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Soooo, Tuesday evening , The depression fairy found me .. Dh comes home from work, I am sitting in recliner, wrapped in a blanket with tears running down my face.. I have had enough of the liquids , mushies, and the whole thing... HE tells me get dressed we are going out .. Oh great, just what I want -- NOT !!!

We pull into red Lobster ( I know cheap so so sea food), but I was excited ... The waiter came and I talked to him and showed him my card and he said he had no problem leting DH and me share a dinner. So we ordered a platter , that had lobster on it .. Husband got everything but the lobster.

I shredded that tail and smothered it with lemon juice. This was the best lobster I have ever had . after this dinner , I am back on track.

BTW-- No I did not have , salad or bread and I had 1 tablespoon of baked potato with my lobster.

Maybe I need to cry more often ...The waiter was a sweetie about all of this and we of course tipped him on double the amount of the bill.

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See what a little cry can do! The emotions you will go through during this process are amazing and eye opening. I wish you the best on your jouney! Maybe the next time you feel like crying suggest to your husband a jewelry store instead of red lobster. Diamonds have no calories! LOL. Thanks for the story it made me laugh. I remember those days.

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I remember during the first few weeks post-op feeling so depressed about giving up the foods I love. Now I don't even think about it. It's only because you are hungry that you feel depressed.

When you start to feel this way go outside and go for a walk. Changing your focus will save you every time and exercise helps to release endorphins and serotonin that will help eliminate the depression.

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I used the jewelry store after my accident in '96. We were in there trying get my wedding ring cleaned & repaired . Jeweler said "no luck". While the jeweler was inspecting my ring ,of course I was looking around, and had spotted a 1 1/4 carat tear drop shaped diamond set in a WIDE free form gold setting . Jewelers intrepretation of snow melting in the Rockies. DH says to jewlers- Give her that one - and pointed to that ring . I am still wearing it . Dh is terrified of jewlery stores .. Especially

custom jewelers.. LOL

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Hi! I chickened out on my lapband surgery yesterday! Maybe you can encourage me with some of your experience!!!

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I am soooo sorry that you are having 2nd thoughts . I have had not had a moment indecision since I started researching Lap band .. My biggest problem was finding a doctor I liked and trusted .. for me that meant , going to Texas. But that is okay, I will make the 7 hour drive because I love the doctor and his staff. The notebook I got from Dr. B. after my surgery explained the bouts of depression ,so Dh knew what to do and what to expect.. I am feeling so good about myself right now. Granted , I have lost only 16 pounds, but that is a bag of potatoes ,2 loaves of bread and a box of chocolate donuts I am not carrying with me every day.. I will give every pound of loss a designation. Of course it will be something that was bad for me and I ate excessive amounts of it . I guess I am fortunate that I have been able to deal with this . Sure I have some doubts, but this to will pass.

You can email me privately at (Check you email)

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i also backed out 12 months ago when i was 3 days into the pre op diet.

2 weeks ago yesterday i finally got banded :thumbup:

it did take me awhile to learn and finally agree to the band, but i can tell you now its the best decision that i have ever made.

take it easy and when the time is right you will know and you will get it done :smile2:

Good luck

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what card did you show to the weighter?

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It looks like a credit card -- Says Lap-Band on it . It came with the info pack from my doctor after my surgery. I filled out the on line application(rather than doing the mail in ) and received my card in the mail lessthan a week later.

what card did you show to the weighter?

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i was going to ask the same thing about the card. i'll have to ask about that at my post op!

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What does the card do? I got one from my doc office (a laminated business card) and they said to show it at restaurants, but I have no idea what it does.

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I guess I don't understand the point of showing the card at the restaurant? I know that the average portion they bring you is like 3-4 times (or more) what we should be eating. But ask for a take out box. Ask for 3 boxes, and divide it up into 4 portions, eat one and take 3 home. If you get the to-go boxes before you start eating, it makes it alot easier to know "when to stop" My wife and I often split a meal before the lap-band. Now, we can split a meal, and I can take half of my half home for lunch the next day (depending on the restaurant)

I have never found a restaurant that argues with me, or won't accommodate my requests. If I did, I would let my shoes do the explaining, as I walked out the door to find a better restaurant.

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Mine is a Patient ID card

Lap-Band AP System

The back side has muy surgical date and My surgeons name & number

Tell that I have lap band and that device is compatible with MRI. Also tell your PCP be careful when prescribing ulcerogenic meds/

Note on bottom: Please allow this person to order smaller portions, as the amount of food this person can eat has been greatly reduced.

So if I go to a buffet with friends, I can order the childs portion and save $$$. Which I need since I am a self pay patient ..

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My Dr gave me one in his packet. It states to allow me to order off the childs menu or have a reduced rate at buffets. Not all places honor it, I was told in Las Vegas all the major casinos and buffets honor it. Here in Reno some do some don't, you would be amazed at the ones that don't they are the larger places, one is in Sparks. Anyway as a former poster stated I can always vote with my feet by not going to the places that don't abide.

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