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Hi Everyone!

I had my surgery on October 16th and like many of you I fear that the band won't work for me. I weigh myself twice everyday (once in the morning and once in the afternoon).

I have 6.5 cc's in my 14 cc band and I have restriction but I want more because I think it will work even better for me. I have my 3rd fill scheduled for Dec 12th and I think that one will hold me for a while.

The point of this thread is to share with everyone what I am dealing with personally and some things I have come to realize. I have lost 44 pounds since I was banded. This weekend I had more energy than I have had in a long time. I am assuming its coming from the little weight loss I have had. I also notice that I am losing about 1-2 pounds consistantly and am learning to be ok with that. I think many of us get freaked out when we don't wake up the morning after surgery and discover that we didn't lose the 100 pounds or more that we struggle with.

I know I will have moments when I get down on myself but I am learning to enjoy this journey. To focus my attention on not only eating better but taking care of my skin, hair and improving myself overall in anticipation of the new physical me.

I don't want to be the same miserable person that I was when I was 339 pounds. I want to look forward to all the things I will be able to do when I lose weight. I want to relish in those moments when I can cross my legs and put socks on without having to contort my body into embarrassing positions.

It would be nice to wake up tomorrow and be 150 pounds lighter but in reality, I have to be patient. Good things are coming for me and will come for you too. Let's congradulate each other on those 2 pound loses as we do the 100 pound loses and be proud that we have 2 pounds less on our bodies.

In a year when I am much thinker, I want to remember the journey rather than the negative self talk I have been having with myself.

Good luck to everyone!

Tracie

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Tracie, 44 pounds since October 16th is AWESOME!! A loss of 1-2 pounds a week (after the big initial post-op drop most people have) is right where we should be. Anything over that is a bonus. And weighing twice a day has the potential to be less than helpful, and even discouraging. Weight fluctuates during the day and day to day for any number of reasons. Set yourself a once a week "weigh-in day" and let THAT be your official weekly weight. I admit, I do usually step on the scale every morning, but I don't give much importance to those numbers. I certainly don't let one day's slight gain get me down because I know, if I'm doing what I'm supposed to, it will more than likely be lost and then some by Friday (my weigh-in day).

You are doing a wonderful thing for yourself, as we all are! Congratulations for taking control and living the life you want.:cursing:

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It's nice to read your uplifting post right now while I'm going through bandster hell. I needed to read it -

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Wow! 44 pounds weight loss is great. Great job!

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Great weight loss! I don't check twice a day but I check each morning on my way to he bathroom. I am hoping to continue the 2 lbs a week for awhile. I am making exercise my new religion. I recently bought resistance bands since I am suffering from pinch nerves. I do cardio on my bike and try to increase a little each week. I have a personal goal of -50 lbs on xmas morning. It looks bad but I plan on doing strictly no carbs this week only to get a spike. Don't worry I'll keep my Vitamins and Water up.

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I usually check twice a day too, in the morning and at night. If Iv dropped some weight, it often shows up before I go to bed, so I know Ill jump out of bed in the morning and weigh myself nude in the morning to see the new number.

As long as you dont obsess about the days when you dont drop, I see nothing wrong with weighing. I like to know and see it, it motivates me to stick to my diet. If Im feeling weak and want to grab something sugary, I jump on the scale to reinforce how good Iv done.

Some sources of Protein such as soy powder will make you feel hot and cold. Soy is what is in the over the counter medication for menopause. It does affect your tempeture if you are drinking shakes that have soy Protein in them. Its not your imagination.

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