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Thanks so much to everyone for their contributions to the list. I'm going to create my own and read it everyday for inspiration. I so related to what you wrote, and will be happy happy happy when we all reach our goals!

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Great list and I can feel you guys on some of them. I have a HUGE ego so some of those I can't relate to but some I TOTALLY can.

Never again will I...

-be the ONLY person in the room that thinks *I'm* the hottest chick in the room lol :tt2:

-look at another fat woman and think "OMG do *I* look like that??? :blink:

-Think "Hmm I'm the biggest person in here.. oh no wait there's that guy *whew*" :unsure:

-Suddenly get depressed in the middle of a good football game because I realize the linebacker weighs less or the same as me. :w00t:

-eat in my car as if "those" calories don't count. :sneaky:

-buy an extra drink just so it doesn't look like it's all for me. :blush:

-care if anyone KNOWS I'm getting or got the lapband. :thumbup:

-talk about people who get WLS as if it's "cheating" :angry:

-go to a BBW anything - ok I stopped that a long time ago, but STILL it MUST be on the LIST! :tongue2:

-Mess my room up looking for an outfit that hides my backfat. :huh2:

-buy shoes 2 sizes too big just to be able to have the width I need to be able to wear the super cute heels I love to wear. :thumbup:

-Worry about whether or not I'll fit on a ride or not. I haven't had that problem in a couple of years but it's still hard to not worry about whenever I go somewhere new or on a ride I haven't been on before. :glare:

-Not ride a ride I want to ride because I don't feel like the restraints will "hold" me in. :crying:

-Never again will I not let someone take a picture of me without my explicit approval and use of proper "fat girl angles" to flatter me. :thumbup:

-wonder WHY he's dating/interested in me...fetish or me? :huh2:

-ask the "So do you normally date fat girls" question. lol :tt2:

-have a "if I were thinner"...moment :w00t:

-Never again will I live my life on the sidelines looking "cute", never again will I let my life pass me by. Never again will anything stop me or even cross my mind to try to stop me from living my BEST life. :smile2:

I WILL...

-Be confident in EVERYTHING I do.

-Take a picture straight on and NOT use flattering "Fat Girl Angles".

-Jump in every pic and make memories

-buy shoes in the RIGHT size

-be a motivation and inspiration to any and everyone I can be.

-do the public speaking I'm meant to do.

-fly and have "extra" room in my seat! :sleep:

-take a bath in a regular size tub!

-sit confidently in ANY chair or on ANY table

-Take a nap with someone else on my couch (there will be room for someone else lol)

-wear all the super cute clothes I want to now, but don't because I don't want to show backfat.

-make life solutions not resolutions.

-live my life like it's Golden!

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I will never HAVE to bring my own towels on vacation again, but I WILL continue to do so because 1.) they're clean and 2.) I LOVE the BIG towels :w00t:

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ymjackson,

Your will&will-nots were great! I love your confidence! I am envious of it, in fact. I can totally identify with the "eating in the car because those calories don't count" will-not. I have termed my private eating as "sneaky eating" - in my car, in my room, where and when ever I am alone - I will eat eat eat and feel it doesn't matter because no one else can see me. How messed up is that??

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ymjackson,

Your will&will-nots were great! I love your confidence! I am envious of it, in fact. I can totally identify with the "eating in the car because those calories don't count" will-not. I have termed my private eating as "sneaky eating" - in my car, in my room, where and when ever I am alone - I will eat eat eat and feel it doesn't matter because no one else can see me. How messed up is that??

LMAO thank you.. but you know the really sad/funny part about those car calories is.. I live alone so really WHO am I hiding the from??? But I will do it every time, I will sit out in my car (parked in the drive way) and eat (usually finish eating) whatever fast food crap I bought and throw the bags away before I go inside.

I realized it one day and had to laugh at myself, but it's so not funny. I caught myself doing it last night infact. I decided a Protein burger was on my pre-op diet and did the same thing, sat in the car, ate it and threw the bags away. BAD BAD BAD.. gotta get my head right. Sigh. - Maybe I should open fast food for WLS patients.. here's ya Protein shake, and your bite o' burger.. you don't have room for fries, that's why they're not on the menu...NEXT!!! :thumbup: lol

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LOL - that's hysterical about the WLS Drive-Thru.

And yes, I throw away my car garbage (fast food wrappers) before I leave my car when I am sneaky eating. I will drive next to a dumpster in the back of a mall and throw the garbage in there. Like throwing it away somewhere other than my home makes it invisible. LOL. What a weird thing!

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you girls are hilarious! love it! I have lot's of I wills but one of them will be

I will not be afraid to get out on the dance floor and really shake my @ss! (or lack there of) And I won't be afraid someone will say "looks like to pigs fighting under a blanket" lol.

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I will go easily through the turnstyle.

I will not wonder if someone is watching me eat at a restraunt.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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