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I have the same thoughts. I am very pre-op. Have not even had my consult yet. But, when I was talking about doing the surgery with my husband (who is also over weight) as a thought on why I maybe should not get the surgery he said, "won't you miss, like, not being able to gulp down a big glass of Water or something?" I said, I think I am willing to give up gulping if it means I will be leaner and healthier. We are an overweight family. I don't know how "thin" people think about food. I notice my 11y/o scarffing down food and it worries me. I wonder if I will learn to let go of old "fat" ways of thinking and eating and be able to learn and teach my family the new "thin" way of thinking and eating.

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I went grocery shopping with my mom today and discovered that grocery shopping is going to be my husband's new job at least for the next several months (fortunately, he likes to grocery shop and sticks to the list). We no sooner walked in the door of the store than the smells from the deli and hot food center hit us in the face. Now, I'm four days post op and I haven't been hungry or craving at all, but those smells hit me and my mouth began to salivate regardless.

And of course this is the reason you can smell that stuff when you go into the store. They do the same thing at Movie theatres with the popcorn.< /span>

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And of course this is the reason you can smell that stuff when you go into the store. They do the same thing at Movie theatres with the popcorn.< /span>

I kept chanting to myself all morning, "These smells are not natural. They're synthetic flavoring enhancement chemicals." It kind of helps put things in perspective. A bit like that add on tv where the person walks into a fast food place and orders "one muffin top and a side of belly fat". I'm trying to look at food in the same way.

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I kept chanting to myself all morning, "These smells are not natural. They're synthetic flavoring enhancement chemicals." It kind of helps put things in perspective. A bit like that add on tv where the person walks into a fast food place and orders "one muffin top and a side of belly fat". I'm trying to look at food in the same way.

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Whatever works is what we have to do. One time, I wanted a little popcorn and since I was home alone, I popped some, and then poured Water over the part I did not want to eat. It worked and I kept it under control.

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Whatever works is what we have to do. One time, I wanted a little popcorn and since I was home alone, I popped some, and then poured Water over the part I did not want to eat. It worked and I kept it under control.

Very nice tactic! You might also try those little 100 calorie individual serving popcorn bags. I started buying those and discovered they were perfect for one...although with restriction, they're probably perfect for both me and my husband.

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I did and do miss food and the full mouth and belly feeling. However, it has gotten better. I am a month out and have been very cranky. I think I am de-toxing from all the crap. Other than Melba Toast, i have not had a bread like substance since October 4th. I have had 1 fill and have some restriction, but i could keep eating more than my 1/2 cup. There is a mourning period. Friends already have stopped inviting me over and out b/c "I have food issues". I feel like saying, "I am working on my food issues,(and others) not you!". One friend said she would never kill herself like I ma to be thin. I said but I didn't want to kill myself being fat either. I always keep it about me when I shoot back, so as not to be preachy. But I digress........It gets better as we work through our sick relationship with food. My therapist has helped a lot with this. Hang in there.

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I did and do miss food and the full mouth and belly feeling. However, it has gotten better. I am a month out and have been very cranky. I think I am de-toxing from all the crap. Other than Melba Toast, i have not had a bread like substance since October 4th. I have had 1 fill and have some restriction, but i could keep eating more than my 1/2 cup. There is a mourning period. Friends already have stopped inviting me over and out b/c "I have food issues". I feel like saying, "I am working on my food issues,(and others) not you!". One friend said she would never kill herself like I ma to be thin. I said but I didn't want to kill myself being fat either. I always keep it about me when I shoot back, so as not to be preachy. But I digress........It gets better as we work through our sick relationship with food. My therapist has helped a lot with this. Hang in there.

I have noticed reading through these forums that many have to completely rearrange their friendships after WLS. It sort of reminds me of when my DH had to quit drinking. His friends weren't his friends any more. He had to completely rearrange his relationships. It is interesting, but sometimes we don't need friends like the one who lashed out at you. Best of luck with that. :)

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It is like when AA or NA suggest you limit your socialization to those from "group". My BFF is the one said the thing about killing myself, I think she is having to look at herself b/c of my surgery. Her doc has already told her she has to lose. She is heavier than me too. I hope she stops using her insecurity/problem on me!

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It is like when AA or NA suggest you limit your socialization to those from "group". My BFF is the one said the thing about killing myself, I think she is having to look at herself b/c of my surgery. Her doc has already told her she has to lose. She is heavier than me too. I hope she stops using her insecurity/problem on me!

Hopefully this helps. Two years ago, my daughter called me and said she was going to get banded. I almost fell over. First of all, I did not think she was that much overweight, but she told me she was 100lbs over where she wanted to be. Initially, I thought she was crazy spending that kind of money on that. Later, I had to come to terms with my feelings and I realized I was jealous of her. After she lost 90lbs, I just suddenly decided that I could do it too. It was like a sudden feeling of total peace spilled all over me. Within a week I had my own surgery date, and I am currently 7 weeks post op. I feel I did the right thing, and I have since discussed all of this with my daughter. She is and has always been one of my closest friends so it is really good now. We are taking a trip over Thanksgiving because her Brother is coming back from Afghanistan. We are having so much fun talking about it and planning our little tiny meals together. Life is good!!!:)

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Thanks. I suspect jealousy has a lot to do with it. Though it sounds self centered to think someone is jealous of me. Glad your brother will be home soon. Enjoy!

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I eat everything, just cant eat alot of it. The band isnt a death sentence. I've lost 82 lbs since Last October and I, as well as everyone else can eat anything. Certaind things might not go down so well, but you learn as you go. :drool:Good luck.

Hi there, I am 3 days in to my pre op diet, op is on Nov 19th. I am soooo hungry and every thought of food, sight of food, smell of food.. EVERYTHING is difficult to deal with. Its making me wonder if, after the band is fitted, i will be missing food and longing for food or feeling sad about the food i can no longer eat? I will not change my mind, i just want to be prepared.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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