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So... A little back information is required for this story. I’m a hairdresser (36 yrs) but first I’m a wife and mom , a great friend and up until just a few months ago a caregiver for my dad (he passed just recently) I have always been a giving person ( total pushover) NEVER put myself first and have had tremendous stress trying to get my child with autism the help he needs .. all this I ATE over, and ate and ate.. it was ma thang. I was always running around taking care of all and losing track of me along the way.. this past February 4th I had gastric by pass and I am changing so much I can’t believe it.. my self esteem is great and I am becoming the woman I have dreamed about becoming for DECADES.. this to the displeasure of a few folks who I have been there for even at the sacrifice of my own health and well being..well, their pushing back, disgruntled and perplexed as to why I will no longer cater to them and I’ve had some heated debates and tears from those who were used to having me at their beck and call.. the amazing thing is I have no guilt in putting myself first but the peanut gallery has a LOT to say about it... just this week I have been asked " Who is this new woman” it will require such changes to these friendships that it might mean walking away and choosing my self for a change.. I’m really excited and I can’t believe the freedom that comes with releasing that guilt that made me be so self destructive.. I’m not the woman I was months ago... and I’m darn glad!!!

Yes, keep going. Hopefully it will all work out, but it was your responsibility, not the doctor's, to confirm coverage. GreenTealael is right, there are lots of reasons for a denial. Sent from my SM-N960U using BariatricPal mobile app

So, my old scale gave up the ghost, started measuring in obviously wrong ways. I bought a new scale from here, one that can measure body fat percentage and link with my phone app. (The Yunmai scale). The scale shows me weighing about seven lbs. more than the other scale did. It's a little annoying to think that the other scale was probably inaccurate by that amount.

Way to go, Carrot! Setting up healthy boundaries now will ensure the new you inside and out. It has been my experience that people will see you the way they need to see you, in order to keep from seeing themselves. Best wishes and continued success with the ongoing summer house cleaning! ;]

And it is Good Thing, I could have written your post but I did it even longer, 44 years with late hubby, still appeasing up until my RNY 9 months ago and like you, some want to me to return to the old Status Quo, well it will never happen, I am now Strong, resilient and under new management-ME and Only ME. Oh I still can be nice to other people but it will be on a More Adult Basis. The family Doormat has permanently retired!

Hey ya'll I just wanted to update. Checked again with my insurance I do not need PCP and the attending physician performing the surgery has to be the one to submit everything which is great. I have a group policy through Anthem BCBS of Wisconsin. Since I have posted here I talked to the doctor's office about 4 times. This week I have called twice just to make sure there is not anything else that I needed to do or submit. My file is still "in queue" waiting to be sent or "paperwork being gathered" to be sent. My issue with seeking out a random PCP is the thought that they would have me do even more blood work and labs just to tell me I am pre-diabetic, blood pressure and cholesterol levels are normal (thank goodness)...et cetra. My surgeon requires everyone to see a gastroentologist like 2 months in. I have had ultrasounds and scans, an upper endoscopy, and other blood work. You all have been a lot of help I work in insurance but it is still so mind blowing how different policies/providers require different things before submitting.

Just wishing you the best and a speedy recovery! I'm sure you will do amazing Sent from my SM-G960U using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm so sorry you're having pain. I was one of the lucky ones that didn't have any pain at all. Be sure you get your fluids in, you don't want to dehydrate and have to be hospitalized. Take care.

A great idea, I'm also taste testing protein drinks. They're a lot of new ones will little sugar and a lot of proteins. Ensure makes one the protein max and Boost Max. Both have 30 g. protein with 1 g. sugar. Watch out for the Ensure max cafe mocha. Not only does it have the flavor but it also has a lot of caffine. I'm from the south so we live on ice tea so as a replacement I make my own decaf tea in a gallon and put a slice of lemon in it. I haven't had a soda or carbonated beverage since 2009 when I had my band on. Some of the high protein premade drinks taste better with ice in them it tends to thin them a bit. Initially I will get my protein from these drinks as many of the protein powders give me horrible stomach cramps. The vegan one is the only one I can add to stuff and I can't drink sugar substitutes as I get a migrane from them. I am now down to 900 - 1000 calories a day with 60 g. protein, much like I was on the band and no sugar. Getting ready for the big day. I've had 9 years practice with this way of eating so it an easy pattern for me.

LOL. Yep. But it sure beats the alternative they were shoving me into: Linzess. I'd rather take a bullet that take that drug that makes you hopelessly addicted to it.