glad you kept going, and glad to hear you are ok!

That comes from people who know nothing about lapband and living with procedure. It comes from from ignorance. It comes from caring but the ultimate choice is yours. Are you happy with your quality of life as it is? Can you lose the weight yourself and keep it off? You will ask yourself these questions over and over and do the I want it I don't until the moment you get lapband and a few weeks later you have lost weight you didn't think you could. This is the best place to ask questions, ask for information, I hope it turns out well for you

While I agree with everyone, some people actually get "offended" when you tell them its not the lapband it's them. I had a person tell me, she couldn't recommend it, it didn't work, all she could eat was candy and drink shakes.. (not protein shakes). I tend to be blunt sometimes without realizing it, and say the first thing that comes to mind, and this friend just kept saying I don't recommend it, its a waste of money. For myself, I kept talking to various people and learning more and found great support . That would be great to team up , if she is willing, just don't let her negativity get to you, let her learn from you. No one said it would be a "game of candyland!"

I used to eat a gallon of ice cream, in a few days..the things we used to do, to comfort us..

could you message me more info on the couch to 5k program. I need to get off the couch,

You are a success the minute you decided to have lapband done, (is what I was told) I wish you well on your journey!

Glad to hear you are

My daughter helped download these and I will have my ipod on while I clean or lay on the floor and its looks like Im giving childbirth lol

AINT NOBODY CHAKA KAHN

ALEJANDRO LADY GAGA

ALL OF ME MATT HAMMOND

AND IM TELLING YOU IM NOT GOING JENNIFER HOLIDAY

AND THE BEAT GOES ON, THE WHISPERS

AZUCAR KUMBIA KINGS

BAILE ESTA CUMBIA KUMBIA KINGS

BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

CA PLANE POUR MOI PLASTIC BERTRAND

THE CLIMB MILEY CYRUS

DASHBOARD MODEST MOUSE

DEDICATION TO MY EX LLOYD

EDGE OF 17 STEVIE NICKS

F**KIN PERFECT PINK

FLOAT ON THE FLOATERS

FLOWERS THE EMOTIONS

GIVES YOU HELL THE ALL AMERICAN REJECTS

GRENADE BRUNO MARS

HE WILL CARRY YOU THE MANA O COMPANY

HOLD ON RUDY SILVA

HOW TO SAVE A LIFE THE FRAY

I LIKE IT ENRIQUE IGELSIAS

I LIKE IT LIKE THAT HOT CHELLE RAE

I SURRENDER RUDY SILVA (WAS MY WEDDING SONG)

IF I CANT HAVE YOU, BEEGEES

IN MY HEAD JASON DERULO

JAAN PEHECHAAN HO SPECIAL EFX

JUST THE WAY YOU ARE BRUNO MARS

THE KILL 30 SECONDS TO MARS

LAY ME DOWN THE DIRTY HEADS

LIKE A PRAYER MODONNA

LISTEN BEYONCE

THE LIVING PROOF MARY J BLIGE

LOVE COME DOWN EVELYN CHAMPAYNE KING

LUCKY BRITTANY SPEARS

MARY DID YOU KNOW KENNY ROGERS

MISLED KOOL N THE GANG

THE MOTTO DRAKE

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NEVER BE THE SAME, RUDY SILVA

NEVER HAD A DREAM COME TRUE S CLUB 7

NEVER KNEW LOVE LIKE THIS STEPHANIE MILLS

RED SOLO CUP TOBY KEITH

RETURN OF THE MACK MARK MORRISSON

ROLLING IN THE DEEP ADELE

SAIL AWOLNATION

SET FIRE TO THE RAIN ADELE

SHAKE ME DOWN CAGE THE ELEPHANT

SHARING THE NIGHT TOGETHER DR HOOK

SILLY DENICE WILLIAMS

SOMEBODYS ME ENRIQUE IGLESIAS

SOMEONE LIKE YOU ADELE

TAKE IT EASY THE EAGLES

TAKE YOU THERE SEAN KINGSTON

TELEPHONE LADY GAGA

THIRSTY STARTING SIX

TONIGHT TONIGHT HOT CHELLE RAE

TOOT IT AND BOOT IT YG

UNWRITTEN NATASHA BEDINGFIELD

USE SOMEBODY KINGS OF LEON (FAV)

WE ARE YOUNG FUN

WHAT A GIRL WANTS CHRISTINA AGUILERA

WHEN I SAID I DO CLINT BLACK

WHO’S LOVING YOU JACKSON 5

WISHING ON A STAR ROSE ROYCE

YOU LOOK SO GOOD IN LOVE GEORGE STRAIT

YOU AND I LADY GAGA

I'm old school girl..

yesterday we went shopping we got for snacks we got triscuits, laughing cow cheese (who's laughing now) prunes, dried apricots, yumm,fat free pudding and jello. almonds. its not hard to make the right choices, (for me) whats hard is going through with them.

Thats why I had to get the prunes, the miralax, because of my prior choices I ended up constipated, now tummy is sore from the "unload" so basically starting over. And thats what great about the lapband, is that it allows us to start over. We haven't failed as long we we are willing to try again and again.

Good Luck

I hear ya, its more like the mind is rebeling against the body. My body knows what its supposed to do and follows through, but my brain is the one thats causing problems, telling me to eat something I know I shouldn't, and how much and after I have, I wasn't really hungry for it, but just because it was. I will eat for 20-30 minutes sometimes alittle longer but I have the portion that Im supposed to eat no more (hubby is very good at portion control) . It does get easier, but people have to realize this is life long changes not till we've just lost the weight. We can still regain it back, and still be able to have health problems if we do.

I can admit I didn't know! Good Luck!

sometimes thats what we have to do to get back on track.. as many times as we have too..

I like your idea! I sometimes read a book

Word, peoples perception of anyone that does a procedure for weight loss is sometimes hurtful and demeaning. They think its cheating, and that its the easy way to loose weight. HA , they don''t have to eat the smaller portions or cut out alot of foods that we have loved all our lives. feel the stucks or the constipation, or be compared to someone else they know that got it done. I hate when Im compared to someone else that got it done. "I didn't have that gaunt sick look like so and so" I just said we are all different. You are right we shouldn;t have to explain it, what I do do, is tell people that I feel better, look better.

aww I inow the feeling, good to hear, that support will certainly help on your journey !

I just add a tablespoon of peanut butter to my chocolate shakes too.

thought about that, "If you didn't love me then, you're gonna love me now? my heart, soul and personality are the same, with more confidence. Ad a whole lot sexier, you missed out buddy!". I actually had someone ask if I had dieted and I said I got lapband and witch had the nerve to say oh you cheated,,, if looks could kill.

I did the lapband because my quality of life sucks, newly married, new grandma, and I did nothingI was jabba the hut on the sofa. I didn't want to continue that way or have my grandbaby remember me like that.

floor exercises on utube, nice and slow things will firm up to a point