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Can We Talk About Sex?

Spydr

By Spydr, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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Spydr    0

Spydr
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Sorry if this not the place but I need to know from people who have been there. A doctor's opinion is one thing but you guys have lived the life.

How long after surgery did you wait to have sex? How long is recommended? Are there some pitfalls I'm not thinking of? Nothing wild or crazy, I just want to know what to expect. Thanks for the help!

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Heather Joy    0

Heather Joy
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i waited about a week-and oh what a long week that was..lol. straight missionary,but he was on his knees instead of directly over me (hope that makes sense),it was a WHILE before we could do anything more wild lol just take it at a slow pace and find whats most comfortable (and not painful!)for you--Good Luck!

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I'llsucceed    1

I'llsucceed
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You may find some answers on past posts. there are many on sex- just go to search & look it up. I am sure you'll find lots of answers;0)

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Alexandra    55

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With this, as with all things, everyone is different. It all depends on how YOU feel. There is no reason to hold back if you feel up to any particular physical activity. :)

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Jachut    487

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I've got a 2 year old, an 8 year old and a 10 year old and I'm trying to finish a university degree so I'm planning on oh, about 10 years!

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flower    2

flower
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Just feel what you think is right probably sex won't be on your mind recovery will just hard if all his weight is on top of you I'm sure youll be fine. good luck

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princess_n_thep    2

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Personally, I preferred pleasing him orally until I was 100%. Rather me than someone else huh?!?!?! Just kidding, my man wouldn't go elsewhere even if I didn't do it.

I just took the "healing" time VERY seriously. I was very careful. So I think it was 6 weeks until we did. And by then, it was alllllllllllllll good. :)

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Pianoman    0

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I have to say that, I had my surgery on August 23rd, and have yet to engage in intercourse.

Now, that's mainly because I'm still trying to find someone to engage in intercourse with.

However, if anyone asks, I tell them my celibacy is through choice.

(it's my SECOND choice).

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Pianoman    0

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Hey Spydr I think it was about 2 to 3 weeks but as soon as Andy gives me his address and a plane ticket........

Ha!, thanks Teresa - I'll meet you at the airport (let me just get my coat).

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Teresita    0

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I'm out the door.....see your soon with bells on (nothing else on) yuk, after I get arrested and bailed out I'll be there!!!!

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Marimaru    7

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I was told nothing strenuous (sp) for 2 weeks, so that's how long I waited. We took it slow and everything was fine.

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CaliQueenBee    0

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It ain't like havin' a baby and waitin' 6 looooong weeks, but I think a little time to heal should be taken. I waited about 3 weeks, and ab muscles were a little sore after, but nothing too painful...I guess it depends on how fast you heal and what position you're in. :rolleyes:

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