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Hello All,

I am getting banded November 19th. I am very nervous. Not about the surgery, but about missing food.< /p>

Has anybody else gone through this mourning process. I find it logically rediculous to miss food, but I am really feeling some anxiety over what I am saying goodbye to. Any advise would be GREATLY appreciated. I don't know anyone else who is going through this, so I am glad to find this website!

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You don't need to miss food. That's a misconception. You will most likely be able to eat almost anything one year from now that you do now. You may not WANT to, but that's the point, isn't it? My doctor said SOME people have issues with white bread and/or stringy red meat. Some have issues with everything...but you need to remember that most people who post here are the ones having problems and seeking answers, not the ones for whom the experience is smooth sailing. There are bunches out there! My doctor told me his goal was for me to be able to eat ANYTHING if I wanted. He said: You'll eat up to about 1 cup of food, be satisfied, and stay that way for 5-6 hours. I want you to eat Protein first because it's very important. But no food will be off limits to you, if we do this right".

So don't be sad. Right now, food isn't really your friend, anyway. It got you here today, didn't it? You'll just have control. Many posters say they feel "freed" from food and obsessing over how much, when, where, diet, not to diet, etc..

It is common to be scared, to mourn it, but really, once you get through it, you'll think "Wow this isn't so bad". :cool:

Of course the preop diet (if you have to do one, I did, forever it seemed!) and post up until you are healed and back on food, is tough. But it's just for a short time and you can make it!

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Restless Monkey is right in that you should be able to eat eventually almost anything you want but it will be in smaller portions. I understand what you are saying though. It is an emotional break because the most lasting and sustaining relationship we have had all through our lives is food. I can remember most major events in my life and corrolate it to food. Just think positive. Think of it as a vacation from food. I have been banded two months and now when I think about food that I want to eat, I think in terms of the portion. Before my surgery, I would be able to eat a whole pizza. Now when I think about having pizza, I imagine a small slice.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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