Oregondaisy

Where are all of you? I really feel like this thread is so supportive!

When we say food gets stuck and it causes us to throw up, that is because it can't get passed the band and it's stuck in the esophagus. It's not really because the food causes us to gag. We are told to chew the food until it's liquid. I don't see a problem with what you are talking about as it is liquid to begin with.

I haven't bought the rabbit.

No, that really should have nothing to do with it. Marriage is based on trust. there are people who say they have "an open marriage" I just don't get that. When you get married, you take vows to be faithful. If someone plans on not being faithful, why get married?

I think all of you should put profiles on WWW.plentyoffish.com It's completely free. You have more chance of finding someone in your area from an online dating site, than on here. I found my wonderful bf on match.com but I had profiles on plentyoffish and met a lot of nice people from there, and again I say it's free. What could be better!

Those are very wise words. It's important to remember this is just an infatuation. It's easy to daydream about the "what ifs" The only way to make sure this goes know further, is to remove the temptation from your life. Tell him you are flattered by the attention, but you love your husband and you are not the kind of woman who would cheat on her husband. Then cut off all contact!

You say you don't want to jeopardize what you have with your husband. Can you put yourself in his shoes and try to imagine how he would feel if he found out you slept with this man? I am not judging you either. I would imagine this happens a lot. They even had a show on Oprah about women doing things they regretted after losing a lot of weight with WLS. But you really have to think about this and your children (if you have children) and your husband. How would you feel if the situation was reversed? Suppose he came to you and said he loved you but this old flame popped up and he couldn't help himself so he slept with her. You have a lot of thinking to do.

Man! Another person finding that spot. I wish I was that lucky!

Well my toys came and I had ordered 2 different ones and they sent me two the same. I called and they said the other one I ordered was no longer going to be made, and told me to pick out something else. Are all of you telling me to go ahead and pick the rabbit?

I agree. this is way too much information for this particular section of the board. :smile2::thumbup::scared2::cursing:

If I had to go to Mexico, I would only go to dr. Alberto Aceves. He is the very best Mexican surgeon in my opinion and one of the only ones that does surgery in a hospital. The rest do it in a clinic and you recover in a hotel. They will pick you up at the airport in San Diego. I was a self pay but Dr. Tersigni keeps his prices lower so that he can save people from a flight after surgery. That is not fair Lynn that you are 5'2" and in a size 8 jeans. I am 5'2" and I am in a size 12 and I weigh less than you do. I am jealous, even though I haven't been in a size 12 since my daughter was born 27 years ago.

Susan, I am glad to see you're feeling more confident. It's such a shame that this is a life long battle for all of us. It would be so wonderful if the band could do something for head hunger and cravings. I have been guzzling water like crazy thinking if I slosh around enough, I won't think about food. Fanny those snakes are nasty looking. I can't even believe you were holding them.

BBk we all missed you! I don't see my MIL as my husband is deceased. BUT I do see my bf's mother regularly. She is crazy. She is not mean, but I definitely think she has some missing links in her brain.

I see the dr. on Wednesday. I am really hoping he will let me have some of my fill back. I went out to pizza with my daughter SIL and BF. I think I ate 4 or 5 pieces of pizza. It's like I have no band at all. I gained back the 3 lbs I had lost. I am being good as gold today.

Not sure why this thread came up in my user cp where I go to my subscribed threads. Usually, it only comes up if a new post has been added. So I am adding a new post. My band isn't helping me much right now. I feel like I have no band since I had so much of my fill removed. I need a band on my brain. I have to dig down deep and find some willpower somewhere.

I wish getting a fill was the magic answer. The things I eat that I know I shouldn't have nothing to do with how much of a fill I have. Ice cream is a biggie.I could be tighter than is humanly safe and I would still crave ice cream and be able to eat it if I gave into the cravings. The gym is no magic answer for me either. I can still go to the gym and do so well up until a certain point, then eat junk food all evening long. Sometimes I thing being revised to a sleeve is the magic answer (if I had the money) but I am told you can eat candy just fine with a sleeve too. I need to go back and look at the name of the book that was suggested to order off amazon. If it's helpful, then I need that book! It's my head that needs the help. Like I have read before, too bad it's not our brains that get banded.

Froggi, I am sure we all did something that could be considered cheating. Just remember how long you waited fo this and how much you wanted it. Maybe that will get you through until you are at the phase where you can have more things.

Susan, that could have been written by me. I can't seem to control my craving for sweets. I know in my head that if I could stay off of them for 3 days, the craving would go away. I can stay off of them for a few hours, and then that's all I think about. I am going to try what I learned in the Beck Diet solution book. I made 3/5 cards with thoughts on them . like" I need to not eat candy unless I want to buy bigger pants" or one thought per card on every single reason I want to lose weight. I post the cards all over the house and some in my purse. Then I look at them through out the day. It helped last time. I can only hope it is of some help this time. The only difference is that I thought I was at my sweet spot, until I started that puking in my sleep. Now I can't have any of my fill back until my dr. decides my esophagus has probably healed.

I am 56 and I have no grey hair. That was one of my big fears. I lost about 50% of my hair after surgery. I was so afraid it was going to come back in gray. Froggi, I never had that problem. Mine was the opposite. The first week after surgery I never went at all and that freaked me out. It's still a problem and I am always trying to find more ways to get fiber into my diet. have to work on.

I really freaked out when I got on the scale yesterday morning. I did manage to lose 3 lbs of it already. If I look at where I was at my lowest weight I am still up 13 lbs which really freaks me out. I am going to go back to what I did when I read the Beck Diet Solution. They have you make index cards and write down every reason you want to lose weight. You can put anything you want on a card. One thought per card. Then I carry the cards in my purse. One thought would be "if I eat that one piece of candy, I will only crave more and soon I will not be able to button my pants. " Or Soon I will need to buy bigger pants." I can make thoughts like that and post them all over my work area, and not keep junk in the house. This has got to stop because I can feel myself becoming more and more out of control. I am glad I have you guys and LapBAndtalk. I know you are the only ones who understand.

Sooverit, I wondered all the same things. A lot of people told me I wasn't overweight enough to need surgery. I knew that I would continue to gain weight though. No matter which diet I was on, I lost all the weight and gained it all back. This was a way to lose what I needed, and hopefully be able to keep it off. It's still not as easy as I would like it to be. the band is absolutely no help with things like like cookies and candy. I do gain a few lbs back and then I freak out and worry I am going to gain it all back so I go back to good eating habits until the next social event comes along and I am tempted by goodies. I try to curb my head hunger with sf hot chocolate in the evenings, and I do eat a lot of sugar free popsicles and fudgesicles. There is also the sugar free fat free puddings. I do find if I mainly eat only protein, the cravings are not as bad.

There are so many toys out there, it would be good to know which one is a good one.

That is really inconsiderate. That is rude not to even call. Sorry Slim!

I ate too many brownies. Good thing they are going home with my daughter and SIL.

Most of us wish we had gotten the band sooner. I am not sure about doctors in your area, but you might want to put another post in another spot on the board where it will get more views. You can try the forum marked doctors and hospitals. Also, if you click on USA, it gets divided state by state.