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I am hating my job right now. the only thing good that I did today was go to my exercise class, and even that pretty much sucked (I have stopped liking the class and the whole time I was wishing I were doing another exercise I like better, but felt it rude to leave in the middle.)

I know it's a lot harder to lose weight when other parts of your life aren't going great. Right now I feel like the WLS is the only good thing going on- and that's on shaky ground.

I put a lot into my work (um, can we say workaholic?) but I changed positions this year and HATE it. I work for a small organization and there is no way I can move up or down or across, or anything. I will have to wait a full year... ug. And even then, I may not be able to stay at this particular job... we are seriously changing and the changes may result in my being out of a job if I don't do well at the position I VOLUNTEERED for and now HATE.

What do you think? how can I stay motivated when things seem to be falling apart?

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I'm really sorry you are having such a rough time. It sounds overwhelming! So much change, good and bad, can be stressful. While it sounds trite, can try to have faith that things will work out for the best and give yourself time to process everything that is going on? Also, there is no shame in seeing a counselor (if you can or are not already) to talk about stress management and depression. It can be so helpful to talk to someone and for me, it helps to work through some issues and helps me keep perspective.

Keep your chin up!!

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Just remember you only live once, no one ever went to their grave saying I wish i'd worked harder. Work is not everything, find a job that you like and with people that you enjoy. Congratulations on your weight loss. Hope everything works itself out soon.

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The good thing about the band is you don't have to be at the top of your game for it to work. Sometimes the band works 'in spite' of the bandster. Did for me many times.

Hang in and hang on! Better days are coming.

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Take each day as a new day... I completely understand how you feel... But I can't even get myself to the gym because I am so exhausted. I have dedicated over 8 years to my career and a company and I also now HATE most everything about my job right now. What I am trying to do is focus on the couple of things that I still take pride in (my effort, my ethics, and driving others to succeed) and to hell with the rest. I face losing my job on a daily basis due to the industry I am in but I figure if it happens then I guess that is fate's way of solving part of the problem for me. Whether I quit or get fired at least it will be a change..... And as the primary source of income in my home I can't really quit. Or I am too chicken.

I focus on what really makes my day--and not what makes it miserable. I work so I can live not live for work. I have an "A" personality and hate to lose at anything- it is a daily struggle for me to not let my work control everything. So I strive to instead of defining my success with my work I define it with LIFE. I can't wait to wake up and going to bed with the love of my life. The best part of my day is being at home and my work allows me to come to my home. I love how my cat HAS to be right next to me- on the couch or in the bathroom. As long as the 3 of us have each other-- it will be ok.

Grab your happiness....

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