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i was very open with my co-workers about my surgery. im a nurse and figured why lie? they aren't dumb and i consider most of them friends. and for the most part they've all been very supportive. i,ve lost 25 pounds in the 5 weeks since my surgery. i just had my 1st fill last friday so being that i've had little to no restriction i feel pretty proud of myself.

needless to say i've got that one co-worker who has only nasty things to say. (to be honest she's kind of the office bitch and very thin) . everyone has complimented me on my weight loss besides her.

on more than one occasion i she made comments to me that my weight loss really isn't a big since i cheated to lose weight by having surgery. i generally speak up for myself but i let her get away with this a few times. well she said it tonight and i told her off. i asked since she thought my surgery was cheating what does she consider the 2 packs of cigarrettes and 12 cups of coffee she has everyday instead of eating? she literally lives on caffeine and nicoteine. if thats not cheating then i dont know what is. i also told i'd rather gain 50 more pounds and be happy then be a miserable skinny bitch! that seemed to shut her up pretty quick.

has anyone had any similar problems? how did you address them? my method might not have been the most adult but it sure felt good! to anyone who reads this thanks for listening. i really needed to vent about this

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i asked since she thought my surgery was cheating what does she consider the 2 packs of cigarrettes and 12 cups of coffee she has everyday instead of eating?
Bwahahahahahaha! I'd love to have seen that! Don't suppose you filmed the event with your mobile phone .... ?

:(

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Good for you Jennifer! People like that need someone to bring them back down to earth - if only for a short while.

Anyone who says being banded is cheating - is someone who's never been banded and had to deal with its' trials and tribulations.

It's a weight loss tool and that's all - long term, a lifestyle change is required - and that's true for any kind of lasting weight loss - unless you're a substance abuser like your skinny little co-worker....

Brad

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LoL Good for you girl, & i dont consider getting banded is cheating, If she had bothered to read more about it & realize we still have to make good food choices & EXERCISE to make the band work for us,

mmmm skinny bitch & DUMB i would have called her LOLOLOLOLOLOL

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*applauds Brad's post.

Well said, my friend.

Jennifer, I've never had anybody tell me anything like that, but I think your method is perfectly acceptable.

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Seriously...just ignore her!

People like that will find reasons to bitch so don't waste your energy. You know how well you're doing (as do we cos it ain't easy!).

Well done on the great loss!

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i also told i'd rather gain 50 more pounds and be happy then be a miserable skinny bitch! that seemed to shut her up pretty quick.

:( skinny bitch without a brain no doubt - nice one

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Nothing wrong with putting her in her place and blowing off some steam.

But what will really get under her skin is to use her criticism as motivation. In my opinon, for some reason (because she's a bitch?) she seems to want to see you fail. Just wait a few months when the weight loss really starts to show...I'll bet your sucess will really eat her up!

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Wish I could have been there! You go!

Many have noticed my weightloss...I moved after reaching goal but I've continued to lose weight.

My response to why I'm losing weight is:

I don't eat as much as I used to.

Since I don't share my dental fillings, root canal, Migraines, and other ailments or health care with people...I'm surely not going to share a gastric band.

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lolololol I love it!.... There's always a Hater in the group, put'em in their place and they arent so big and bad anymore.. Good Luck!

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Way to put her in her place! Ignorant twit! I hate people like that. Obviously she feels threatened by you otherwise she wouldn't of said what she said.

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Thank you for sharing! I needed a bit of a 'pick me up' this morning and this definitely did it! Now, i think i'm going to go cheat me up a snack of oh, lets say, a cheese stick, then a big bottle of water! ROFLMAO!!!!!!! :blink::( :beer_yum:

Way to go Jennifer!

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thats my girl!!!!!!!

she really dont know what the heck she is talking about wen she said that this is cheating(sooo far from the truth) but ignore bitches like that and continue getting sexyer by the minute.......lol

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This is funny! I'm glad you spoke up for yourself. I've also told just about everyone that I'm going to have this surgery. I am surprised how supportive most people are being. The only person who gave me shit was my sister who doesn't understand why I just don't "lose the weight" (like she did by doing weight watchers).

For me, I'm just trying to keep in perspective that most people are supportive. There will alwasy be some bitch who tries to rain on your parade anytime you have a success in life.

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