Shrinking Violets - Part 5!

[Teachlady 3]

Violets..

Please send extra prayers out. They just took Jen to the hospital by ambulance after she ingested sleeping pills. Luckily she called Joe to tell him. Bob went over there and called the ambulance. She was conscious, breathing, but 90% incoherent.. Joe is on his way back from work a half hour away and I have Ethan. We can't handle any of this anymore. She needs to get professional help or Joe needs to take Ethan and leave her. Either way it's going to be a long haul and I think I will have a grandson to raise totally.

[HeatherO 7]

Judy, I am so sorry. First CPS and now this. I don't think she is going to have much choice now but to seek help or she may not be allowed to keep her children in the home. As terrible as this is perhaps it is a start towards a new life for all of them and will be a catalyst for change.

Thank goodness you are in their life and can help. The stability you have provided Ethan will help him through this rough time. I hope you can take him for some time to shield him from some of the drama since he is too young to understand but old enough to know something really bad is happening in his family. I will definitely send prayers for your family.

I hear a lot about Ethan but not so much about the other child living there. How is the other child doing?

[Teachlady 3]

Heather, our son Joe married Jen against our better judgment, but you know how that always goes. She already had 2 sons by different fathers. One lives downstate with his dad and is doing very well. Steven lives with Jen and is now 13 and you know what teenagers are like. He is a smart kid, but is in with the wrong crowd and doing very poorly in school. Couple that with a mother who is unstable and the combination was bound to explode sooner or later. The last time she had problems and was admitted to the mental hospital it was because of a blow up about Steven's grades. This time it was about Steven also. I don't know what happened, but the argument between the two of them escalated and became physical. His father took him to the UP and heard the whole story, so when they got home they went to the police. The police came out last night and said though what she did was wrong they understood about teen age boys. Apparently CPS is taking Steven out of the home and that's why she took the pills. I love Ethan to death, but I just don't want to have to raise him... but I will do what I have to do. Jen's dad died in a motorcycle/deer accident several years ago and Joe promised him on his deathbed that he would take care of Jen. Therein lies the problem. Joe loves her, but is at his limit with her behavior. This is all going to be very bad with her job, their finances and the children.

I'm just overwhelmed. Sorry this is so long, but it helps to just write it out.

[Daisalana 33]

Prayers all around!

My friend's mom is Lori, she took a bunch of pills and they found her underwater in the tub. She's been intubated since they brought her in, but friend said she thinks she's going to be ok. She's been moved to ICU.

There's so much back story to that, I feel so bad for my friend (she's the godmother of Carson), she's had to deal with a lot of crap lately, and this was out of left field.

Judy, I know you'd do what's best for Ethan, but I hope you don't end up being put in that situation. I feel so bad for gma's that end up having to raise their grandkids. Seems so unfair.. My mom had to raise my niece for her first year (both parents drug addicts), then the mom just up and moved to NJ to be with her family, and my mom has only seen her once since then (she's 9 now). I know it breaks my moms heart, but I know she didn't sign up to have another baby.

[janiebug 0]

prayers...........

[kity 2]

Judy,

So sorry to hear about this. Poor Ethan, I am sure he knows something is wrong. Will Jen be in the hospital under suicide watch now? In CA it is 72 hours mandatory observation.

Laura...when did you baptize Carson??? I can't believe I missed that??

bbl

[Teachlady 3]

Jen is in the hospital overnight and Joe signed the commitment papers so she will be admitted tomorrow morning into that facility. She had been prescribed meds for depression after her last bout, but discontinued them as they were costing $300 a month and they had no insurance. And we wonder why we need health care reforms.

Steven was not taken away. Both she and Steven have to undergo counseling separately and then together. As we told Joe, this might be the best thing to come out of this whole situation. Just to get everyone some help. As of this month they now have insurance and if she doesn't lose her job over this, they should be able to keep up with the meds.

[mdrai 3]

Aye yai yai! Hugs all around.

[irishmae11 0]

Prayers going up here for everyone...I had a wee bright spot yesterday,,,I talked to one of my Mom's oldest, dearest friends...I had tried checkinng Facebook a couple weeks ago looking for her son, they had an unusual last name....found the daughter, found out her brother had died, but that the mom was still alive and kicking....so I called her and she sounded exactly the same, we talked for an hour-she is still driving, lives essentially on her own, was a great talk...sorry you all are having trials right now....hang in there....

[mdrai 3]

It seems to be a very trying time for everyone. We have to be strong for those going through all the difficulties. And we have to keep ourselves strong and on the right path with our eating. Don't let this be an excuse, k?

Love you all..

Amen, sister. We have to be strong and stay strong.

Ironically, where I usually would fall face-first into the pantry, I am not. It occurred to me that eating properly and moving a bit each day are just about all I have control over right now -- so I'm controlling them!

[Teachlady 3]

Good evening, Violets..

Joe talked to Jen's boss and she has the rest of the week off, thank goodness. Jen is an asst. manager at Big Lots. She's been a very good employee and they have been very tolerant of her "episodes".

Michelle.. you are so right. We are in control of our eating. Everything else has a life of it's own, doesn't it?

Food report for today..

B.. De-Light turkey sausage, egg, cheese, muffin sandwich. I ate 3 bites and was so tight from stress, I couldn't eat any more

L...1 piece of Tilapia

S... 1 slice toast with Peanut Butter

D...1 chicken cheese quesadilla

S..1 hot chocolate

S..4 ginger snaps.. but thank goodness for the band.. I pb'd them all.

I think I'm done eating for the day. Going to keep drinking my Water (white peach/cranberry). I just don't think anything else will stay down at this point.

Ethan is sound asleep on the couch. He's been such a good boy today. We read and read and read. This kid is going to know his Nursery Rhymes when he starts school!

Everyone have a good evening. sleep well. Knowing Jen's job is safe and she's where she needs to be will help me to sleep tonight.

[suzyt 0]

OMG -- I might get a foster child tomorrow. HELP!! Gia, she's a 12 year old and her father called CPS and said get her out of here, it's not safe here for her. No mom in the home. Not quite sure what that means 'not safe for her here'. Apparently she's been caught with cigs, booze and porn. Great!!

[kity 2]

OMG -- I might get a foster child tomorrow. HELP!! Gia, she's a 12 year old and her father called CPS and said get her out of here, it's not safe here for her. No mom in the home. Not quite sure what that means 'not safe for her here'. Apparently she's been caught with cigs, booze and porn. Great!!

Suzie, sounds like no one has paid much attention to her lately. Good luck w/ her, lock up your booze and porn...you should be fine! :thumbup::thumbup: Thank you for taking her in!

[janiebug 0]

Suzie, good luck with Gia sounds like she needs some tlc. I agree with Pamela thanks!!

I have a meeting at 8:00, I hate getting up early!! It is cold too!! BBBRRRRRR!

Okay I am off to the showers!!

I hope the purple power worked wonders yesterday!!!!!!

[Teachlady 3]

Good morning, Violets..

Ethan slept for 12 hours last night! We just got done with his bath and he's all dressed and ready for the day. Joe will be over later to pick him up. If Jen is well enough to be released from the hospital and transferred to the mental facility, then Joe will not be able to see her except for specific times. If she isn't transferred today, then he will have more time with her.

I'm so glad yesterday is over and it's a new day today. All I have today is babysitting and choir.

Hugs to everyone and make it a good day.