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Ticker says it all gratz on your weight loss !

My husband supported me through the whole process. He even did the pre-op diet with me and has lost 30 lbs over the last year. In Canada we are self pay and the cost is $18K so I needed to have his support. And still today he is my biggest fan! Good luck in your decision. K

Cazzy you are amazing!! you must feel like a reborn person! give us some wisdom

Ok... MD removed fluid from band and I felt almost instantly better. Can even speak more easily! Now can get on with the healing part. Feel great.

I just got banded 1/24/12 and to now I have lost 38 lbs, how, when I couldn't tell you I've been to busy whining about the way I now need to eat, but as my dr says I must be doing it right. Congratulations..

I know! I had my first Old Navy shopping trip in December! I didn't even know where to begin! LOL. Great to have those troubles, huh?

Don't over think the response you may receive- I made this mistake. When I told my guy, he was hesitant about the whole thing. Not hesitant like, "why would you waste the money?" or "this is foolish," but more so wondering about how safe it was and assuring he loved me no matter my size (that's easy to say when you're the beanpole!!). I talked everything over with him, we watched a video on youtube of a procedure, and we researched any questions he had. After watching the video and learning more about it and realizing the surgery is not "traditional" WLS, he was 100% behind me. Just last night, I was telling my boss (who is like a second mom to me) that I would be taking time off for a procedure. I did not tell her what procedure then because of embarrassment/shame for having to admit I am a failure. She was genuinely concerned and asked me to tell her when I was ready to. After sleeping on it, I decided to tell her the full truth. I wrote her an email early this AM explaining everything and a few hours later I got an email back filled with love, encouragement, and support. I was so scared of what she could have said that I looked past how she has always been supportive of anything I do. It also doesn't help that she is super skinny/gorgeous- she just turned 51 but looks like she's in her mid-30's I guess my point is, tell the people who love you. I am sure you will be given a lot of love and support. If you're not, then they just don't understand and it's not worth your time to dwell on it.

Hi Toddy, I also had surgery on January 31st. My first fill is scheduled for next week. I don't have any restriction which I hate. We had a family emergency two weeks ago and I had to go out of town for 4 days - eating every meal out. I gained back 4 lbs. that I had lost since surgery. That was very upsetting and I have been beating myself up over it and finally chose to get back on track also. I completely judge myself and am ashamed that I have only lost 3 lbs. since surgery 4 weeks ago - it could have been 7 lbs.!!! Anyway, I rarely ever drink, so can't help you there. I have kept my surgery a complete secret from everyone too, except my daughter and out of state cousin. I took 4 "vacation" days off work - no one has a clue, not even my best friend, not my father, not my brothers. I have always eaten soooooo slow, so the family and friends are used to it. Guess they will be grateful when we all finish eating at the same time and probably won't notice I didn't eat hardly anything - once I start feeling restriction. So, to answer your question (how do you act normal around a bunch of friends, none of whom know you've had WLS??) - I started talking about trying to lose weight a few months ago when I stopped drinking sweet tea, diet coke, and started working on the pre-op plan to lose 20 lbs. So, everyone just thinks I am on a diet. The good/bad thing about lap bands is that the weight loss is gradual, so being on a diet along with the 1-2 lbs. we are supposed to lose each week will make sense to everyone else. I have already started talking about portion control as well, in preparation for outings in which I only eat a small amount. Perhaps you can do the same and also mention you are trying to eat slower so you can feel full faster. I just can't wait for my first fill so I can walk the walk and talk the talk. Good luck and keep in touch - we are lap band buddies! We can help hold each other accountable and support each other since we are in this "secret" together from Day One!

Stick to the protein and interval training!!! Treadmill on 1.0 imcline and start one minute at acomfortable walk then...For the next minute go up at least 2 speeds higher... Them alternate for 20 mins.... Watch the weight fall off... It is all about getting ur heart rate up and down... Trick ur body constantly... Remember... The mind is Mighter then the stored fat!!

Ginger, that's pretty much the stock response from girls. The problem is that what women say and what they do are completely different. I'd bet dollars to dough nuts that your gorgeous friends that think the thin guys are jerks and the other ones are great guys is having sex with the thin jerks and not the others. While it is true that women are not attracted in the same way men are, it is a mistake to think physical attributes don't play into it. Unfortunately, being over weight caries with it a negative social stigma and the last thing hot women want is to date low on the social totem pole. Note your example of the celebrity who plays the husband of a hot woman on TV. It is his celebrity status and the perception of value that comes from his hot TV wife that makes him attractive. It's called "social proof." Women are into looks, just not in the same way men are. Women are into masculine facial features and tall thin men even if they are not "good looking" in the traditional feminine sense. But again, what women think they want in a guy and what they actually go for are two completely different things.