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Hi all,

Bandpal PM'd me to make sure I hadn't fallen off the face of the earth, so I figured I should check in.

I haven't been posting much because I don't have a lot of weight loss to report. I've been at the same weight for about 7 months. I'm not complaining, because I'm really not even thinking about it and the weight stays off. In times past, if I had lost 50 pounds, it would have started coming back on the minute I dropped my guard.

I've had some very trying emotional times lately. My beloved Mom recently got very sick, and she passed away last week. So, it's even more remarkable that I haven't gained weight, because food has always been such a comfort.

I am very happy with the band, and hope to lose another 40 pounds this year. After that, I plan to have the deflated spare tire lopped off from around my waist. I had hoped to do that by my 50th b'day, but 51 will do just fine.

I hope all of you are doing well. I know from reading the posts that some of you are true band SUPERSTARS. I'm pround of all of us. What a great start to the rest of our lives.

Peace and joy to you all.

Foofy

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Hi Foofy and everyone,

I am sorry to hear about your mom, you are in my prayers.

Like you foofy I haven’t lost much since July. In reality it has been a struggle not to regain too much weight. I have been fighting with a 6 to 10 lb gain since the end of July; I drop it and gain it right back.

I have had many changes in my life, and I find myself turning to old habits, also I suffered a knee injury this winter so I haven’t exercise for the past 3 months. I am going to the doctor next week Wednesday to get a fill, and I want to use that as my opportunity to start over. 16 months post op I haven’t reached my goal weight of 170. I know I should be proud and happy with what I have accomplished thus far. However, after having tasted victory I want more, I am hopping that I will make it by my 37th birthday on July 30th. To reach my goal I decided to do the following:

1.Get a fill ( take care of my band)

2.Go back to what worked for me before. (living and eating the bandster way)

3.Exercise (I may have to start slow all over again, but slow and steady wins the race)

4.Support (I will log on to the message board and try to post at least once a week)

I am hopping; going back to basic will help me to restart my weight lost and get me back on track. If anyone would like join me, that would be great, together we are unstoppable.

Marie

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Foofy I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. I'll be praying for you and your family.

Fifty pounds is nothing to sneeze at. I would be thrilled to death. Maybe a fill is in order to get your weightloss going again when you are ready. My last one was in Dec and it helped me to take off the last 30 lbs.

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Hi Foofy,

It's good you haven't fallen off the face of the earth – earth's face would be worse for wear if you weren't around to lend it your character, your smile and your style.

Hearing of your mom's passing saddened me. I wish you strength for the weeks ahead. Your husband sounded loving and supportive. I hope you can draw a lot of comfort from him and from the others close around you.

Yes, it is really wonderful that you haven't gained weight at a time when food is so easy to turn to. And you're right that just staying at the same weight for seven months is quite an accomplishment, one which many of us have never been able to pull off before – I know I haven't. I know you can reach the goal you set for yourself – in your own way, in your own time. We are all so different from each other – why should we loose weight in the same way, even if we've had the same procedure? As to the deflated spare tire, I think Joan Rivers put it best: “I have flabby thighs, but fortunately my stomach covers them.”

LBT is a great resource, but I never stop noticing how many members are focused in on weight to the exclusion of everything else. Weight is the result of our problem, not the cause of it. It is as if, on a site dedicated to avoiding colds, having a normal body temperature of 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit is all anyone cares about – not whether they are dressing warmly, taking Vitamins, getting enough sleep, eating and drinking properly and generally nurturing themselves. Of course, the greatest irony is that until people address these underlying concerns, they will continue to have colds and obsess about their temperature.

I have been guilty of this as well – just look at my signature! And I don't mean to denigrate the great support that has gone on here with regards to weight, especially our challenges. But I really believe that we are not going to get better unless we address the root causes behind the behavior that got us lying down on an operating room table with the hum of a laparoscope in the background. And this means that the bad times are at least, if not more relevent to us as the good times. Of course, these are exactly the thoughts and feelings that are the hardest to share about. But I hope we can.

Anyway, I'm jumping off my soapbox (about all the exercise I'm apparently capable of doing). It was really good to hear from you, Foofy. Be well and stay in touch.

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