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hi there everyone, i was banded on the 8th august 2008 and since then have had two fills now got 4cc but have lost absolutely nothing, not even a lb and in fact probably weigh a tiny bit more, about 4lb more, i have struggled to excercise as i have two young girls who get up about 6 every morning and whereas before i would excercise at the gym from 7-8.30am now that time has gone and in the evening by the time the girls are in bed by 8 i'm totally shattered, so i know i need to improve that. 5 years ago i was a marathon runner now im 15 stone, morbidly obese and unhappy. I really wanted the band to work for me but now feel lost, no real idea about what i should or shouldn't be eating or why i've plateued before even starting. I thought by Christmas I would at least have lost a stone but to weigh more than when i began this journey is heartbreaking to me, does nyone have any suggestions, ideas, help or support?:tongue2:

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hi there everyone, i was banded on the 8th august 2008 and since then have had two fills now got 4cc but have lost absolutely nothing, not even a lb and in fact probably weigh a tiny bit more, about 4lb more, i have struggled to excercise as i have two young girls who get up about 6 every morning and whereas before i would excercise at the gym from 7-8.30am now that time has gone and in the evening by the time the girls are in bed by 8 i'm totally shattered, so i know i need to improve that. 5 years ago i was a marathon runner now im 15 stone, morbidly obese and unhappy. I really wanted the band to work for me but now feel lost, no real idea about what i should or shouldn't be eating or why i've plateued before even starting. I thought by Christmas I would at least have lost a stone but to weigh more than when i began this journey is heartbreaking to me, does nyone have any suggestions, ideas, help or support?:tongue2:

Hi Annika

You have to stay positive with the lap band it will work for you as long as you work with it. Start a new exercise pattern it really helps. I just hit my one year mark and 4 fills and i am finally at my sweet spot. I do Zumba 3 to 4 times a week and really watch my food intake and portion sizes. I am a slow loser and have been thru the depression but I pick myself up and keep going because I am serious about losing this weight and reaching my goal. You can do this:smile2:

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annika - *CAUTION-lengthy post* Don't know if I'll be of much help, but, here's my story. I was banded May 21, 2007 - 19 mos out, and I have lost about 10 pounds - and that was PRE-op. Not a pound since surgery. I toy with the same 2-3 pounds up and down, up and down, up and down. However, I look at it as a success because without the band, there is no doubt that I would be much heavier. It's not helped me to lose, YET; but has kept me from gaining. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am frustrated, depressed, disgusted and feel like a total failure. I live in a small town - where everyone knows your business so I feel like people are looking at me everywhere I go and thinking "I thought she had a weight loss surgery". Yep, I did and I'm not a big success YET. But, I am working at it - I have given up several times; however, I am determined to make this work. I am trying to make better food choices and start doing some sort of exercise. I have found the band to control my portion sizes, I just make poor choices - not allowing the band to do its entire job. And, I can count on 1 hand the number of times I have exercised the last 6 months - sad, hey? I went thru a period, or several of them, of denial - thinking "this stupid band", why isn't it working for me - WELL, I have admitted to myself that I am not allowing the band to work for me. It's not a miracle cure - was hoping it would be.

Just yesterday, for Christmas, my mom got me a book called Prevention 2008 SHORTCUTS TO BIG WEIGHT LOSS - great book so far - have not been able to put it down. Anyways, the basic theory in this book (which I have heard several times lately) is that (3) 10 minutes of exercise a day are just as beneficial, if not more so, than a 30-40 minute exercise bout. The idea being, it's far easier to find 10 minutes here and there to exercise than it is to find 30-40 minutes. Which is true for me. Granted my kids are 10 and 13, and have always slept in in the mornings. So, I am fortunate. Having little kids that rise at the crack of dawn (my sister has 2 boys ages 3 and 4 that do this) is tough. I'm not going to preach to you about exercise because #1 I don't exercise and #2 I don't know your situation, BUT, I truly think that a lot of my "lack of weight loss" is directly related to my lack of exercise. If I just moved more - I expect that it would start to come off.

That being said, please don't feel that you are a failure, and know that you are NOT alone. You are very new to the band - much newer than I - give it time. Sorry for the length of my post - wanted to fill you in on my story.

Good luck to you - you can do this. Post anytime - many, many people are here for you - most with VERY good advice.

Stephanie

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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