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Hello Ladies,

I was glad to see this site, well here is my story.I have been trying to start a family with hubbby for 2 years, but weight have been a factor due to irregular cycles. I was put on prometrium and clomid to help, finally after a year I conceived, You could imagine how happy and excited we were.Sadly the pregnancy ended in miscarriage. 12/06/08

I have decided to have the lapband surgery, am I making the right decesion? Should I wait ,my desire is to have a baby. Any thoughts.

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hi there.

DEFINITELY have the lapband, and do it before you try to conceive. So many of us had the same story, symptoms or heartache you had and have now conceived. I can think of 8 or 9 lapband ladies that have been successful in the past 6 months in getting and staying pregnant, myself included. I invite you to read one of the threads I started titled "Banded & Hoping to get Preg - Join In". It has tons of different stories of those trying and those who are pregnant. Nearly all of us had struggles with our fertility or cycles in some way or another.

I have 3 girlfriends who are also trying to get pregnant. They are not banded. 2 of them are heavy and the other is normal size but has recently been putting on weight very quickly (gaining 4 or more lbs every few weeks). All 4 of us were trying to concieve..some of them for more than a year. I am the only one who has gotten pregnant and not miscarried (knock on wood), and it only took me about 4-5 months, even with my fertility issues. Even when you have no other problems other than just being heavy, it DOES affect your fertility. My heaviest friend refuses to believe that her miscarriages are a result of her weight and will not try to diet. Her doctor finally told her that she has to lose weight before trying to get pregnant or he will not treat her anymore.

I didn't believe my weight and cycles were affected when I was heavier, but now I see so many signs and problems that went away once I lost 50 lbs. I'm gaining now that I'm pregnant, but I have plans to tighten the band after baby is born and get down even further.

Good luck, and keep us posted!:biggrin:

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I agree with Ejmdiva, banding certainly helps. It is not so much the banding but the weight loss that makes you ultra-fertile.

I have a 16 year old son . . . and just never got pregnant again. Once I was banded and got close to goal, I went off of birth control and conceived within two weeks . . . ONLY 2 WEEKS??? I still can't believe it.

Was it the weight loss that did it . . . I have no doubts. So far so good, this pregnancy has been smooth sailing.

Good luck with your decision.

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