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Hi there everyone. I've thought about lap banding for quite a while. I originally considered gastric bypass but the side effects terrified me. I have two young daughters under seven and every day I worry that I'm going to have a heart attack and leave them. I remember hitting 200 lbs and thinking I would NEVER get any bigger and now here I am topping 300. I put up pictures of my girls picking apples today for friends and I refused to put up pics of myself. I don't know why I try to deny it to myself but I know I need to do something. Unfortunately my pcp is soooooo laid back about my weight issue. He asks if I work out and leaves it at that. Well I get muscle cramps in my stomach like charlie horses because I'm so out of shape and the back of my foot is always hurting because of all of this weight. So I've decided to go to one of the seminars this week for the band. Enough excuses and enough sitting there and waiting for it to happen. I'm setting a HORRIBLE example for my daughters by allowing myself to be this way and I will not do it. I will not create eating issues for them and I will not let them think this is acceptable. My youngest tells me all of the time how big I am, four year olds are brutally honest. But now it's time to do something and have her tell me how good mommy looks. I look forward to using this forum as a tool to support and help me along the way and I hope to help others as well. Have a great night!

Shannon

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Welcome and good luck! Sounds like you have the right mindset - Im sure you will be very successful. Ask lots of questions here and also at your seminar (and then at all of your preop appointments afterward). There is so much information on this site - if you take advantage of it, you will be SO prepared for surgery and beyond. Keep us updated!!

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Welcome!!! It sounds like you really care about yourself and your family. That is great that you love them enough to take this step. Thats one of the reasons I am doing this also, and of course the legs/feet hurting, etc. You have definitely come to the right place for support. I am going to get my surgery date soon and I have gotten so much support and information from everyone on here. Best of luck!!!

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Good for you for taking the first step! I too am in the very beginning stages and a lot of what you said reminds me of myself, I've avoided pictures and mirrors so I wouldn't have to accept it- that only works for so long. Also, my PCP is very laid back about my weight to- he's never brought it up and my BMI is 48! My Seminar is tomorrow and I am very excited- good luck on your journey!

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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